Difficulties bonding with people.

Hi my name is Andrew and I'm a sober pm+ addict.
I recently felt like it hurt to be around certain people. What had happened was they said things I didn't like.
I'm questioning my thoughts, the ones they disagreed with and my thoughts about those people. For instance, "it hurts to talk with you" is that true? Is there another possibility that is more true?

I'm glad you have noticed progress over the last few months.
Turns out we are not alone in feeling alone . People struggle with not feeling a part of a group.

 

Part of the problem is that most men in their early twenties haven't accomplished anything worthwhile yet. Doubly so for those of us that bowed out of growth opportunities so we could get high, play videos games, and masturbate to porn. It's pretty much impossible to make a hard break with the past, and I'm not sure its all the desirable, but one way or another you've got to lay the foundations for a life you want to live. Meditation, exercise, and hobbies are good things but on their own they aren't enough. Without friends and mentors you aren't likely to meet with success or happiness. Happiness is the goal. Settle for nothing less. Work at it. Think about what it means. Get yourself integrated into a peer group and find some men that you can comfortably and confidently look up to.

 

Check the link in my signature. Might get you pointed in the right direction.

 

Just take your time and work on yourself, do the work to improve yourself til you feel better about your self-image; and that feeling doesn’t have to be absolutely perfect, but it shouldn’t be a low level.

Then you can work on being social and connecting with others.

 

If you are steeped in self-help already you might want to hold off. Buddhist teachings cut to the roots. Most people aren’t ready for that. Maybe a better answer is that you’ll find a lot less fluff, and no one promising you that you can have everything you’ve ever wanted.

 

Most self help gurus.

 

In that case you should click the link. It’s reds and whites; no blacks or blues. That and lots of crystal clear instructions on how to meditate, what Buddhism is and what it isn’t, and how to properly apply the teachings in daily life.