Deleting my account

Deleted Account · May 31, 2020

I've decided I'm going to delete my account, this sub has been very helpful over the last few months to learn about how porn can effect your life . And I've enjoyed chatting on the forum , but that's just it, it's clear to me , that that's what I've been using this as a social forum , and my mind has been obcessed with porn and quitting porn , I find the forum for myself is just a dumping ground , like Catholic church and now I am absolved off my behaviour .

I've never had such a serious problem with porn until NoFap .

Half the time I come on the forum it's like a signal that leads me to thinking about porn . Before NoFap I usually just watched porn when I needed to . There's too much bullshit , I can stop watching porn like I have done many times in the past without even thinking about it , but to do so I think I need to delete my account .

How many of you have been more addicted since NoFap and struggled more and more with the concepts of being an addict and quitting . I've never considered myself an addict until NoFap infact my useage increased since NoFap

I think I'm just torturing myself with this NoFap shit . If I need to pmo once a month and feel no shame I don't see an addiction or anything wrong with it . The forum and the idea of sexual abstenance is only strengthening the need to do it.

Are we actually fighting against our brain with trying to quit and it fighting back , or should we just do it naturally without torturing ourselves , the less you think about porn the better,, NoFap will have you consumed thinking about porn

I mean monk mode who the fuck thinks that's actually something you should strive for , just do what you need to do naturally, I definitely think NoFap is only strengthening a toxic relationship

Awedouble · May 31, 2020

I think it mostly depends on how you think of it. In general there is a place for not thinking about it as much, and I think ideally maybe you can have an accountability partner(s) that's *aware* of the issue but is really just an overall friend and person you can talk openly with. It depends on our focus.

I don't feel it makes it worse for me as far as PMO, I think the social media addiction is another story though and would just need to be careful with that.

So yeah, for some people I think it may be a good move, but if you need any kind of social support there's just a question of how you'd get that, it doesn't have to be directly plugged in to a big forum.

And as far as the support, maybe you and some other people have good general support in life, maybe you can even talk to them about this stuff a bit and just be understood, not necessarily dwell on it. Then again there's the Loneliness section and that's another issue a lot of people have in the first place.

Of course I really feel like good recovery is about overall lifestyle and not just "don't do this one bad thing" or a few of them or something like that. A lot of it ends up being not being about PMO directly but does help with not being addicted to PMO.

Deleted Account · May 31, 2020

stegiss said: ↑

There are many ways to quit porn and what works for some must not work for others.
Monk mode is one way and it seems to work for many. (It does not for me though)
Internet porn addiction, to my understanding, is actually an addiction to consume new content in fast succession.
In this sense, it might indeed be that you get hooked by browsing the forums, feeding your brain with new information in fast succession over and over, until you finally are in a state that you want to consume porn and finish off for the day.
For me, it has worked in the opposite way: when I felt urges, I came to nofap instead until urges had passed.

If nofap is a trigger for you, you should not use it - agreed.
Many people on nofap have a non-normal relation to their sexuality - agreed (though I think the reason is their porn use or some experience in their childhood, not nofap)
Monk mode is not working for some - agreed.

From my perception, yours is a special case though and many others here draw strength to abstain from porn through nofap.
You might want to consider whether you actually have a (light/developing) internet addiction.
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Currently my addiction has been heavy has been for about 6 -8 months, usually if I watched so much porn I'd recognise that the behaviour is problematic and just avoid it or less frequently
, NoFap just seems to be a relief of any shame or guilt or even just to work out why I keep coming back and can't quit and it only seems to strengthen a bad relationship
That I'll do it and I'll just go to NoFap forum .

Before all this id watch porn a couple of times a week , but it wasn't a fixation , I'd recognise It if it was a problem and just take breaks , now I can pmo as much as I want and just go on the forum sure I'm searching for answers to the problem , but it was never really that much of a problem. There's nothing that happened to me in childhood that I can relate to porn use, my sex drive has always been high , I have ADHD and my gp told me my test level is in the 95th percentile , so I'm impulsive with a high test level.

So this could very likely be the reason why NoFap is a trigger for me so instead of naturally taking breaks I'm watching porn going to NoFap and checking out NoFap as social forum and the cycle just repeats itself

OhWhenThe · May 31, 2020

You could just not visit the site, I don't see why you need to delete your account as you never know when you might need to use it again.

I also feel more addicted since nofap but I think you're looking at it wrong, it's only when you try and stop a certain behaviour that you come to realise that actually it may well have a stronger hold over you than you originally thought. I don't actually think that having an addiction is necessarily a terrible thing but it depends how negatively that addiction is impacting your life. If porn had no unwanted side-effects then I'd happily carry on watching it but I know in my case at least I can't, maybe porn isn't messing you up as bad though so perhaps taking a step away from nofap will work better for you.

Good luck either way.

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