Day 63, losing all hope :(

calm down bro if you are constantly checking your dick's hardness it will respond that way,,, continue your good fight and when you find a girl that you like and care everything will go just right

 

Hey Strekoza, I have PIED, and last year I went 110 days on hard mode. It wasn't until day 100 when I got hard when with a real girl. It was like being a teenager again, a moment of joy for me. So don't feel disheartened, you are on a good path. No need to check yourself, keep the faith and stay strong mate!

 

Firstly, From what I have read on this forum, PIED could take anywhere from 3 months (which is why a min of 90 days hard mode is recommended by many) to over a year to cure! So I think you need not to worry too much about that and keep at it!

Secondly, even though you have not said if you were PMO'ing before you started NoFap but I am assuming you did since you are on this forum . Your statement "but I am constantly feeling horny" suggests to me that this is your dopamine addicted brain which is now totally deprived of its dopamine hit, doing everything it can to get you back to P and fapping so it can get its hit! All the more reason to stay with the NoFap program till your P-addict neural pathways can fade!

Sharing my experience, I was experiencing complete flat-line but when it came to making love in real life I found that I did get erect just fine!

Stay strong and all the best!

 

Strekoza, no man! I am saying that it took me 100 days, but my PIED was healed for sure!*

So the message is be patient, you will heal. And don't be put of by weak boners on day 63 or even day 90. You will get there my friend!!

(*On a side note, I didn't handle the chaser effect afterwards which is why I relapsed to PMOing shortly after.)

 

@Strekoza Do you have fantasies? They may delay your healing

 

strekoza,
It seems to me that a large part of the cause of your ED is emotional. If your girlfriend cheating on you triggered it then that is where you need to start. Doing a reboot is awesome, but healing your emotional trama is also very important to this process.
My advice would be to get a journal and use it at least once a day. Write down exactly how you feel and why you think you feel that way. You should find that by getting it out from inside that you can see more clearly how to deal with it, and how your reaction to the situation is the primary concern over the situation itself. I'm not saying your ex didn't do wrong by you, but you are the one who is suffering from your reaction...not her. I know relationship stuff can be intense and horrific at times, but this is all part of becoming a mature well balanced man....which is what women are drawn to.

So, I would say work on yourself, and let the world decide when you are ready for another relationship. Going back to porn isn't going to fix your ED. I know it seems unfair and impossible at times, but once you make the progress you will look back and see that it wasn't as hard as it felt at the time, and it was certainly worth every minute of it if it leads to more freedom from compulsion and self loathing.

Don't look to your dick for your level of progress, look to your emotional state, and start there.

 

I am finding journaling an invaluable tool for getting to the root's of addictive behaviour.

 

I've been rebooting for 8 months now (relatively clean reboot) and I've only seen mediocre improvements with regards to ED. I know this may not be what you want to hear right now but the 90day milestone is a fallacy and is in fact damaging this community more than most people realize.

 

Keep at it like someone said to me the other day "what is the alternative"

 

Calm down. Until day 105 I had PIED and DE, and I have a girlfriend (I started to be nofap when I met her). last weekend spent together I was hard all the time and I came 3 times (and we did it 4 times).
I didn't do the hard mode and I had sex with my girlfriend in the meantime (initially with a million of problems).

First of all the improvements are not linear, second sometimes you will experience regressions. It's not finished until you healed.
Third the time one needs is different from person to person and eventually if you have a girl to whom redirect all your sexuality it will be improve faster. If you don't have don't worry: it means that you won't experience anxiety and frustration because you couldn't perform (feelings that she's understandingly going to feel too).
If you feel anxious and frustrated your dick is not going to work also. You're totally in the wrong state of mind. Keep your mind and your body in high activity and get plenty of sleep, and soon you will experience erections that are so hard that you will be amazed.