Dealing with Bullies, Negative people having self worth and self esteem

robs66

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Hey all

I'd like to open an discussion about dealing with bullies & negative people. Quite often now days bullying is not physical but more emotional and social.

A recent situation was I have a so-called friend and when we are alone he is fine but in a large group setting he becomes an arse and always tries to make jokes at my expense making me loose value for my self and to the people in the group and sometimes other people join in. Recently he started again and I snapped back without getting angry and we just got in a constant match where we was going back and forth which I didn’t really like but i felt better than allowing him take the piss out of me.

it would be easy to get extremely aggressive or violent in these but that i seen often does more harm than good

I notice with NoFap i'm realising these microaggressions and calling people out for them rather than letting them slide and let things build up

Do you guys have any similar situations and advice?
 
Hey man,

I know what you mean everytime i have done nofap for a few days first 2 to 3 weeks i will get angry quite fast, might be my body being unbalanced from the abstinence or whatever i don't know.

I don't know how good friends you are with the so-called friend but it might be better if you don't be around him so much anymore if he keeps making jokes at your expense. Sure friends make stupid jokes about you sometimes but if he does it a lot i would not stick around him for much longer, especially if he makes you feel less valued that is not what friends are supposed to make you feel.
 
I notice with NoFap i'm realising these microaggressions and calling people out for them rather than letting them slide and let things build up
nofap is making you stand up for yourself after been bullied. For me that is great. Always have a better comeback to throw at them, always be playfull and fun. Don't let them get under your skin, that is what they are looking for. if you don't lent them, eventually they will stop doing it.
 
Hey man,

I know what you mean everytime i have done nofap for a few days first 2 to 3 weeks i will get angry quite fast, might be my body being unbalanced from the abstinence or whatever i don't know.

I don't know how good friends you are with the so-called friend but it might be better if you don't be around him so much anymore if he keeps making jokes at your expense. Sure friends make stupid jokes about you sometimes but if he does it a lot i would not stick around him for much longer, especially if he makes you feel less valued that is not what friends are supposed to make you feel.


Yeh it does give you that mental clarity and aggression to defend your self better.

With this guy he will target and spend the whole time doing this. I'm not sure why probably because he wants to be centre of attention or the loud one in the group. I have a lot of friends and different social circles normally with friends we joke about but it seems more natural and i never feel like crap.
 
nofap is making you stand up for yourself after been bullied. For me that is great. Always have a better comeback to throw at them, always be playfull and fun. Don't let them get under your skin, that is what they are looking for. if you don't lent them, eventually they will stop doing it.

I notice NoFap helps me become less passive and i can respond back quicker which is helpful. Last night in a long time i got back at him appropriately and called him out for his behaviour which struck a cord with him.
 
Why do you hang out with this guy?

Anyone that feels the need to belittle someone for the sake of making themselves feel better is a very weak and insecure person.

If you have any sort of self worth, you would invest your energy with better people. People that raise you up rather than try to hold you back.
 
Why do you hang out with this guy?

Anyone that feels the need to belittle someone for the sake of making themselves feel better is a very weak and insecure person.

If you have any sort of self worth, you would invest your energy with better people. People that raise you up rather than try to hold you back.

He's just lives around the corner and part of the circle of friends. Sometimes he's hard to avoid as i'm cool with most of the other people
 
Hey all

I'd like to open an discussion about dealing with bullies & negative people. Quite often now days bullying is not physical but more emotional and social.

A recent situation was I have a so-called friend and when we are alone he is fine but in a large group setting he becomes an arse and always tries to make jokes at my expense making me loose value for my self and to the people in the group and sometimes other people join in. Recently he started again and I snapped back without getting angry and we just got in a constant match where we was going back and forth which I didn’t really like but i felt better than allowing him take the piss out of me.

it would be easy to get extremely aggressive or violent in these but that i seen often does more harm than good

I notice with NoFap i'm realising these microaggressions and calling people out for them rather than letting them slide and let things build up

Do you guys have any similar situations and advice?

Trust me bro, if you NF long enough you won’t be bullied anymore and you will gain self esteem.
 
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