Defeating Insecurity with the Power of Friendship

(Not exactly a thread about porn addiction, but this is the forum it fits in best, as porn contributed to me developing this problem.)

The Problem:
I am rather insecure about my body. My physique, while fairly advanced, has not yet reached the flawlessness that some men my age have. My penis, while fairly large, has not yet reached the "optimal" size that some men my age have. This makes me very uncomfortable and insecure in my romantic/sexual abilities. I may be a more desirable mate overall, but my brain can't deal with the thought of my woman wanting something another man has more of than me.

(To clarify, I have a healthy view of women and relationships. I know physique and size are not the things women care about most. My brain just doesn't seem to care.)

The Solution:
I noticed a few days ago that, while aesthetic men I see online trigger my insecurities, my equally aesthetic friends do not. Why? I guess it's because I see the person behind the muscles, and I like that person.

This gives me an idea: If I can learn to view every man I see as friend, not competition, I might stop feeling threatened by them. Let's try it.

The Plan:
Phase 1:
Whenever I see a more developed man in public I will say to myself, "This is my friend Fred. He is cool and I like him." I will try to look at the person instead of the body. I did this today, and I think it worked pretty well.

Phase 2:
When I am comfortable with my ability to not feel threatened by men I see in public, I will start "resistance training" it. I will look up "sexy men pictures" or something on the internet, and I will force myself look at the people rather than the bodies.

Phase 3:
Once I become very good at Phase 1 and Phase 2, I will attempt the hardest task of all: undoing the penis size insecurity that gave me this complex. I will look up "big dick men pictures" or something on the internet, and I will force myself to look at the people rather than the bodies.

Conclusion:
The way I view other men is not natural, induced by faceless pornstars I saw on the internet as a child. I must return to the source of my insecurity and force myself to look at life the right way.

 

Doing pretty decent overall, but had some trouble with tall guys yesterday. I have no desire to be taller, but tall guys just seem more important than me to my silly brain. Will work on it.