Did lonilness fuck up my reboot

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Risingbackup2, May 17, 2020.

  1. Risingbackup2

    Risingbackup2 Fapstronaut

    Hi im a 16 year old boy who have been doing nofap for 3 years ups and downs. I noticed when I had a lot of friends I had very long streaks but ever since I was bullied and all my fucking friends left me I can't do even a week streak this has been going on for 1 year and a half seriously. Is it the trauma of all of this? It was really bad bullying and my life was going to hell. What should I do?
  2. Gmork

    Gmork Fapstronaut

    Hi @Risingbackup2
    I'm sorry to hear about the bullying.
    I was bullied too, and I carried it around for most of my life, because I couldn't speak to anybody about it for a long time.
    If you can speak to somebody to try to straighten this out in your mind, - a counsellor or therapist perhaps, then I would highly recommend doing so.
    Even if it's just to get the feelings out of your head, and into the open.
    It is a very traumatic experience, and it can influence many different subconscious areas of your life if you just bury it.
    It leaves scars on your

    It sounds like you're a stronger 16 year old man than any of those friends.
    Be proud of your streaks, because right now is a good time to believe in yourself and what you are capable of.
    Fuck those guys.
    Perhaps write down a new routine. A schedule for the day that doesn't include random porn surfing time.
    Day 0 always feels shit, but get back on the horse, take it a day at a time, and this time next week you'll be at 7 days.
    But please consider speaking to somebody about the bullying when you can.
    Address it seriously.
    Last edited: May 30, 2020
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  3. MyWish

    MyWish Fapstronaut

    I'm sorry to hear about the things you're going through, I want you to know that you're never alone and we are here for you! You could feel free to talk with if you'd like, just throw anything you've got there! Just the fact you're so commited as well as strong, being here and telling what you've been through is amazing and you should appreciate yourself just about that! Keep doing hard work and fighting against it, remember that is really important for you as a person and to your mental health! Try also to focus on other things, even if you get distracted for a moment, just keep moving, one day I'm sure you could reach up to a better place in your life! I strongly agree with the guy above me, you should be proud! :)
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  4. The Wrestler

    The Wrestler Fapstronaut

    Did loneliness mess up the reboot?
    Yes, but not why you might think.

    When stressed, you will seek out things that make you feel not stressed. On a physiological level, when the brain is bombarded with cortisol, it wants to reach an equilibrium and will search for any behaviour that leads to a flood of dopamine, like orgasm, drugs, alcohol...anything that makes it not hurt the way it is hurting. So times of high stress are times porn will come back to bite at your heels (I'm feeling that now).

    Porn, and porn-seeking behaviour is a result of underlying feelings, a symptom of a root condition. Treat, then, the symptoms to lessen them, but go after the root cause and the symptoms will not bother you.
  5. Vanros

    Vanros Fapstronaut

    Just can't agree more. Stressing is my main cause to edging and relapsing.

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