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DE and Condoms

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Caveat Emptor, May 4, 2014.

  1. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    I've gone through a full reboot and started sleeping with a new girl a couple weeks ago. She's the first girl I've been with while not on PMO.

    Before my reboot, I couldn't cum with a woman at all. Now, with the new girl, I can cum via oral, but not vaginal. I think it's the condom, but am not sure. We've been using standard ENZ Trojans.

    Any advice?
     
  2. zky_n24

    zky_n24 Guest

    Other than trying without condoms?

    I cured my ED by abstaining from O for 30 days-ish, that made me kind-of pre-ejaculative when doing vaginal with my then girlfriend. But you say you've gone through a full reboot, and your banner also says 60 days, so I'm assuming it might not have anything to do with the PMO. Did you do it hardmode?

    Maybe it is the condom? (Either try different ones or try without?)
    Are you using enough lube/time? (Maybe you're not used to vaginal sex with condom?)
    Or maybe the problem lies within her? (kegel exercises? She might not.. be your "size"?)
     
  3. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    I haven't used porn since December 24th, at least 120 days ago. That's the reboot I'm referring to.
    I've MO'ed three times since then. No sex until I was with her a couple weeks ago. The last MO was 30 days ago. That's what's in the counter.

    I've only ever had vaginal sex with condoms. If she was on birth control, I would go bareback, but she's not at the moment. I've asked her about this but she said she can't afford it at the moment. Who is suppose to pay for birth control in a relationship???

    I plan on trying a variety of condoms. Something different until it works. We go at it for at least two hours, which she loves, but becomes frustrating for me when I can't finish. And then she feels guilty about it. By the end of two hours, the lube in the condom has dried up, so I plan on applying additional lube before I put the condom on next time.
     
  4. zky_n24

    zky_n24 Guest

    Trying different condoms is a nice plan of attack, try thinner ones!
    You could also try lubing both inside and outside of the condom, or making her arouse you in other ways.

    You've got to realize that you have to teach yourself how to orgasm with a condom on, try different positions, different angles, different speeds. Anything that can give you that extra kick really!

    Now for birth control.. You should talk to her. Though, rule is, if she says she won't buy/use it for whatever reason, you should probably let go and just use the condom. But try proposing that you buy them for her (Unless they're really expensive and you'd rather use condoms). Or you could look into your options of getting them for free, though that really depends on where you live, etc.

    Good luck man! :)
     
  5. baddoutrine

    baddoutrine Fapstronaut

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    try with other woman could be a alternative
     
  6. zaRick

    zaRick Fapstronaut

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    This is a terrible suggestion.

    Porn or not, I have always had difficulty with condoms. At one point in our marriage we were using condoms exclusively, and had to try a handful of things before we found right "fit" so to speak. We eventually settled on a band, and prefered a few drops of lube on my side.

    Basically, let her know what is going on and be reassuring it is not her. Ask if you can try a few different things out until you find what works for the both of you.
     
  7. Caveat Emptor

    Caveat Emptor Distinguished Fapstronaut

    Yeah, I'm convinced baddoutrine is trolling. I'm not taking him seriously.

    Her and I are both prepared to experiment with different things. Starting with additional lube on my side.
     

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