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Day 8

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Karegador, Oct 10, 2014.

  1. Karegador

    Karegador Fapstronaut

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    So I managed to get through the first 5 days without fapping. I went to start a new counter but accidentally reset the one I had. So I'm actually on day 8 without fapping.

    I gotta be honest, I'm feeling a mixture of pride at my accomplishment with a side of frustration. The frustration comes in two varieties. There is sexual frustration, I really, REALLY, want to get off but have managed to fend off the urge to fap my way to sexual satisfaction. Then there is personal frustration because I keep catching myself looking at porn. However the length of time it takes me to snap out of it and stop myself seems to be getting shorter.

    It doesn't help that I can barely walk due to blue balls but I'm determined to ride it out till my body takes care of the issue. I have tried certain excises to deal with the issue but thus far it does not seem to be working.

    I eagerly await the moment when temptation and desire to fap become less frequent and ultimately non-existent.

    Oh and what do I do when I want to start a new counter?
     
  2. jfats100

    jfats100 Fapstronaut

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    Go to your profile, click on the "About Me" tab, click on your Signature. There you will have the ability to modify your counter, reset it, or email the site-admin to help with problems.

    Also, I know this is a difficult process. Try to not think about sex as much. Usually it starts with thoughts in the head, they you're in front of the computer, and then all of a sudden, you're surfing porn. This has to be a full-on assault against your pesty habits. Stop thinking about sex, stop touching your dick, get away from the computer, and find some other things to do.

    Lastly, if you DO look at porn, that 100% constitutes a reset. Be honest with yourself.

    Good luck.
     
  3. Karegador

    Karegador Fapstronaut

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    Not to be confrontational jfats100 but there are a few things I'm going to point out because you seem to think I don't take what I'm trying to do seriously.

    1) Yes I agree that being at the computer less would help but it just isn't possible. You see I am taking a programming class there for all my homework requires the computer. Further more I am working on developing a program for my wife's boss. That aside, everyone, including me, carries a computer in their pocket. It is called a smart phone. Now I've been throwing myself into my homework and the project for my wife's boss which has really helped. So I don't see the computer as something to be avoided even if it is a vehicle for the habit.

    2) Not touching myself: I have not done that for eight solid days and I have the blue balls to prove it.

    3) Don't think about sex: Easier said than done when you have an extremely attractive wife. I'm not doing hard mode so I do think about sex with her because I'm not about to deny her or myself the joy of making love to one another. I can tell you the predictable times that I will be thinking about sex, my birthday, her birthday, the anniversary of our becoming a couple, our wedding anniversary and valentine's day. Aside from those there is whenever the mood just sweeps over us.

    4) As for me "lying to myself", I am not lying to myself. I know that I looked at porn and I ever strive to not do so. What I'm counting at this point is a day when I don't masturbate. I do reset the counter if I touch myself and if I don't catch myself with in a reasonable period of time. If I have gotten aroused I have failed. As counter intuitive as it may sound the fact that I am not masturbating is making things easier. Each day is easier for me to go without masturbating and porn is the vehicle that I use to masturbate.

    Originally I tried the approach of attacking the porn habit to stop the masturbation habit. That resulted in frustration and defeat after defeat. Not to mention the constant resets left me feeling hopeless which just fueled my masturbation. So the way I see it. I am still achieving my goal but differently from you.

    Do I see my 8 day success as a complete success? No, but I see it as 8 steps to complete success. I expect that by the time I reach day 30 I will no longer be catching myself looking at porn.

    Just one last point I want to making before finishing up here. If I were "lying to myself" I would not have made the post that I made. I would have said that I have been successful at not looking at porn. I hold myself accountable for looking at porn but there is something that I need to be proud of and that is not touching myself. Some people need to keep moral up to successfully stay in the fight. I am one of those people and my way of doing that is to feel good for each day that I go masturbation free. If I didn't do that I would, by now, have given up and be fapping away, feeling terrible about myself.
     
  4. jfats100

    jfats100 Fapstronaut

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    Maybe I didn't chose the right words. My post was not a personal attack on you. And I didn't say you're "lying to yourself". I recommended that you "be honest with yourself" - there is a difference in the syntax, allow some contemplation on the difference.

    I know you're taking this seriously. We all are, otherwise we wouldn't be here. I'm just trying to help.

    Also, you may want to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluate what this is all about. Based on what you've said so far, you're allowing porn in your life, but not masturbation? Of course, these are personal journeys we're on, but most fapstronauts would consider this to be completely backwards. I encourage you to do some more research on the horrible effects pornography has on your brain chemistry.

    Good luck.
     

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