I've been practicing the death grip for years without knowing the consequences. I've had sex and I can't ejaculate, I thick its delayed orgasm. I now fear not being able to get my wife pregnant. Will I regain sensitivity overtime? An advice please...especially if you have recovered from this.
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Are my sexual problems (ED, DE, low libido) related to my porn use?
Any suggestions for healing delayed ejaculation (DE) or anorgasmia?
Studies linking porn use or porn addiction to sexual dysfunctions, lower arousal, and lower sexual & relationship satisfaction
What benefits do people see as they reboot?
Are my sexual problems (ED, DE, low libido) related to my porn use?
Any suggestions for healing delayed ejaculation (DE) or anorgasmia?
Studies linking porn use or porn addiction to sexual dysfunctions, lower arousal, and lower sexual & relationship satisfaction
What benefits do people see as they reboot?
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Hey @hosanna .. I think the best advice is to leave it alone, other than sex. I'm the same and the inability to O during sex is what drove me here newly two weeks ago now. Earlier this week we had sex and we O'd together for the first time in ages. So after just a sort time I'm bringing to feel more sensitive, as well as the decreasing thoughts about some pretty fucked up porn too.
Thank you.
Hey man, I'm in the same situation as you (death gripped for years).
I think the DE could be multiple different root causes:
- excessive death grip and penile desentization: the best remedy is to abstain for about 60-90 days and see what happens then.
- psychological cause: in my case I believe my inability to orgasm is due to extreme, internalized toxic shame. My grand mother was a radical feminist who brainwashed me to be ashamed of my sexuality and of being a man. As a result, I feel guilty to have sex with women because I feel like I "use them" for my own pleasure. Therefore, I can't reach orgasm with a woman because I unconsciously view it as terribly shameful (using the woman as an object for my sexual pleasure and disrespecting her).
I haven't had sex since I came up with the psychological explanation but I have a strong feeling this is the real cause of my ED. I need to work through that with my psychologist or a sex therapist.
I think the DE could be multiple different root causes:
- excessive death grip and penile desentization: the best remedy is to abstain for about 60-90 days and see what happens then.
- psychological cause: in my case I believe my inability to orgasm is due to extreme, internalized toxic shame. My grand mother was a radical feminist who brainwashed me to be ashamed of my sexuality and of being a man. As a result, I feel guilty to have sex with women because I feel like I "use them" for my own pleasure. Therefore, I can't reach orgasm with a woman because I unconsciously view it as terribly shameful (using the woman as an object for my sexual pleasure and disrespecting her).
I haven't had sex since I came up with the psychological explanation but I have a strong feeling this is the real cause of my ED. I need to work through that with my psychologist or a sex therapist.