Delayed ejaculation

And I'm bound to say that while DE was a real problem for ME, it was never the reason for breaking up. As I say, I got some sympathy, but in the end, they didn't really join with me in trying to solve it, which is what I always wanted

 

It's been 60 days and he still can't O from sex but he feels much more. He could not O from my hand or mouth though and he was able to do that two weeks after stopping. I've heard it can take up to 6 months to a year. You have to be patient and accept a lot of frustration sexually on your part. Don't use your hand at all. If you can't O from her than you don't O at all. We made that mistake or he did and it just prolonged things. It takes a long time for some. Think about how long you have been PMOing for? I suspect as well it's easier with the same sexual partner as you become more comfortable and she knows about your issues. If it's new partners all the time that's likely more challenging.

 

Yes he has a really bad case, and I think other non PMO factors contribute. There has been a huge increase in sensitivity and feeling. Like I said before I could give him oral sex or a hand job for hours and it would not make him O. Now he can in about 15 minutes and everytime. For him it is definitely baby steps. He has been only oing from his own hand for years, even in the relationships that he was in. He has had this issue his entire life, and the only time he recalls oing from intercourse is the first time he had sex, and it lasted like two seconds. He has all the DE strikes against him. He was raised in very conservative Country, where porn was grounds to send people to jail. It was so conservative he feared being jailed for rape if he touched or looked at a female the wrong way. His parents were very closed off about sex and made him feel ashamed. He is very sexually repressed. He is a very autonomous control freak. He is very set in his ways, and hard to change. He has been hurt a lot and has a very skeptical and negative view of women. He's emotionally unavailable, and always only had one foot in his past relationships. He's insecure about his body. He moed his whole life without lube. He's not circumsized and Moed in a way with his foreskin that sex does not replicate never could. He has anxiety, and I think a bit of ADD. He cannot focus during sex, he would be thinking and asking about what we were having for dinner, or what his cats were doing. He has a lower back injury that makes many positions impossible or short lived. Part of me thinks that many of these things were the reason he turned to PMO in the first place. Sex was not satisfying for him and all his prior exes never took the time to try to help. So I think PMO is a big cause for him, as it is for many men. However, I think that many men have DE that is also caused by a myriad of other reasons and it may be that that is just how their body works. I have had to accept that. I am okay if he os with me during other types of sex play and not intercourse, because I am not sure he will ever be able to do anymore. If he is doing everything he can to fix it, then that's all I can ask of him.

 

My opinion is that sex addiction and porn addiction are like food addiction. So yes you likely have to have some underlying issue to become addicted. Because everyone eats and most people have sex and are exposed to porn but not everyone gets addicted. I think food and sex addiction are part genetic makeup and part life experiences. Most have had some bad life experiences like abuse or trauma but not everyone that has that abuse or trauma turns to addiction some cope in a healthy way others don't. Most addicts at their heart lack coping skills but why? Is that genetics? I think most people have some sort of depression if they have a food or sex addiction but is that what caused it or did the addiction cause the depression? Like you said chicken or egg? I am not an anxious or overly sensitive person. Often times my partner or even some others I know will tell me about something someone did that hurt them and they are thinking about it 24/7. I would have never noticed it if someone did it to me and if I did I certainly would not still be thinking of it. Do they because they are overly sensitive or do they have OCD? Anxiety or are they just more sensitive. Many on here argue that porn is addictive to all who watch for a decent length of time. So to me they compare it to heroin or coke. If you force fed anyone heroin or coke they would get addicted to it it's not genetics it's a physical thing. Maybe porns like that too, it would be a good experiment forcing men to watch porn and MO from all backgrounds and see if they all got addicted. That being said we still miss one control factor which is choice. People that are healthy recognize when something is bad and either don't ever try it or try it a few times see it's not good and stop. They never get to the addictive level because it's not attractive to them. They have too many other things in life that they like to do more so they don't sit around and watch porn all day. Or maybe you try drugs but you say I don't like that or I do like it but I've got better things to do in life and doing this is putting those things at risk. It's like saying I love to eat but I see I've put on 30 pounds and I am unhealthy let me stop. As opposed to I just keep eating until I am 600 pounds. So I think there is a genetic predisposition to all addictions. I suspect that the majority of addicts do have some underlying issues that lead them to addiction. But I'm not sure that means you have a diagnosis of severe depression or OCD etc. However I do think we need to treat addictions of all type as diseases so with treatment and compassion rather than judgment and punishment. If in the US had free access to mental health and addiction counseling for all, and treated addicts with compassion I think we would have a lot less addicts.

 

I have read the circumcised men have a greater risk of ED. My partner is not circumcised so in his case it made no difference he still had DE. He also tried a lot of than man 1 oil and other products it did not help at all.

 

Man 1 is some sort of oil that's supposed to regain skin sensitivity. I believe he got it on Amazon and I've heard of guys using on here. It did not work at all. The problem is primarily in your mind. It would be much easier if a pill or cream could fix it but it can't.

 

I gotta tell you I don't think that with pmo addicts these things help or matter one way or the other. Because there are plenty of men that are not circumcised or are circumcised that have the issue. The key is to stop masturbating and using porn. My partner has fully intact foreskin and still has the issue. I think the general medical community says that circumsized men have less sensitivity because many of the nerves etc are in the fore skin that gets removed and because the head is not exposed all the time so when it is it feels more. Foreskin also provides natural lubricant. But many uncircumcised men do not MO with lube and develop a pattern of MO where they slide the skin over the head which sex will never replicate. I understand that you want to hit this from all angles but artificial foreskin weird or not is unlikely to do anything for you in terms of sensitivity. Just stop all MO and porn and be patient.

 

maan, my problem it's the opposite, i climax in 6 pumps, no kidding!
so don't feel bad about your problem...believe or not i wish that i had yours