Desensitivity to women by porn of transsexuals / sex with transsexuals.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Kev155, Sep 15, 2019.

  1. King Tut

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    ultimately, you're the only one who will know the answer in the end. if after NOFAP of 1 year or however long you withold, you will see and FEEL who you are most attracted to. if your TS fetish wins, embrace it. don't run away from it or it will only hurt you in the end.
     
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  2. Chappie77

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    I'm afraid only you can answer this question.
    And the only way your going to find out is by abstaining from all sexual activity, all porn, all images of sexy women, reject all thoughts and fantasies also.
    Do this for 90+ days and then see if you are attracted to real life women.
     
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  3. King Tut

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    agree minus the part to reject all thoughts and fantasies. i did this with TS after i got addicted to the porn and it backfired on me bad. i became completely numb and would have hard time getting turned on because it was my sexuality at the time. just do everything else but DO NOT suppress your sexuality. let your fantasies flow. whatever you fantasize on NOFAP, it is what you ultimately desire at this time. but that can always change. because as i said, sexuality is fluid. DO NOT FORCE IT IN ANY WAY TOWARDS ANY DIRECTION!
     
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  4. krdt

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    Had a date with a legit 9/10 the other night. I actually wasn't worried about having an O as I didn't expect that on a first date usually.

    Well I ended up taking her home for some serious bedroom action that night and again in the morning. So def don't have PIED which is a relief.

    Anyway she seems to have ghosted me. For what reason I'll never know, I thought it went well.

    Oh well least I got laid. Lol next.
     
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  5. ultrafabber

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    Sexuality is not fluid. Sexuality is about reproduction. Sexuality however can go down different and disturbing paths. There are even people aroused by cars.

    Trans fetish in particular is obviously porn induced as many here have already confirmed.
     
  6. King Tut

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    way to not understand a single word i said.

    not always. some guys get into it through experimenting with sex irl. those guys are more likely going to be in it for longer and may never change their 'fetish' unless they try something else that makes them more excited. this is because they have an actual experience and not just looking at pics.
     
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  7. Kev155

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    Idk mate but I have a 100% erection with some girls and I had a real good sex with them, and I choose girls and no transexual anymore, im doing no pmo im in day 10, and I cant stop thinking about to get sex with one of my friends (girl) who I got a really good sexual experience, but I dont want because I want to get good sex with any girl I choose, not only with a bit of them, any advice to complete the 90 days of no orgasm? (I dont see porn or masturbate anymore in my life but I think I need to no orgasm too at leats 90 days) day 10 and its hard I want to fuck a girl :c. Thanks for the replys my brothers, I really apreciatte. Blessings
     
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  8. hardowner

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    I don't know if the TS women you have sex are pre or post op, but you might be aroused by anal sex.
     
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  9. Kev155

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    What means pro or post op? Im peruvian my english is the basic only. I dont think that my fetish is a al sex, because when I enjoy the sex with girls I dont want to penetrate them in her ass, I enjoy doing sex with them in her pussies.
     
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  10. hardowner

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    Pre op is the TS that still has her male genital. Post op TS has surgically converted them into female.
    I've been in Peru in the past. Very few people spoke english there, but you speak quite well...
     
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  11. King Tut

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    it's PRE-OP (pre operation) vs POST-OP (post operation). stop confusing the guy who barely speaks english...
     
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  12. King Tut

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    fighting with yourself, trying to 'prove' that you like women when in actuality your TS fetish wins won't do you any good. all you're doing is suppressing your sexuality. so yes, embrace it. that's the only way you'll ever have a chance of it leaving you, if it ever does. but i have a theory that this fetish will stay with you for the rest of your life. you can kick and scream and call it a disorder, but what good will it do at the end?

    and you sound like you don't understand anything about this fetish. or maybe you're just a guy who's still stuck in stage 1: denial.
     
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  13. porsche4life

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    Man don't listen to this King Tut guy, this stuff goes away. I read similar stories of guys that had sex with ts and then after abstinence the fetish dissapeared, so don't worry you will be fine if you quit porn.
     
  14. ultrafabber

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    I don't even have a TS disorder. And again, it is a disorder, calling TS a "fetish" is like calling zoophilia a "fetish". Why do you need to defend it so much?
     
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  15. Vendettana

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    To me your story sounds like someone who still hasn't decided yet.
    On one hand you would like to have a family with a wife and children.
    On the other hand you would like to have fun with shemales.
    You cannot have both. If you get a wife, treat your ED and secretly go out with Shemales, it will eventually destroy our relationship because you cannot build up trust when you are hiding something.

    Maybe you don't know what you really want. You have to find out first. You can do this by listening to your inner self, writing down your thoughts and not judge on yourself. Once you know, and you decide that you want a family, ditching Shemale sex will be easier.
    Or maybe this is your thing (although it sounds Porn induced to me, but I cannot know).
    Then you will have to build a relationship with a trans.

    Question: when you have sex with shemales, do you prefer to be active or passive? I think this is an interesting question to begin with. I think when you like to be passive than there might be a hidden insecurity or a wish to be dominated. Would it excite you if a true woman is more dominant? What is it that you like about shemales? Do they have to be feminized? Do they have to have a big cock? Are you actually interested in a trans personality or is it just physical?
    If a woman put on a strap-on, would be just as much fun for you, or is it something you would like to try out?

    Either way, I don't believe that polygamy can actually make you happy. So for a fulfilled life, there must be ONE true and 100% relationship.
     
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  16. King Tut

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    that's what many men end up doing. go fuck trannies when their wife is out of town. and 85% of them are bottoms. but what do I know right? this "disorder" goes away as long as you do your NOFAP...
     
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  17. Vendettana

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    Not sure what you mean. How does this relate to my post?
     
  18. Vendettana

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    Who told you, that you HAVE to make no PMO? You can try no PM. The most important thing is to no longer watch Porn. Then you should no longer masturbate as this conditions your brain to a sex behavior that is very different from real sex (you're holding your dick in you hand, you move way faster and you end up in your hand, you're alone).
    Not having orgasms is another topic. This is because many guys ejaculated several times a day and they have drained their body, their hormones are out of balance. So not jerking off will restablish some balance.

    To me this sounds more optimistic than your initial post. You want to "fuck" a woman, you're horny. If no PMO is your goal, then you have to deal with it! Urges will get better, I was much more in control after about two weeks.
     
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  19. King Tut

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    in 2 ways
    1) u can have both if u chose to
    2) many men who claim like op is saying how he likes women JUST AS MUCH end up being cheating husbands to quench their TS fetish that never truly goes away. but then again, it may.

    my point is, if it was that easy to get rid of this "disorder", why would all these husbands go with ts escorts when their wives would be outta town?
     
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  20. Vendettana

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    I disagree. You cannot have both. You can only have a monogam relationship. All the rest is just fun and an easy exit to build up a sustainable relationship. So far I haven't seen any long-term polygame relationship. I also worked in many polygam countries and there are HUGE problems because of that. Family are torn apart, people kill each other because of some jealousy. You challenge values our society is built on. And it just worked overwhelmingly well for 2000 years.

    2. I don't know that. Maybe they just haven't taken a choice or they escape in to porn and get in a spiral of fetish.
    Myself, I had gay fantasies when I was 8, but they quickly faded. Only when I started to watch excessively porn and anal scenes I developed interest in passive anal and eventually shemales and finaly gays.
    After more than 80 days of NoFap, this dropped to almost zero.
    You're making a strong claim to say that this guy is in Transsexuals, based on some brief post, from a person who is not even speaking in his native language. Read on, he claims interest for both: women and Shemales. Telling him that he should just go for it, although he doesn't know what to do, is pretty steep from my point of view.
    You don't know this guy, don't push him into something that maybe is, or maybe not, his sexuality. You might make him loose many years living out a lie he convinced himself into.
     

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