Dealing with Loneliness and Stress

[FPRA]

Hello,

I am 20 years old and I have been masturbating since around 13. I have energy problems due to decreased adrenal capacity and that usually triggers my relapses. Throughout HS I would use A LOT of porn but since getting to college last fall I have been really trying to stop. I have realized how disgusting it makes me feel.

The only way I have found that prevents me from using porn is an intense focus on school. When I am really concentrating on assignments and constantly hanging out with friends, it is pretty easy to abstain. Whenever I don't have friends around or experience a very physically demanding or mentally stressful event I look for something to re-stimulate me and that is often porn. My issue is that during summer/winter breaks I fall back into old habits because I don't have as much school and my HS friends live far enough away that I cannot constantly hang out with them.

I am trying to make myself busy with a job and 6 credits, but I just don't have the same social life and I have been relapsing quite a bit. I have never been in a relationship and my loneliness is a trigger. I want to try and be clean before I actually go into a relationship because I don't want a relationship that is solely based off of not being lonely but instead on actually admiring the other person.

I would love any advice from others who are lonely and/or have medical issues that contribute to relapses.

 

[Deleted Account]

Hello,

I am 20 years old and I have been masturbating since around 13. I have energy problems due to decreased adrenal capacity and that usually triggers my relapses. Throughout HS I would use A LOT of porn but since getting to college last fall I have been really trying to stop. I have realized how disgusting it makes me feel.

The only way I have found that prevents me from using porn is an intense focus on school. When I am really concentrating on assignments and constantly hanging out with friends, it is pretty easy to abstain. Whenever I don't have friends around or experience a very physically demanding or mentally stressful event I look for something to re-stimulate me and that is often porn. My issue is that during summer/winter breaks I fall back into old habits because I don't have as much school and my HS friends live far enough away that I cannot constantly hang out with them.

I am trying to make myself busy with a job and 6 credits, but I just don't have the same social life and I have been relapsing quite a bit. I have never been in a relationship and my loneliness is a trigger. I want to try and be clean before I actually go into a relationship because I don't want a relationship that is solely based off of not being lonely but instead on actually admiring the other person.

I would love any advice from others who are lonely and/or have medical issues that contribute to relapses.

Actually brother Loneliness I s becozz of when we watch too much porn...Then we face that kind of problem.Before nofap i had been facing the same problem...But now everything is okkk....Avoid Porn completly.....

 

[Deleted Account]

Hello,

I am 20 years old and I have been masturbating since around 13. I have energy problems due to decreased adrenal capacity and that usually triggers my relapses. Throughout HS I would use A LOT of porn but since getting to college last fall I have been really trying to stop. I have realized how disgusting it makes me feel.

The only way I have found that prevents me from using porn is an intense focus on school. When I am really concentrating on assignments and constantly hanging out with friends, it is pretty easy to abstain. Whenever I don't have friends around or experience a very physically demanding or mentally stressful event I look for something to re-stimulate me and that is often porn. My issue is that during summer/winter breaks I fall back into old habits because I don't have as much school and my HS friends live far enough away that I cannot constantly hang out with them.

I am trying to make myself busy with a job and 6 credits, but I just don't have the same social life and I have been relapsing quite a bit. I have never been in a relationship and my loneliness is a trigger. I want to try and be clean before I actually go into a relationship because I don't want a relationship that is solely based off of not being lonely but instead on actually admiring the other person.

I would love any advice from others who are lonely and/or have medical issues that contribute to relapses.

Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you create a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges and triggers. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!

 

[dangon master]

wow man you have found your trigger that when you are busy in school or in your work you are ohk and fine but when you are at vacation you are about to relapse so this is the trigger no we have to find the replacement let me share you my experiance may it help you i was in college i was fine going good on nofap but college ended and i started my startup where i make education videos from home no friends no one me alone at home in my personal bed room and guess what my work was also on internet how i deal with it even after completing my college i gone to college for 6 months hiding from everyone and sit in the library and study use nofap and do my work after 6 month i was able to work from home alone so this is how i handle this and i love your atitude that you dont want a relationship to get ride of your lonliness but you want it to admire your partner you have a good and kind person inside your buddy have a nice day