Do NoFap for yourself, not for someone else or to get a girlfriend

Straight to the point mate I appreciate that.
I've also done a very brief stint in rehab and have been totally clean and sober about a year now never thought in my wildest dreams I'd be living the life I am now.
Just realized in the last 6 months or so how unacceptable porn is.

I've been battling it for a while now but just joined nofap today I do have the software ever accountable and a friend who keeps me accountable, that has been enough to keep me pretty motivated. This will be a good way to get encouraged by other people fighting the good fight it is difficult alone.
I don't want to watch p im actually sickened by it now unfortunately I did M last night but didn't view anything.

The struggle at the moment is staying away from any form of release little tricky waking in the middle of the night overwhelmed by lust.

I'm challenging myself to a month and I believe i can do it. I was looking through my journal today and generally go 14 to 24 days so now after that failure and seeing the effect brain fog etc and just overall unhappy. I will win this. Thanks for listening.

 

Well got sort of sent there by family but only stayed a week it was a little strange and then took a couple of years of getting worse after to truly clean up.
Lets just say my favorite was opiates but I got miraculously healed God told me one day run out of drugs and I'll clean you up. The day I finally ran out I woke up had a mild rumbling of the stomach showered etc and I was totally set free no real withdrawal. I did have a couple of relapses but they where never good and I was never hooked again, been about a year now.

When it comes to this it's forever man, Its such a waste of time and energy I am a better me of a clear mind no anxiety no brain fog no feelings of shame.

Yes I sort of understand that now when I first realized it was something I should not be doing I thought It would be easy and I shouldn't have to struggle but it hasn't been easy but It feels good to know I'm trying and others are to with success every day clean is another day closer to the goal of no going near it.
Effectively p acts like a drug and we should treat it like that.
Perhaps I'd agree on the government censoring the internet if they just banned anything adult related.
Imagine how good our society would be not plagued with men wasting their manliness on pixels.

 

The truth has been spoken, kudos

 

Hey bro! Nicely said and on point.

I've tried doing noFap in the past because I was very focused on making this girl that I want to like me. At first I was able to hold it of for a week or two, but eventually will go back to square one. We got close with each other, though as we continue to share ourselves with each other, my insecure self, my lack of drive for life, and my weak personality made her to leave me. It was painful, I was broken and felt so down in my life. But it was an eye opener. It made me go back to Porn and Masturbation, but eventually learned my lesson. It was about 3 years in the past, and I have other failed relationships with other woman (with me leaving them or them leaving me) since that happened, but I still feel down sometimes when I think about it. Now, I'm doing this thing for myself. I've learned my lesson and will surely become a better person.

Just here to appreciate your post!

 

An even more radical, (but really common sense if you think about it) take is don't even do it for a result, or benefits to be had in the future. The most immediate issue is people don't even pay attention to what they're doing, it's like the difference between someone who enjoys their job and/or takes pride in it and someone who just do it to get a pay check. Unlike a job where you may get away with goofing off to some extent, what we put into this process is directly proportional to what we get out of it. If it's just biding time and counting days, that'll be the extent of the result.

Put another way, you don't even do it for the sake of a better self - you do it to make this self, just as it is now just slightly better this minute. Any self improvement and development has its intrinsic benefits, not just how it potentially translates to your sex life. Physical exercise benefits the body, mental exercise benefits the mind.

 

Stop to make yourself stronger.
The strength of licentious women can’t be your weakness.

 

Thank you! We need More of this here. This mindset is the only one which will last.