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Do I have PIED or am i just anxious?

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by quepatopato, Jul 19, 2018.

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  1. Jul 19, 2018 #1
    quepatopato

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    Hi, i'm 22 years old, virgin, new here and was consuming too much porn. Early this year i reduced drastically cause i met my girlfriend, but after a while not having sex, i came back to porn, hard, two months ago, and after a month i reduced a lot again. Here is the problem, i haven't had a problem getting an erection when with her. But when we first tried sex i had an ED, but i was too anxious that time and thought that was the problem. The second time though, i was confident, and had another ED. Again i thought the problem was anxiety, because even though i was confident, a little part of me was thinking about the erection all the time. But after that second time, i haven't being able to have an erection, it's being three days an the only hope by now is that this night i woke up with an erection. So i would like to know from more experient people, if i have an PIED or if i am too anxious an just have to relax. But don't worry, either way i'm never going back to porn. Because PIED or not, i know it's not good to me.
     
    quepatopato, Jul 19, 2018
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  2. Jul 19, 2018 #2
    Bubbles

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    Sex is a learning experience that gets better each time, drawing two closer together, and really isn't about a single act but a relationship. The first time almost always sucks outside of a committed relationship. Your experience is totally normal.
     
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  3. Jul 19, 2018 #3
    Suicardicocard

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    I think it's mostly anxiety, and it can be such a vicious cycle where you start of anxious and then you get anxious of being anxious, followed by feeling why am I anxious when I know I should not be and yada yada yada...

    Try accepting the fact that you are anxious and tell yourself it is absolutely okay to be anxious, it is normal. Like that book said, The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck, it goes something like 'the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience.'

    Accepting it gives you space to be centered, instead of being all up about is my dick hard or not...

    Maybe some wine can help calm down the nervousness too, as it did for me.

    Cheers!
     
    Suicardicocard, Jul 19, 2018
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