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Dealing with weird urges

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Dingping, Mar 26, 2020.

  1. Dingping

    Dingping New Fapstronaut

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    Actually I am new to this, i never had issues earlier. I used to fap daily. But to imagination never used porn. What effect would have it done?
    Also since then, i tried to reduce and for some days I have been successful. But nowadays, my gf talks dirty all the time, on texting and calls. Which gives me boner. And an urge. I am able to fight the urge, but will it affect my recovery?
    I am thinking to start edging once a week to increase my sexual stamina as well. Kindly guide me on all. Its urgent.
     
  2. cr7da8055

    cr7da8055 Fapstronaut

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    No, it won’t work.
    My longest streak was 143 days, and recently I completed a 33 day streak with edging. Tbh, I didn’t experience anything good at all with the 33 day streak,it was similar to me fapping everyday. It’s better that you try to fight urges,or maybe talk to your girlfriend about this,I’m sure she’ll be fine with it. Use this time to develop something better in your relationship emotionally.
    Peace!
     
  3. Don't edge, you are spoiling your dopamine system with that. Also, today or tomorrow, it will lead to relapsing. So don't do that.
     
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  4. Dingping

    Dingping New Fapstronaut

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    But, getting a boner or urge is okay right if you somehow see something on the internet or a picture. Until I am able to fight this urge ?
    Like seeing a movie or some series i get a boner or urge to fap. But I am able to control and I am on day 15 today so, is it okay to have that urge?
     
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  5. Yes, it's okay to have that urge. You have to control it, because that's what we're learning right? We are learning that we will only fap when we want to and not according to our urges.
     
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  6. cr7da8055

    cr7da8055 Fapstronaut

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    It’s fine to have that urge, as long as you do your best to stay away from it. See the more you keep hinting your brain that pmo is in the corner, you’ll end up fapping anyway. Stay strong!
     
  7. My advice would be this: why are you fighting PMO? Is there ANYTHING that is worth risking your lapse back into PMO?

    If you can answer those two questions, you can begin to figure out where exactly you stand in regards to this fight and how best to meet those goals.
     
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  8. Big man bazu

    Big man bazu New Fapstronaut

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  9. chancemx

    chancemx New Fapstronaut

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    Edging is basically you masturbate and get really close to orgasming, but do not orgasm. It's a method to increase sexual stamina. I tried edging during my first attempt to rebooting and I did end up resetting. With the rise of dopamine levels, it's too much of a temptation to orgasm so it's safer all together to not do this. My girlfriend has been patient with us having to take breaks inbetween and we will usually do some sort of foreplay to make up for it until I feel less sensitive and good to go again.
     

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