Day 84 Fail

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Torakak

New Fapstronaut
So I started NoFap 84 days ago, going completely hard mode with it. I was doing fine and actually have improved and matured a lot over the days I’ve been doing it. However, I recently got Instagram and found myself exploring pages, knowing I’d see something inappropriate. While I didn’t see straight up P, I did see some nudity. So I’m resetting my day counter. It sucks, and the immediate reaction is to feel guilty or sad. But I need to keep improving myself and my life and keep moving forward. I still haven’t done any M, and don’t want to. I plan on doing more productive things in my free time rather than be on my phone. If anyone could offer any advice or share any similar experiences I’d never grateful. I was so close to 90 days, and it hurts a bit to know I failed. But it can only get better in the future. Thanks for reading.
 
It's a good experience, it shows you have room to grow and get better. Think about weakening that part of yourself that desires to sabotage your efforts. The more you turn away the weaker that part gets.
 
countitjoy5 said:
It's a good experience, it shows you have room to grow and get better. Think about weakening that part of yourself that desires to sabotage your efforts. The more you turn away the weaker that part gets.
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Yeah I’ve been working on that. I’m 19 and have only just recently realized how terrible my ways were. Moving forward with positivity is the only way to go.
 
Woah woah woah okay so we all have our own ideas of what counts as a relapse and a reset, but in my opinion this is not worthy of a reset. You may have set your rules yourself and you're going to abide by them and that's fine, but if all that happened was you saw nudity, that doesn't call for a whole new 90 day streak. If you didn't M or O, you barely did any damage to your 84 day streak at all. If I were you, instead of restarting, I'd just tack on another 30 days to the streak and go for 120 just so you can feel comfortable with your progress.
 
DingDong9876 said:
Woah woah woah okay so we all have our own ideas of what counts as a relapse and a reset, but in my opinion this is not worthy of a reset. You may have set your rules yourself and you're going to abide by them and that's fine, but if all that happened was you saw nudity, that doesn't call for a whole new 90 day streak. If you didn't M or O, you barely did any damage to your 84 day streak at all. If I were you, instead of restarting, I'd just tack on another 30 days to the streak and go for 120 just so you can feel comfortable with your progress.
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I really have a hard time allowing myself any wiggle room and put a lot of pressure on myself. I have these sort of obsessions that can’t go away if I don’t do things in a specific way or order. I see it as a reset because I knew what I’d find you know? I’m glad I didn’t do any more damage. But I know I won’t be able to be happy if I don’t reset. I’ve got to do this to improve I think. Thanks for putting it into perspective though. It’s different for everyone and I know others have it way worse.
 
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