did i do something wrong ? i want a serious relationship with her but im confused

Man, you seem to have lost your mind... You really don't love her, you are desperate for her or something like that. It's beyond sanity to keep up with such a cheating, selfish girl... It's like an axiom for me, that if a girl cheated on someone(even for the reason to be with you) you'll be the next victim. IT DOESN'T matter if she is banging hot or something else, the thing is, you want to have a soulmate and she is totally not the one. She cheats on someone, like, right now(wtf ???), she is not letting you do some loving stuff to her, you didn't told us, but as I understood she didn't even explain why she doesn't want physical stuff. The fact, that she is hanging out with some other male so much is pure madness... It's insane. She is cheating on long distance boyfriend, she hangs out each day with that male friend, she is texting all the time with him and even has to go to toilet to talk about something. She is clearly hiding something, why would you want to go to toilet. It's not even being suspicious, it's using common sense... Holy crap man, how are you still asking people questions, if she is the one. Maybe you didn't write us how she helped you in life, idk, maybe she helped you sort out some mental problems, something? Else she is just laughing cuddling and doing nothing... disgusting.

 

so you want to be her emotional blanket while she is in transition of finding a new bf it sounds like a shitty deal for you bro why waste your time with her she is using you I think you are holding onto her because you think you can't do better but you can why deal with someone with so much baggage when your not even in a relationship why go through that stress

 

You're not naive, my friend. You are delusional.

 

Lust could be a reason or some people use others to fill a void in their life out of convenience some people are selfish like that but it's not your job to figure out why people do what they do its mentally exhausting. I've been there before plus when I was younger I was that type of person to an extent but you can't judge others too much then again it's not your job to fix them either they will have to learn that lesson themselves

 

And when she does choose between you and Alex you can wave your friendship bye bye. Bro's before ho's You better choose between her and Alex because in the end thats what your doing.

 

Dude, if you wanna be a doormat, that's up to you. You asked what you're doing wrong? You're treating YOURSELF like shit that's what. Respect and love yourself first and then maybe there's a chance that others will do the same.

 

She’s playing you like a fuckin fiddle bro

 

You are not getting the point my dude she will not give you that so why deal with her

Stop caring bro she is not for you

 

She sounds like a girl who isn't into nice guys, you sound like a nice guy. She probably sees you more as a close friend, if you've known her for a long time it's probably too late to spark any kind of true romance. You are well dug in to the 'friend zone' i've been there so many times. Girls are a lot more intimate than men generally, a massage is not an invitation and neither is a kiss necessarily, some people are just very touchy feely but they do tend to give out mixed messages and guys tend to be like 'omg she really likes me' or 'wow it must be a matter of time before the real stuff starts to happen' when in reality you could spend eternity in that phase because whilst she might like you she isn't really captivated or sexually stimulated by you.

In my opinion if you want to get into a relationship with someone you make it known pretty quick, not affter 6 months or a year or 5 years. It's why people go on dates, because you both know that its a 'date' date and not just going out with your female pal. Women are complicated but i do know that getting out of the friend zone is a fools errand.

 

Not saying that you got a boyfriend and doing such intimate things with you is the same as lying about not having a boyfriend.

Do you have no self respect? It's obvious that you're the one that's too good for her. What your "friends" are saying is that you are not a confident guy -> you don't deserve a girl. Do you really wanna hangout with people that mock you and don't accept you for who you are? They are having a negative impact on your life.

I can understand that you don't want to lose all your "progress" with this girl but this girl is a dead end. She is cheating on her boyfriend with you. She will do the same to you.

Also you should probably read Robert A. Glovers "No more Mr Nice Guy" you will benefit greatly from this book.

 

@imdone1990 I had a friend that was into a girl just like that. She talked to him for hours on the phone said her boyfriend didn't treat her right the whole story just like yours. He was her emotional blanket, they would always talk about her problems but not his. If he wanted more she would distance herself for just a little bit and then it would go right back to where it was before. At one point she said if her boyfriend didn't ask her to marry her soon she was going to break it off. Well he didn't and she didn't break it off. But kept him hanging on, she ended up marrying her longtime boyfriend and never looked back at my friend. She never intended to be with my friend he was just there to boost her ego. That is exactly what is going on with you, you are in love with a fantasy and probably don't see it. My friend also said the same stuff, and she always gave him hope that maybe it could happen. Everyone on here has a point, she isn't going to give you what you want. Also, your friends telling you that you are not good enough don't seem like real friends at all. You may want to look up from your circle and ask yourself a question. If you were in a bind and needed some money, or a ride, whatever it might be, which one of your "friends" would actual help you? If none of them would you may want to find some other friends.