Desperate

Welcome, Heneman; you're not alone anymore. You're also not weak or bad or evil or beyond help. Every man here understands where porn and obsessive masturbation has taken you because we've been there, too. Admitting there is a problem and seeking the solution is the first step. Congratulations! You're on the road to recovery. I'd suggest you educate yourself about porn (see www.yourbrainonporn.com), get an accountability partner, and get active on this or other NoFap forums. Reading about other men's struggles and successes is very powerful. Good luck and feel free to contact me anytime.

 

i know how painful it can get lying to those you love, and i empathise with you in this sense. it isn't a situation that is easily resolved, and i'm sure your aware of that, so all i can say is good luck in having the power to overcome your afflictions.

 

Hi Heneman, Just to say thank you for opening up on here. You will find many guys like you equally entrenched in this mess, myself included. You will have so much support here. Feel free to drop me a line anytime you need to.

 

Porn addiction is isolating. We engage in it alone, but after a while, it changes us and how we interact with life and with people. It creates a barrier between us and "decent, normal" people. We feel like perverts and outsiders. Being able to speak of it freely here is indeed liberating. And if you have stuff you want to talk about but don't want to post it, feel free to contact me.

 

Hello Heneman, I wish you luck too, and feel free, absolutely talking about it is the only way we can get cure, but as I usually say, do not get discouraged, keep on it, we've had carried this baggage for a long time...opening up is what's going to help you...it sucks at times but that's OK...we all have that discomforting feeling, that means we are in the right path...just be aware, keep on reading threads, share your mindset with us...and thank you for sharing your story..Last time I read a thread, it helped me to go trough that tough time...

 

Heneman, you are definitely not alone. What you say concerning your wife really resonates with me. For many years I was that wife too, and my husband's porn addiction nearly broke us apart when I found out about it. But now we're both fighting his addiction tooth-and-nail. It's an everyday battle. But that's how we take it - one day at a time. Everyday that he goes without porn is a victory for both of us. We don't think about tomorrow's battles, and we don't worry about yesterday's either. We only focus on what will get us through today. Best of luck to you and your family!!!

 

Greetings Henemen, welcome to the forum.

Let me echo all the others saying you are not alone. Your struggle and your anxiety is the same thing we have all felt at times.

I wanted to respond to one specific thing you said:

I think all this anxiety you are feeling is due to your dopamine receptors being severely overused. I had the exact same thing happening to me (for almost 15 years) up until I discovered the NoFap approach, and the YBOP articles on porn linking anxiety and excess porn use.

I wanted to let you know that the more you abstain and get busy in real life, the less anxiety you will feel.

Keep on the path, we are all walking it with you.