Discord Group - Jordan B. Peterson based approach - Accountability Group

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by rhombusgans4, Apr 14, 2019.

  1. rhombusgans4

    rhombusgans4 Fapstronaut

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    TL;DR - Making a Discord group. Want invested members. Share real life stuff, coach each other. I'm GMT +1

    I'm a huge fan of Jordan B. Peterson. ()

    I like to make a group that's invested and shares real life experiences.
    Was in two anonymous Accountability groups before, but everyone tended to talk about himself and spam the group. Wanting attention without giving something back or accepting real life feedback.

    "I'm addicted to porn."
    "Well, it figures, Thomas. Your life is shit, you life with your mom and have no job perspective. Its a wonder your not doing hard drugs!"

    I want to build something that's akin to a coaching relationship and band of brothers. For example next Saturday it's one guys turn. Tell the group about your life, show a picture of your current living situation/dirty apartment. Face some criticism, some well meant advice and the accountability that someone will ask you whats the situation with your shitty flat.

    Basically a group that puts some damn effort in it.

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    So here's a basic "Get to know each other"-form.
    (I know, its work to fill it out and will take 5 min of time. A nightmare in fap-addiction time :D)
    I filled this one out. There's a copy&paste version at the end. Or make up your own.

    I fap because...
    For me I'm either bored "None of my hobby's compare to some pmo"
    or I want to feel like "the man" who gets girls. A porn actress telling the POV-Actor she wants him, itches that desperate desire of mine.

    I take the most confidence in my life from ....
    my work and career. Got a stable job, where I feel like I am contributing. Stable pillar of my self-esteem. I'm an electrician/programmer

    My life is sad in the area of ...
    hobby's. I have nothing special or exciting that's going on at the weekend. Netflix, meeting a few friends and sports. Nothing that's passionate or something i can be proud of. I miss being proud.
    After a fap weekend, i feel deflated and without any grit.

    And since rapport/"getting to know each other" over "I like you, cause you like what i like" is really easy
    My general interests ...
    Jordan B. Peterson, Anime, Motivational Videos on YouTube, Pop/Rock-Music, NLP, Cleaning (with Marie Kondo), Jogging, CityBuilder/Simulation-Games

    I fap because...
    I take the most confidence in my life from ....
    My life is sad in the area of ...
    My general interests ...
     
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  2. Jonin Lei

    Jonin Lei Fapstronaut

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    Oh yeah, another Dr. Jordan Peterson fan. I love that man. He says a lot of smart and is the reason one of the reason why I enlisted myself as Fapstronaut

    I am a bit confused where to send this form to you but I'll do it here and send one to you through the mailbox.

    I fap because...
    It was one of the few sources of pleasure in my life and it was the only thing that I would look reforward to after school.

    I take the most confidence in my life from ....
    In my creations. Wither it an artwork I made or well-written lab report. Plus I feel more confident when I am helping someone.

    My life is sad in the area of ...
    Unmotivated to complete school work, constantly skipping classes, failing courses, and repeating them often. Hardly interact with my other classmates, this often results in me doing my work alone.

    My general interests ...
    The military, History, Drawing, Math and Sci, Robotics, Cartoons or Animation, Sci-fy shows, and video games (Primarly Shooters and RTS).
     
  3. rhombusgans4

    rhombusgans4 Fapstronaut

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    Yo, guys. The group is going and we are 3 guys at the moment.
    We are currently setting a date for a skype call. Choosing a pdf workbook to work through.

    I think a 4th guy would be optimal.
     
  4. BluJay

    BluJay Fapstronaut

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    This is perfect timing. I’m nearly done reading “12 Rules for Life” and I’m sick of relapsing constantly. I hope that I’m accepted :)

    I fap because:
    It is second nature to me, as the expression goes. I began when I was 10 years old when I lacked many friends and it felt so much better than anything else I had known. This continued for 9 years until last July, when I realized that porn does nothing for me. Even though I know that it hurts me, I continue to abuse porn. Porn is so easy, it demands only a few hours of the day. It doesn’t cost anything and doesn’t require any preparation. I believe this is why I use porn.

    I take most of the confidence in my life from:
    I feel confident in my ability to accept strange and unusual challenges and adapt to them. When I was younger, I persevered to perform all manners of science experiments at home because I believed that I was just as capable as the people online. That was the most incredible feeling, even more than porn has ever been.

    My life is sad in the area of:
    I have few friends to hang out with. I am 19 years old and have the inescapable sensation that I am throwing my creativity and energy away with BS like porn. I live with my mother and attend a community college. I know that when I transfer to a university in the fall things can improve, but I want to become more approachable. I am a mediocre student because I know that I am capable of much greater grades. I have not had a “real” job besides working for my dad’s business. I haven’t have a girlfriend yet.

    My general interests:
    Sci-fi movies and novels, historical books about adventurers and guys like Fidel Castro, etc. , artwork such as murals and comic drawing, music (I love to listen to symphonies and unique composers such as Christopher Tin)

    I really want to get better. I know that I am ultimately responsible however, with or without APs.
     
  5. A_New_Me_2019

    A_New_Me_2019 New Fapstronaut

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    That's a good idea!
    My name is Andrés.
    I'm 30yrs old.
    I'm a Colombian living in Brazil. :emoji_flag_co::emoji_flag_br:

    I fap because...
    I feel lonely, insecure and unable to connect in a deep way to other people, specially if it is about attracting intelligent, beautiful and not-profit seeking selfish girls. All this lack of self-esteem triggers a need to release a sexual tension leading me to watch porn, masturbation and try to reach and orgasm.

    I take the most confidence in my life from ....
    My work and career. Got a financial freedom, where I feel like I am contributing and helping others. Stable pillar of my self-esteem. I'm a physicist doing a PhD in astrophysics.

    My life is sad in the area of ...
    Feeling productive and valuable
    Sometimes I feel like I'm doing a PhD or my job in general because I have not because I want to. It seems like if some days I had forgotten my purpose and my life goals.
    After a fap, i feel without any motivation to do any productive stuff.

    My general interests ...
    More or less the same as you
    Jordan B. Peterson, Anime, Motivational Videos on YouTube, Pop/Rock/Blues/Jazz/Metal-Music, NLP, Martial Arts, Jogging, Video-Games
     
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  6. findinganewfrontier

    findinganewfrontier Fapstronaut

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    I fap because...
    I feel lonely, bored, or stressed. I also enjoy doing so when I encounter a feminine force.
    I take the most confidence in my life from ....
    Making my friends and others around me laugh, my academic accomplishments, and my desire for stability.
    My life is sad in the area of ...
    Romance/love. I'm a virgin and have never really been with a girl for a long period of time. I'm self-conscious about my looks (lanky, deviated septum, poor facial symmetry), and--aside from one instance--have never asked a girl on a date in-person. Moreover, I sometimes come off a bit socially awkward, and it shows if my jokes don't click with a girl. Overall, I want intimacy and commitment with a girl.
    My general interests ...
    Watching sports, JBP lectures, Barstool Sports content, lifting (I'm excited to gain muscle), and social media work. I am a rising sophomore in college studying PR and criminal justice as well.
     

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