Deactivated my Insta account again, want your thoughts about that

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Aléxandros, Jun 14, 2021.

Have you got Insta?

  1. Yeah, but that isn't good for me (tell why)

  2. Yeah, but I'd like to uninstall it (tell why)

  3. Yeah, and I am ok with that (tell why)

  4. No, I don't want that crap (tell why)

  5. No, but i'd like to (tell why)

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  1. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

    I deactivated again my insta profile.

    Why?

    -I was spending 20 hours a week on it
    -I wasn't taking anything good from it, it just wasn't worth it
    -I saw too many perfect people in there, even though it doesn't affect me anymore
    -It has been a while since I wanted to disappear again for a while
    -I got distracted a lot from my shit and from my studies, I wanted more focus.
    -For all the bad reasons social media is bad, you already know them

    From time to time I just decide to disappear from the digital world for a while.
    Being present with close people I know.
    Every time I come back I am a very different person, let's give it a try.

    I plan to come back again when on vacation.
    Social media is important when on trips or vacations to meet new people.

    But for now, I only need focus and disappear for a while.

    What are your thoughts about that, or about social media in general?
    Tell me some of your experiences with them.
     
  2. I don't have insta and I don't want it
    I've never really seen a reason to download it, people just post random stuff from their everyday lives plus there's a lot of thirstbaiting going on so…
    and I have nothing to flex with myself so I can't upload anything on there
     
  3. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

    I used to post stories from time to time.
    I got a lot of followers.
    I usually wanted quality over quantity, and minimal stories over garbage ones, so I wasn't even drowned by overposting and obsessed with creating constant content.

    But yeah, I prefer using my time more wisely, life is only one.

    And yeah, too many people thirstbaiting as you say, too much narcissism on that platform, time to being alone and work on me for a while.
     
  4. cresyhorse

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    Insta is just a huge trigger if you ask me.

    Girls post sexy pics to get more validation and seeing those pictures can be lethal to our streaks .
     
  5. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

    Yeah, sure.
     
  6. D_rax

    D_rax Fapstronaut

    I deleted my Instagram, Facebook, and Reddit accounts one year ago this month. I had my Facebook account for 12 years, and insta and Reddit for years and years as well.

    Absolutely no regrets!

    Sometimes I see people scrolling through Instagram, and I genuinely get a bit nauseous. I probably wouldn't have been considered an avid user by most people's standards, but the dopamine hacking these companies do definitely worked on me.

    In fact, it worked on me so well that even though I haven't been on either of these platforms for almost a year, a couple days ago when I was stressed, lonely, and processing an urge, i without thinking about it went to my app drawer and typed in "I-N-S..." so that it would autocomplete and I could open up Instagram. Then, I noticed that I didn't have Instagram installed, so I started typing in "F-A-C...." to open up Facebook.... Then I paused and thought about what I was doing.

    It's been a fricking year!!!! And my brain is still hardwired to run to these companies when I want a hit of dopamine.

    It terrified me for the implications of PMO recovery. I pray my brain can be free from the ways I've screwed it up...

    But made me so thankful to not be have the option of giving into the temptation of social media ever again. As Seth Godin says, "one of the best things about not having a social media account is the fact you never have to worry about if you are spending too much time on social media" I couldn't agree more :emoji_laughing:


    My thoughts about it?

    Burn it all.

    I've had more dates this year since deleting my SM accounts than I've ever had in my life. I've gotten deeper relationships with new people than I've had in years. I've gotten out of the conspiracy theory crap that these platforms drag us into. I've read more books this year than in any other year I can recount. I've saved SO MUCH time from not being stuck in endless scroll vortexes.... And like was said above, w/o insta I don't need to worry about "porn fishing" my way from scrolling through Instagram models, to getting horny, and eventually leading into a relapse.


    Life is better without social media.
     
  7. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

    Lately, I reinstalled it.
    I found myself not using that much this platform, but I promised myself a thing:

    In September, when summer ends and there will no longer be the urge to share your vacations and get in contact with friends and girls you meet during your summer (I am still 18yo, so it's pretty important to me), I plan to get away from it for some time.

    It will be the time to focus on my studies, read as many books as possible and detoxicate myself from that crap.

    Lately, I have been using it only for 30 minutes in the evening, nothing too serious and it is pretty controllable.

    Let's see how it goes.
     
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  8. I only briefly used it years ago, I actually prefer sites where you say something - and not a little recorded video monologue that .. well, may not say much of anything but just seek attention. I was largely on there because of one girl that I actually knew in person who had a personal coaching business but lost touch with that and really nothing was going to happen with that situation so that was the extent of it for me. Actually I recall she dealt with recovery in her work and has personal experience with it as well, we all got something..
     
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  9. D_rax

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    Solid man. If you can get value out of it without getting sucked into it, good on you.

    For me, the value to cost ratio just didn't pay off for me. Any good I got out of social media was just as effectively emulated with other services (Email/Signal for communication, RSS for news/updates, Calendar app for birthdays), and the damage for me and my relationships was HEAVY. I'll never have another Insta/FB account again.

    But, if you can get value from it without it wasting your time/life, good on you! You're a stronger man than I am :emoji_smile:
     
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  10. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

    Yeah, I personally don't post that much.
    When I post a story, it's most of the time a photo I made, posted without any accessories on it.
    Or maybe a photo of mine, just to add something to the portfolio I think Instagram is.

    I use it more to get in touch with friends and new people.
    I don't follow any VIP or anyone famous that posts useless videos.
    It's my life and my friend's one, I only follow 200 people or more, and I know them all.

    I think Insta can help you with getting in touch with girls.
    And having a great feed when messaging them, can help you a lot.
     
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  11. Aléxandros

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    Maybe it could be related with your age.
    I think these socials aren't that interesting for a man in his thirties, as it would be for a person of my age.

    You could get more from real life at the age (by working, travelling, meetings, and all other activities) than maybe I could.

    So I can agree with what you said. For elderly people there isn't much to do on those platforms, better to work on your business or real-life interactions, who are easier to get in a world where people in their thirties aren't that much on socials, but in the real world.
     
  12. D_rax

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    I've actually really appreciated dating without Insta or any social media. I don't come into meeting a new girl with any preconceptions, and neither does she. She can give her first impression herself, instead of me pre-judging her based on her past photos, and i can be confident she's also not pre-judging me based on something I shared 4 years ago.

    I definitely appreciate what you're saying — I used İG for meeting girls in the past, too.... But I much prefer the old-fashioned way
     
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  13. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

    me too! I am old fashioned too.

    But how old are you? Were my theories correct? 30yo or so?
     
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  14. D_rax

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    Did you ever get a chance to watch The Social Dilemma on Netflix? İt came out after I did my social media purge, but was a big confirmation for me that I made the right choice. İf you haven't seen it, I recommend it. It does a good job of showing how effectively tech companies make us live through our screens instead of through our real lives.

    I don't think I've ever been called elderly before :emoji_joy:. Usually that's reserved for people in their 60s and older :emoji_laughing:.

    But you may have a point. İt's been a while since I was a teenager, and the world you're growing up in is a lot different than the one I grew up in. I didn't get Facebook till I was 18, and I didn't get a smartphone till I was 19, and even then it couldn't make video calls for another 3-4 years. So ya, I don't pretend to know the world you're growing up in.

    I think, all around, the most helpful book I've read about having a good relationship with social media (and tech in general) was Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. I highly, highly recommend it. İt's applicable not just for elderly folk like me (;)) but is a really great framework for figuring out what role you want any piece of technology to have in your life.
     
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  15. D_rax

    D_rax Fapstronaut

    29 :)
     
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  17. Redemptionisrequired

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    It's all about FOMO, Instagram (social media in general) gives you the idea that if you're not on it you're missing something. I literally downloaded insta for the first time when I was deep in porn addiction, it can be crack in terms of dopamine hits. Besides, people post filtered snapshots of their life, as if it's perfect. You're better off without it, especially considering you just gave yourself back 20 hours of your life a week.
     
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  18. PanteriMauzer

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    Im ok with my insta because i only follow people i know , and there are some cool stuff at insta
     
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  19. Aléxandros

    Aléxandros Fapstronaut

    I can say I watched the docufilm and I've even read Digital Minimalism.
    Applying those principles every day.
     
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