Well now I guess an update doesn't really matter. The answer to the thread topic is a resounding NO! We ended our relationship tonight after deciding to take a month long break with no contact between us. Despite my feelings on the subject, @snazzy refused to abstain from sleeping with prostitutes and exploring some sick objectification ideas around women/money power. He was expected to remain emotionally monogamous but apparently that was controlling of me to ask and (supposedly) starting to date girls from his work (mind you- ones he's mocked for hitting on him in the past) Honestly- this is the BEST thing that could have happened to me! I wasted so much time and energy trying to be supportive and the kind of partner I felt I should be. It's nice to think I can start devoting that to someone who actually deserves and appreciates it! Just grateful I dodged a bullet before it got so much worse. Thank god we never set up legal or financial ties to each other! Could you imagine?!? Sadly, Snazzy is in full blown denial. Seems to have forgotten everything in his original thread but that's not my problem anymore. He spent the past month watching porn, sleeping with hookers, and breaking the few simple rules of fidelity we had established for the break. And apparently since he was able to PMO and O from sex with these women he's now convinced the porn addiction isn't a real issue for him and some version of me trying to control his life. *eye roll* It's sad. Heartbreaking really. So much potential wasted by the sinister and conniving grip of addiction. Clearly he hasn't hit his rock bottom, but considering he just lost the one women he himself said was the only one he ever believed truly loved him, I'd say he's on the road to nowhere fast. I'm just relieved I was able to get out before he dragged me down with him. His plummeting course to the bottom is now some other girl's problem! I want to thank each of you for your support at a time I really needed it. I should have kept up with this thread more but can't change the past. I sincerely wish you all the best of luck with your own struggles and addiction impacted relationships. I think because you all show motivation and acceptance of your personal/partner's struggles you will do just fine! So I guess we can consider this a cautionary tale of the dangers of denial and wavering commitment to recovery.