35 days, 840 hours of the rest of my life Worked at my friend S.'s house again. Hard labour so to busy and later to tired to think of sex. Yoga in the evening was extra relaxing. Browser histoty everywhere very clean. No nonsense, this really helps my brain relax. In the evening I went on Discord with some friends while hobbying. It was nice to see them again, we painted our models and didn't really chat much. Still not my thing and too much info at the same time, just like looking everything up on the internet. Still the brain looking for a hit. Hi, glad to see you are still here. Thanks At the Yoga they said: where attention goes, energy flows. Triggers or me looking for something, it is a fine line. When I look at a woman in the street; is she triggering me or am I lloking to see if she is nice/sexy. In other words is my brain looking for a reward, because when I see a beautiful woman I get happy?? Same with my SO, a relationship I think. In the beginning everything is new and interesting. You explore each other, and I do not mean just physically. You feel pleasure from each others company and cannot get enough of being together. We call it being in love, falling in love. It is your brain giving you drugs. Of course, you get used to those drugs and have to do more and more to get a high. So we tell ourselves being in love turns to real love. It becomes too much trouble to keep reaching that high because it become higher to reach. Later we have grown apart, or things aren't how they were. People try to spice things up with holidays, when all was great again, because your brain gets new signals a new environment. Or sex toys in the bedroom or who knows what. What works better I think is start doing your own thing again. Less time together, and making the time together really count, focussing on the here and now and reaaly seeing and listening to the other. Let your brain get a rest, give it regular hits, and start missing each other (those hits)again. Make yourself happy and your SO will find you more attractive. See Nature. Males chase females. Females are uninterested except when in heat. In heat they still have to be courted. Except when the male is uninterested (tired, then females start trying to attract his attention instead of the other way around (lions, deer etc.) So I'm stopping in lowering my own (sexual)energy= PMO This make me have more energy for other things, expressing myself. This make me happier and more interesting for my SO. That is the theory. Seems to be working so far.