Differences between PMO and Sex? Are they the same or no?

Good question. Hopefully we'll get some clarity on this..

 

The effect of novelty is a strong factor. You can pump as much dopamine as you want and when something starts to be boring you can always select different actress or look on harder stuff or even try escorts. You can PMO almost always when you are stressed or scared, so it is ideal coping mechanism. What is more, it is impossible to have sex with 50 girls at the same time but really easy to find porn compilation. Your brain is used to sex, but not to artificial stuff like that. To sum up, porn can affect stronger your brain, so it is highly addictive and always available.

 

I would like to think that with sex, you have a connection with another feeling human. With porn you don’t. (I suppose if you have a random hookup, this doesn’t apply to you)

For me, with that connection, I’m not just thinking about myself but about pleasuring her. There is none of that with porn for me and to me, that is the big difference.

 

There are people who have the same problem with sex. They are addicted to it and treat it just like porn. Many of them constantly cheat on their SO, and constantly have different partners. For me the big difference between M and S it’s just being into the other real person present during it. I don’t have the same side effects with S as I do with M. Social anxiety, brain fog, etc.

Edited to add:
I suspect you throw a random person who I don’t care at all about into S with me and I am only concerned about myself, and it would be no different for me than P.

 

I was wondering the very same thing when I started nofap.

My ex-girlfriend wanted to have a lot of sex. I was very productive (drawing and making music) and kept a really successful nofap-streak until she and I had sex for the first time. We had sex several times per day. I got tired and lazy, got up late and could not concentrate at work anymore. I felt almost like before nofap. I was concerned about that and actually want to "keep it down" but the lack of testosterone turned me into a whiney little p***y who is afraid of his girl.
My views on sex changed drastically thanks to nofap. I used to be kind of addicted to sex and I thought having a lot of it with your gf makes you the man. But I found out, it only makes you her slave.

My conclusion is: Yes it can be equally "bad". It is good to regulate your sexlife. Not unlike masturbation. Having sex is the best when you had a beautiful day with your significant other and it happens once in a while, isn't it?

 

I just realized something.. The post said PMO vs sex. I never had an PMO problem XD I am sorry, i cannot really to the topic. Only masturbating and thus being weak in general. I still hope my post was helpful somehow^^

 

I would also mention that if your having sex with a partner and their is any intamacy or closeness your going to both receive higher levels of oxytocin than someone who just pmo.

 

People still try to take a scientific approach to making love...let's do better.

PMO and sex (which usually means fucking like rabbits to most people) can have the same negative side effects, because both are done with superficial emotional connection to the device of pleasure. They are done without regard for the other person's pleasure, and that selfishness is rewarded with lethargy and weakness.

Focusing on the partner's pleasure over your own results in a more gratifying experience. Some people get it (usually selfless people), others never will (narcissists).

 

I certainly wasn't getting any sex at 17! It would have been better if I hadn't masturbated. Take some time off.

 

They are both the same in terms of being activities that release dopamine in your brain, the problem is when you get too much dopamine, which is more easily achievable with porn, where more dopamine is just one click away.

 

No they are not the same, and the reason is our natural reward system. I recommend watching this video

 

Limited data here. What is the crux of the video?

 

personally i was at a point where i was regretting every time i masturbated, starting feeling bad and wishing i didn't masturbate as soon as i finished. This never happened to me with sex.