do dating sims often cause similair effects to peaking? are they peaking?

[yanzinator]

i kinda want to play one but at the same time i don't want to risk it leading to another reset. some are more suggestive than others so if not all, is there a line to draw? i know ambiguousness in rules i've set for myself in peaking have ruined past streaks so i don't want it to be blurry.

 

[thatcactusguy]

I would say stay away from dating sims or any online possibly suggestive material. Even if the sim you are playing isn't extremely suggestive, you should still stay away from them. A lot of people approach a reboot wanting to improve all areas of their lives. This includes their interaction with screens and the digital world. You'd be helping yourself more if you limit your time on a screen during your reboot, especially when it comes to material like that in a dating sim.

If the sim is suggestive, it would be considered a Porn Substitute, and it would be harmful to your reboot. In terms of a line to draw, I don't think that there is one. I suggest staying away from all dating sims. You don't need the sims, so keep them out of your life to minimize your distractions while rebooting.

I've learned that if you end up considering whether it is peeking or not, then you shouldn't do it. Wherever your find ambiguity, choose the safer path and establish a new line.

Welcome to the forums. Stay strong

 

[Meshuga]

One of the problems with porn is it portrays completely fictional, fantastic scenarios designed to gratify the user, which creates selfish and unhealthy expectations. Dating sims do that exact same thing. Basically the goal is to choose the right combination of buttons from a multiple choice menu to “unlock” a desired outcome or, if you want to put it more bluntly, to manipulate your target into behavior you want from them. Not only is real life nearly infinitely more complicated than what these sims are currently capable of delivering, it’s based on a flawed paradigm. You don’t treat women like pretty things you can persuade to like you, to stroke your ego (among other things) if only you say and do the right things at the right times. Real life women are actual people, with their own set of complex, shifting, evolving set of needs, just like you. Dating sims condition us to approach relationships selfishly.

 

[freedom is coming]

I find that drawing lines isn't actually that helpful. You can spend forever drawing lines about what is good and what is not and a thousand things in between. And as someone said why walk so close to the boundaries when there you are in a massive park to play in filled with good stuff!

I also come back to the definition of porn being images etc used to turn you on. We are all different so if that sort of thing has that effect in you it's better to avoid. I walked out the room during a movie at the weekend during two scenes because of this.