Death Grip and PMO

hey there donkey, im in similar position as you, I've always wonder what was wrong with myself, short relationships and long ones, but have never been able to O even when they give me HJ, BJ or intercourse....

I just want to enjoy sex as much as M or more i hope one day.

Stay strong brother we will get through this.

 

Im on the same boat as you both.

Had de forever only reached orgasm once in my sexual life.

I stopped before christmas reaching about 35 days and i noticed improvement but i relapsed after the curiosity got the better if me so starting fresh.

Will 90 days help? No idea but i have tried many things to no success.

I get extremely sensitivity after i ejaculate so it is there. Failing this i might try anti anxiety meds. I dont feel anxious but i always get the sensation i have to do a good job when performing

 

You guys need to reboot. May take more than 90 days.

 

I'm in same boat but I'm female. Deffo given myself the female version of death grip! And got in the habit of fantasising or porn whist M and now can't reach O without it. Which is a real shame coz i used to O just from sex in my pre-desensitized days. I'm doing hard mode aiming for 90 days. And then a lifelong ban on FMO & PMO for me! Best of luck to you I do believe it's reversible

 

were you a Death grip / DE sufferer ? i would welcome any advice

 

Hey man. I hear you. I can definitely reognize the death grip / delayed ejaculation porn addict symptoms (having to imagine porn things). You need to reboot. During my first reboot back in 2014 I abstained for 42 days and then I was able to O from BJs (impossible before) but sex remained pretty desensitizes. In the end I was able to O from normal penetration with condom on but I can't say it was super easy. You should abstain for a long time and not masturbate anymore under any circumstance.

 

It's not recommended because you might experience the "chaser effect" which pretty much is the urge to PMO the day after you had sex or after (especially if sex was successful because you might think you're cured when in fact you're not, and you'll immediately dive back into your death grip PMO habit and DE will strike back).

Funny name btw xD

 

If you want to try to speed up the recovery process you can also buy vitamin E oil, shea butter or cocoa butter (tho cocoa butter needs to be heated before it melts) and apply that on your penis. Those help heal the skin and nerves and regain sensitivity. It's nothing compared to a 60 day or 90 day NoFap recovery though. But you will figure out what works best for you.

 

Haha the classic brain trick. I was on day 14 of no PMO then was like sex doesn’t count I might be able to O this time since it’s been 14 days.... next day reboot!!!! This time 90 days no sex!!!. The chaser effect is too strong I was too week to fight it. Now I’m on day 2.

 

i tried having sex every 7 days during my last reboot. As was mentioned i too had urges the following day too bust one out. I managed to percivere through it until eventually curosity got the better of me and i was too into the moment and just had too release. This time no sex for aslong as i can but since i have become single i am looking forward to the dating scene slightly but ill keep that until Feb. At the moment im concentrating on the gym and 6 days a week im too exhausted to even try entertain "M" I have been using coco butter not specifically for my genitals but because im a big guy im trying to reduce any loose skin i may have during the weight loss. And hopefully in turn the training will give me a bit more of a boost in the tetesterone department.

 

I’ve heard coco butter is meant to be good for genital, but in what way? I’ve ordered some man 1 man oil to help restore sensitivity and restore whatever death grip has done to it. I use to use coco butter as a lube to masterbate, but it was starting to peel my skin for whatever reason