Dealing with high libido. Sick and tired of it

SirQwerty

SirQwerty

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I'm really sick and tired of my libido given I don't want to indulge in it. For me it's not as much as a p*rn issue as it is an imagination/fantasy problem.
It's gotten to the point where I hump my pillow every night. How embarrassing...
I understand this is common given my age (19), and it probably doesn't help that I'm stressed most times and always working. However, I wanted to see if anyone deals with something similar and how they deal with it.
I'm really starting to hate my high sex drive. I don't want to be horny, I just want to be happy.
Thank you, not easy to find support on this journey.
 
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My advice to you is have a wank but try a bit of pure organic cooking coconut oil on your cock. be careful with this advice though! Coconut oil has yeast in it so go small and you can always up how much you apply carefully if it doesn't help.

When I get crazy horny it calms me down, even made me blow my load slower.

If coconut doesn't help try pure organic cooking olive oil BUT! Be careful Olive oil has more yeast in it.

Don't keep applying these methods every single day though the yeast will build up. ONLY use it when your super horny making sure you have breaks from it.

Hope this helps, reply back if you want about it
 
Beeko said:
My advice to you is have a wank but try a bit of pure organic cooking coconut oil on your cock. be careful with this advice though! Coconut oil has yeast in it so go small and you can always up how much you apply carefully if it doesn't help.

When I get crazy horny it calms me down, even made me blow my load slower.

If coconut doesn't help try pure organic cooking olive oil BUT! Be careful Olive oil has more yeast in it.

Don't keep applying these methods every single day though the yeast will build up. ONLY use it when your super horny making sure you have breaks from it.

Hope this helps, reply back if you want about it
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Thank you for responding! The thing is, I'm doing semen retention and trying to abstain from masturbation as well. I used to think masturbating and org*sm would help, but it's only made me feel hornier and more guilty.
 
Most on this site would say they have a high libido, hence the addiction to PMO. My suggestion would be to find a healthy person to have a nice relationship with and have sex. The only way I could keep my libido in line was to have sex often with a loving partner.

Best of luck,
Nomo
 
nomo said:
Most on this site would say they have a high libido, hence the addiction to PMO. My suggestion would be to find a healthy person to have a nice relationship with and have sex. The only way I could keep my libido in line was to have sex often with a loving partner.

Best of luck,
Nomo
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Wish it was easy or else I would try but I've always fallen at the hurdle of getting to know someone via texts. I'm not confident enough to go to a bar/restaurant its too intense for me and anyway I have learning disabilities, ADHD/OCD making those initial meet ups VERY difficult.

I'd love to wave a magic wand and hook up with someone but magic does not exist on Earth for me and never will.
 
nomo said:
Most on this site would say they have a high libido, hence the addiction to PMO. My suggestion would be to find a healthy person to have a nice relationship with and have sex. The only way I could keep my libido in line was to have sex often with a loving partner.

Best of luck,
Nomo
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I'd wager the majority of guys on here are nowhere near being able to get into a relationship or have sex. I'd go even further than that and say many men on here can't even imagine being in a relationship or having sex with anyone. I know you mean well with this but you may as well be saying "Homeless? Just buy a house!" when you give this advice.
 
Beeko said:
Wish it was easy or else I would try but I've always fallen at the hurdle of getting to know someone via texts. I'm not confident enough to go to a bar/restaurant its too intense for me and anyway I have learning disabilities, ADHD/OCD making those initial meet ups VERY difficult.

I'd love to wave a magic wand and hook up with someone but magic does not exist on Earth for me and never will.
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Yeah this is partly why I've never dated anyone or even made a serious attempt to. Being in public, specifically in large crowds or noisy places, makes me extremely anxious to the point I can't think clearly and it only seems to get worse the older I get. The world is not kind to people who act in any way outside of social expectations and any pretense that people actually support those who do, or those with mental illness is a load of horseshit. I'm not diagnosed with anything but I'm just "weird" enough that people are often put off by my personality, and when you combine that with general insecurity my confidence when it comes to dealing with people is at rock bottom. People who actually date others and have sex with them may as well be aliens to me.
 
Get a punching bag and hit the ever loving shit out of it until you're too tired to be in the mood. Only a matter of time until you're a crazy street fighter bunching your way to new adventures.
 
SirQwerty said:
I'm really sick and tired of my libido given I don't want to indulge in it. For me it's not as much as a p*rn issue as it is an imagination/fantasy problem.
It's gotten to the point where I hump my pillow every night. How embarrassing...
I understand this is common given my age (19), and it probably doesn't help that I'm stressed most times and always working. However, I wanted to see if anyone deals with something similar and how they deal with it.
I'm really starting to hate my high sex drive. I don't want to be horny, I just want to be happy.
Thank you, not easy to find support on this journey.
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You don’t have a high libido. You’re just a normal 19 year old. That’s what it sounds like.

A question tho, to better understand your situation: what do you mean by “you’re always stressed out”? That might be your trigger…that makes you sexually obsessed into always thinking and fantasizing about a sexual release.
 
Bradziggler1990 said:
You don’t have a high libido. You’re just a normal 19 year old. That’s what it sounds like. A question tho, to better understand your situation: what do you mean by “you’re always stressed out”? That might be your trigger…that makes you sexually obsessed into always thinking and fantasizing about a sexual release.
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I work a lot, I'm either working at my job, in my classes, or doing yard work projects or helping around the house. I don't get many breaks, and when I do, I get restless and feel like I'm wasting time and could be getting something done. However, I'm very grateful for the job I have as it is putting me on track me for my career path by giving me valuable experience, and though I feel like I'm burning out, I'm learning to push myself.
 
SirQwerty said:
I'm really sick and tired of my libido given I don't want to indulge in it. For me it's not as much as a p*rn issue as it is an imagination/fantasy problem.
It's gotten to the point where I hump my pillow every night. How embarrassing...
I understand this is common given my age (19), and it probably doesn't help that I'm stressed most times and always working. However, I wanted to see if anyone deals with something similar and how they deal with it.
I'm really starting to hate my high sex drive. I don't want to be horny, I just want to be happy.
Thank you, not easy to find support on this journey.
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When you get horny do pushups and situps. Do as many as you can. Check to see if still horny. If still horny, repeat.
 
Are you a late bloomer for puberty? I didn’t go through puberty till late in my teens and was horny as hell 24/7. It’s a normal thing.

Back then I used to watch porn and jerk all the time but if I could go back in time I’d try to swap it for working out and doing activities which benefit your life. Go for a run or a walk. Even if your horny whilst walking or running you’ll be unlikely to show your sausage off in public

Tbh I still have a very high libido. Even with a partner it’s a struggle because her libido has decreased over the years. I could go all day if I had the chance but I can’t do so I look for other activities.
 
UnholyConfessor said:
I'd wager the majority of guys on here are nowhere near being able to get into a relationship or have sex. I'd go even further than that and say many men on here can't even imagine being in a relationship or having sex with anyone. I know you mean well with this but you may as well be saying "Homeless? Just buy a house!" when you give this advice.
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We should make that question a poll. Are you in a sexual relationship now, Yes or No. If I can figure out how to do that, I'll ask that question.
 
Beeko said:
Wish it was easy or else I would try but I've always fallen at the hurdle of getting to know someone via texts. I'm not confident enough to go to a bar/restaurant its too intense for me and anyway I have learning disabilities, ADHD/OCD making those initial meet ups VERY difficult.

I'd love to wave a magic wand and hook up with someone but magic does not exist on Earth for me and never will.
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Sorry that you are having these problems. If it makes you feel better, it was never easy! Although I do feel like I had good luck when it came to finding women in my life.

I know some people with ADHD/OCD who struggled with relationships and other things, but through counseling and MEDICATION they were able to find partners that were right for them. So don't give up, there is someone out there for everyone, including you.
 
SirQwerty said:
I don't get many breaks, and when I do, I get restless and feel like I'm wasting time and could be getting something done.
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I know what it’s like.

When I was your age, I was working a part time job, full time school, and full time volunteering at my church in ministry.

It may be the case for you that you deem (in your mind) it fit to have sexual release as the reward for yourself at the end of much laborious work…idk for sure, but it could be given your situation…

Just to be clear, being productive and engaged in much diligent and fruitful activity as a young man is very good. It’s much better than wasting time on pointless activities or just too much recreation. So it sounds like you’re getting your future set up for yourself, which is awesome! Keep at it!

Now, what you have to do in order to properly diagnose your obsessive behavior is to (1) identify at which time of the day it happens, (2) what is it usually in response to, and (3) what other restful or healthy activity you could substitute for just fantasizing and jerking off in bed.

The options are endless. But an example of such, Especially if it’s when your in bed falling asleep, are just meditation apps or any kind of audio you can listen to that is serene and calming that could help you fall asleep and not fantasize. That’s just an example. Of course, you would need to properly diagnose the root of your problem before just addressing the symptoms.

just my 2 cents.
 
Bradziggler1990 said:
I know what it’s like. When I was your age, I was working a part time job, full time school, and full time volunteering at my church in ministry. It may be the case for you that you deem (in your mind) it fit to have sexual release as the reward for yourself at the end of much laborious work…idk for sure, but it could be given your situation… Just to be clear, being productive and engaged in much diligent and fruitful activity as a young man is very good. It’s much better than wasting time on pointless activities or just too much recreation. So it sounds like you’re getting your future set up for yourself, which is awesome! Keep at it! Now, what you have to do in order to properly diagnose your obsessive behavior is to (1) identify at which time of the day it happens, (2) what is it usually in response to, and (3) what other restful or healthy activity you could substitute for just fantasizing and jerking off in bed. The options are endless. But an example of such, Especially if it’s when your in bed falling asleep, are just meditation apps or any kind of audio you can listen to that is serene and calming that could help you fall asleep and not fantasize. That’s just an example. Of course, you would need to properly diagnose the root of your problem before just addressing the symptoms. just my 2 cents.
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Thank you, really appreciate your response! It's really only at night or early in the morning I get the urge and act on it. I charge my phone in another room at night, and it has a blocker to where I can only use certain app, so it'sreally a mental issue at this point.
I probably need to get back to listening to Bible meditations at night and that could help. I know loneliness is another issue for me, as I'm very busy and don't fit in or have time for too many other people. I'm starting to get used to it and be content with my situation and rely on The Most High more, but again, it's bedtime when those feelings get the best if me so I just have to keep fighting. Thank you again, I'll try your advice
 
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