Dead dick and sex with gf

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SaiyanWarrior, Feb 13, 2021.

  1. SaiyanWarrior

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    So I've been dating a very nice girl for some months now and I've been avoiding sex for some weeks but last week we were all alone and we ended up doing it and my dick didn't even get up. It god hard for 10 seconds then went down again, other times it was onli 60% hard, not enough to penetrate. I told her I was tired and sleepy but I lied. I'm so depressed. Years and years of PMO didn't even allow me to have a wonderful moment with my gf. Of course girls don't say it on face but she must be thinking that I'm not man enough and that I'm impotent. PMO has robbed me of the pleasure to have sex and on top of that I've been relapsing every 3rd day for years even after getting a gf. Pleas help. WHAT CAN I DO ?
     
  2. blacklabel92

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    ur only option is to try you best to make it past 3 days bro. pmo is the ultimate problem, until u fix that, nothing will change.
     
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  3. SaiyanWarrior

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    I guess that's the only option but I've been constantly failing at that for years. My life is not stagnant but it is getting even backwards in terms of development and progress. Maximum I can go is 7 days. Super depressed, don't know how will things change, don't know what to do.
     
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  4. radhouane

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    any addiction when you wanna stop it , always hard , depression many bad feeling but when you finally stop it you will start feel better , i feel you know this truth
     
  5. SaiyanWarrior

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    That's what I'm trying to do for years and I'm always losing
     
  6. Falcon 003

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    I would say first go talk about it to her and tell her that PMO is the cause and there are many studies proving it.
    And tell her that you have to abstain from PMO at least for 9months and achieve that goal you can do it pal don’t worry.
     
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  7. Choose b/w pmo and your gf. You cant have both of those at the same time. Choose pmo, youre girl will leave you. Choose your gf, leave pmo and live a healthy sexual life.
    Abstain for 90 days for porn and masturbation.
    Good luck. :)
     
  8. radhouane

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    try with me this time i m on day 2 i will reach 180 day , just take courage this time and honest yourself and blocker for porn sites , send me message everyday you reach it i m doing it already with friend from hear we can make it bro
     
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  9. onwards_upwards_1

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    Come on man you can do this! You say you can never get past three days... That's because you are telling yourself that you can't get past three days! Evrytime those three days are up your brain is saying 'oh cool it's time to watch porn again because we've already entered that agreement where we watch porn every 3 days'. Lose that mindset! Each time you begin a streak you are already defeated because on some level you've already decided that in a few days you'll releapse again. Quit that!

    Isn't this experience all the motivation you need to stop watching porn? You have a girl who likes you enough to want to have sex with you...that's more than a lot of people on these forums can say! Even if it all goes bad from here beause of your PIED, use that! Use that frustration and anger. Stand up and get mad. Say, not anymore. Make dam sure that the next time you meet a nice girl (and there will be a next time), that your body and mind are ready.

    I know this is all easier said than done. I know addictions very well. But the bottmline is that it's all a choice. If this relationship fails because of your PMO addiction, you get to choose whether you let the sadness and regret fuel a deeper dive into porn addiction, or let it fuel the start of your recovery!

    Come on. Snap out of it. Take responsibility and take control. You got this!
     
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  10. ISOhappiness

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    IMO don’t tell your GF about your PMO problem. Most girls don’t want to hear about. It creates insecurities. Time to man up and get to 10 days. Those first couple weeks are difficult but you reach a point after that where you cruise for a bit and get real results
     
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  11. SaiyanWarrior

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    Ok
     
  12. SaiyanWarrior

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    Let's do this.
     
  13. SaiyanWarrior

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    Indeed bro. It's about time already.
     
  14. m.kalipto

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    In addition to the suggestions above of stop consuming porn, try also to focus on healthy food that improves the sexual life,
    I just googled something and here is an example: https://www.healthline.com/health/7-foods-enhance-your-sex-life

    It won't do the magic, but anything could help here..
    Good luck -- wish you the best!
     
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  15. SaiyanWarrior

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    Thank you brother. Didn't know apples could treat ED. Nice link
     
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