Depressed. Should I quit ?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by SaiyanWarrior, Mar 13, 2021.

  1. SaiyanWarrior

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    So, I've been PMOing for 6 years now and relapsing every 3 days for 2 years now. My brain is numb, cant feel any emotions or motivation. Decision making power is gone too, for eg I know spending lots of money on cabs and food delivery is waste and I need money for some important aspects in my life but I still can't stop. I keep laying on my bed sometimes quit work and do nothing. I want to get in shape but cant, no motivation. I AM VERY NUMB my friends. All sorts of physical and mental weakness I have now because of PMO. No one respects me even though I'm tall and good built. I am always frustrated and depressed. No sense of urgency I know what is important but I can't take any actions IDK why. Please guide me is this normal ? What should I do now even if i keep relapsing every 3 days. What to do ? i wanna live happily again but I'm so numb.
     
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  2. everydayitgetseasier

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    Hey man, seems like you already know the answer to your question so I wish you the best going forward with nofap. It can be very hard and it sounds like your brain is really taking control over you with the instant gratification, so conquering one area i.e. porn will help grow your ability to control urges for other instant gratification like food delivery etc. Its not going to be easy so do a ton of research about the benefits, science, success stories to really make yourself believe in what you're doing as you get started. You will never be able to do it if you don't believe, and if you truely believe deep down you will never relapse. The most important thing to research is the flatline, research it and then research it again. If you don't know what's coming you are going to think something is wrong and want to stop, do the research so you can be ready to face it. The great news is that the numbness/anhedonia WILL fade, you'll feel like you did as a kid in that regard, so much more present. Other things beyond porn that can cause that numbness are social media and anything with an internet feed like reddit or youtube, so look into quitting all of those alongside porn as that could also be playing a role. Stay strong man, feel the euphoria after 6-15 days, know thats what you are going to feel like after the flatline among other benefits, then muster all the grit you can and take it one day at a time. Everyday it gets easier.
     
  3. blacklabel92

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    ur numb because uve been cultivating yin energy by pmo. your energy should be yang/masculine and u can only achieve this by have natural p in the v sex and most importantly practicing semen retention. your feeling numb because ur spilling ur vital life force constantly, carving harmful pathways in ur brain. u need self control and discipline in ur life. that can only be obtained by doing everything in your power and i mean everything to not pmo. come up with mantras to help u when urges hit, most of this battle is mental so a good mantra helps. for example when u feel an urge u can repeat something like "instant gratification without work will kill me" over and over in ur mind until the urge goes away. it has to be something held in truth or it wont work.
     
  4. Bluedition

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    Maybe you should do a dopamine fast and cut back om smartphone use in general? I have felt very unmotivated lately, so I have been thinking of cutting back on smartphone use.
     
  5. aliggg

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    may i know your age?
     
  6. SaiyanWarrior

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    Thank you brother. Means a lot
     
  7. SaiyanWarrior

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    You're right.
     
  8. SaiyanWarrior

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    Do tell me how it went.
     
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  10. SaiyanWarrior

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    I just realized I'm in depression. I thought it was stress but its been a year or two. Guys how to deal with depression ? Can I overcome this alone or no fat gonna cure it too?
     
  11. aliggg

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    i think you should go hard mode for at least 6 months..then see how it changes, question wont help for now, just do it
     
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  12. This was what I was gonna tell you reading through this thread. I'm glad you came to that conclusion yourself. Take this seriously. Seek help. Start therapy. It is treatable with a good success rate.
    The longer you wait, the harder it gets. Please do not attempt to do it alone.
    It sounds like it has already been a problem for way too long.
    Sending you strength and healing, my friend.
     
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  13. SaiyanWarrior

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    Idk man. Some say NoFap will heal depression some say see a doctor. I'm going no where in life. No accomplishments no nothing.
     
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  14. Doing PMO for 6 years will have negative impact on your well being. Don't be surprised if your body takes at least 2 years to get back to normal. Semen is what oil to a car. Without it your system can't work properly as it should.
     
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  15. Liminal

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    I'm not the right guy to guide you through this, but I feel you man. I hope you get through it, all the best of luck.
     
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  16. wont get better if you quit
     
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  17. You know it is been 6 years of pmo so do 9 month nofap challenge bro
    i was addicted for 2/3 years and now i failed many times but i didn’t give up and i will never give up but the good thing for me i stopped porn now my no porn streak is +115 days and i think i have passed some flatline levels
    don’t stop and wait time to go to u reach 90 days
    90 days like just reaching without doing is equal 30 days with doing things like (studying/self-care/sport/walking) many more things
     
  18. if you interested make a teammate Fapstronaut u and him daily talk about your benefits that helped me too much
     
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  19. Why not do both? The one doesn't exclude the other. You can seek treatment for your symptoms of depression and still do NoFap on your own as kind of a supplement.

    There's no guarantee that either therapy or NoFap will be enough on its own. Every answer you find on the internet will be anecdotal evidence only. Case by case. Depression symptoms can be caused by all kinds of different things, even by physical problems such as tumors, neurological issues, chemical imbalances in the brain, thyroid issues, severe vitamin D deficiency, iron deficiency, etc.

    It's always a good idea to get a thorough check-up, at least blood work and if possible an MRI of the brain; which is what they usually should do before they get you a therapy plan anyway.

    However, none of this is stopping you from continuing doing NoFap on your own if you feel like pmo is at least contributing to your symptoms of depression. After all, the constant dopamine rushes from pmo are definitely able to cause chemical imbalances in the brain. But even on NoFap you might occasionally run into even more severe symptoms of depression during episodes of dopamine deficiency and flatline...

    See how complicated this is? Depression is serious and every suggestion other than "go see a doctor" is simply irresponsible. How much more of your life do you want to waste?
     
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  20. Slimjimjones

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    Build discipline, deprive yourself, and fucking do it.

    You wanna be a man? Then finish this right of passage, I only respect people that don't fail through determination. Hold yourself to those same standards.
     
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