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Disappointed by response from star

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by dedrick68, Oct 19, 2019.

  1. dedrick68

    dedrick68 Fapstronaut

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    I recently shared a piece of fan fiction with my favorite porn star. She did not like it and found it creepy. I feel a bit rejected and disappointed that she was not honored by the effort that I made.
     
  2. Two_Brains

    Two_Brains Fapstronaut

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    Maybe she isn’t happy about what she is doing and you reminded her of this.
     
  3. fredisthebes

    fredisthebes Fapstronaut

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    She probably likes the money but thinks her fans are creeps. She's probably right. Stop this weird behaviour, do nofap, and get yourself a real girlfriend.
     
  4. Overforme

    Overforme Fapstronaut

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    You made fan fiction for a useless excuse for a human being and arent happy she didnt approve of it? Dude.. dont put your value based on what this girl thinks. And stop wasting your life imagining and start living in the real world. I'm sorry to be so harsh, but you're a here for a reason right? This isnt nofap behavior you're displaying. This is your addict trying to seek attention from a nobody. Pick up the pieces and delete her from your life. Get on the nofap train before it leaves the station for good and you cant hop on. Let's get with the program and drop this setback and give nofap a real go!
     
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  5. dedrick68

    dedrick68 Fapstronaut

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    I agree with you.
     
  6. dedrick68

    dedrick68 Fapstronaut

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    I agree now that I think about it. I see she sleeps with fans for money but wants nothing else but to sell merchandise and subscriptions.
     
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  7. Maybe messaging porn stars isn't the best idea if you are doing NoFap seriously. Seems like an easy way to recieve urges and relapse.
     
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  8. Why would she care to be honest?

    Pornstars want you to buy what they are selling and majority of them see people following them as just a $ sign.

    If you want gratification try writing about something not relating to porn or sex. Write about what you want to become.

    What did you actually wanted from the situation?
     
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  9. dedrick68

    dedrick68 Fapstronaut

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    I wanted to show her that she could have someone actually care for her besides wanting her for her body.
     
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  10. That is naive beyond limits. Find yourself a decent girl instead.
     
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  11. Minsc

    Minsc Fapstronaut

    OK, fan fiction smut (when I see fan fiction and porn star in the same sentence I automatically jump to the conclusion it's sexual in nature) seems like the completely wrong way to go about it. Instead of the song and dance just straight up say you believe the porn industry and her lifestyle are harmful to her well being. Tell her you believe the porn industry, your consumption of it and your sexual acting out are harmful to your own well being and you are leaving that life behind. Acknowledge your understanding that she made her decision to go down that path and it's her decision to seek out and find ways to leave. After doing so, walk away and don't look back. Why walk away? No need to feed any of our own fantasies where we are some knight in shining armour who'll save her from a bad life. That stuff is bad for our health. If that porn star really wants to get out of that life then she'll find a way, just as we looked for a way out.

    Edit:

    From another thread.

    Scratch my above paragraph. Just walk away and heal yourself.
     
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  12. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

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    A fan-fiction about a real person. And you are suprised she found it unsettling. And you wanted her to know that you like her for more than her body even when she is you "favorite porn-star" and you probably know nothing of her as a person.

    Dude.
     
  13. fredisthebes

    fredisthebes Fapstronaut

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    Maybe she does want 'saving' from the industry, maybe she doesn't. Maybe she will indulge your fantasy of being her saviour, but only if you pay her for it.
    Writing her a story isn't that different from sending her a D-pic, or telling her you M'd to one of her scenes. It's fantasy, and not very healthy fantasy either. She may or may not be a good person, but she is presenting a fantasy version of herself to you, she is trying to make you fall for her so that you give her money. She will back away if you go too far or start doing weird things because she is not after a meaningful connection with someone like you.
    There are hundreds of women out there that aren't broken, that aren't just after your wallet and no deep connection to you. Quit fapping, quit writing fantasy fiction about P-stars, quit trying to forge deep and meaningful connections with women that are using you for your money whilst probably holding you in contempt, and find yourself a woman that truly desires you for who you are.
     

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