Do you consider yourself an addict?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Marshall 5, Jan 30, 2020.

Do you consider yourself an addict?

  1. Yes, definitely

    39 vote(s)
    75.0%
  2. No, definitely not

    6 vote(s)
    11.5%
  3. I am unsure.

    5 vote(s)
    9.6%
  4. Other (please explain)

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    3.8%
  1. Marshall 5

    Marshall 5 Fapstronaut

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    Hi everyone. I would be interested to know how many of us conceive of ourselves as addicts, using that term. And how many of us frame our problems in a different way? What factors play a role in your self-assessment?

    When I began the journey on this site, I thought of myself as someone with bad habits, or negative patterns of behavior that were harming my quality of life. I would never have used the word addict--maybe because of the stigma? After all, I didn't need PMO every day, and I was functional in many aspects of life. But after reading so many accounts by various users and recognizing so many patterns and behaviors in my own life, this is all less clear.

    Thanks for your input! And good luck, everyone.
     
  2. romeolima

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    I think when I first came here I thought I was an addict but having read about other peoples experiences it became clear to me that I was not an addict. I had a bad habit and one I wanted to quit but I didn't have the negative consequences of being an addict.

    What I mean by that is that whilst I did use PMO a lot it was not negatively impacting my life or relationship. That's not to say that I haven't seen improvements in my relationship but it wasn't destructive.

    I see it for me as very much trying to kick a bad habit, it's difficult to keep on the straight and narrow but I haven't suffered any form of withdrawl.
     
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  3. RestlessEngineer

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    Yeah i am still an addict although my situation has improved to a point where i can almost call it a bad habbit.

    Back when i was on my lowest right before i started nofap was when i was really addicted, i needed pm more than once a day every single day, i was always looking for new more exciting fetishes and destructive stuff, i was camming with 'dominant' people online and always chatting on bad sites.
    Next to that even though i knew it was ruining me i never had a great urge to quit it i always though that i would go intk the lifestyle or grow over it.

    So yeah i was an addict for sure now i am somewhere in the middle.
     
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  4. ultrafabber

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    I used to be a severe addict, probably in the 5% most addicted here, now i am no longer addicted.
     
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  5. Marshall 5

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    Thanks for your responses! This is informative, and I'll be interested to hear from others too.
     
  6. Kligor

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    Yes i m still addict,and probably whole life will.
     
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  7. henryhill

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    I definitely used to consider myself an addict but a therapist suggested to me a while back that I wasn’t. Then I didn’t trust them and so I considered myself an addict. Then when I went to 12 step I stopped feeling like I could relate so I no longer thought of myself as an addict. Now I don’t know/don’t care that much about a label.

    I don’t want to look at porn anymore because I don’t feel good afterwards and because I think that my time is better used on other things. Same with masturbation, doesn’t really do me anything and I feel bad afterwards. Not that I feel a ton of shame but more just disappointed.
     
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  8. I spent all my free time in the pmo
     
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  9. Back in the day, I never considered myself an addict. I thought I was a borderline addict because I still got out went to school, did my homework (mostly), and eventually got a job and started getting on the dean's list in college. Also because I'd maybe only have about one relapse a month.
    Now, after joining nofap I realized I was an addict. while relapses didn't happen frequently, I'd often masturbate at least once a day (sometimes I didn't, either trying to stop, not feeling it, or recovering from a burn [caused by dry masturbation]), and I'd continually go back despite the consequences, and when I got urges the only way to make them go away was to go back.
     
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  10. fedmom

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    :( Did my swearing thing not work?
     
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  11. don'tlookbackinanger

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    considered myself an addict six months ago not so much now

    i still have relapse after relapse and the feeling after every one of them is absolute misery
    thing is the PMO habit puts me in a bad autopilot where i'm performing every day tasks and stuff but no instinct or sense of what's going on

    people think i'm high all the time and think i don't care about anyone when i'm just not in my senses
     
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  12. red gyarados

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    Yes. It’s been almost a year since I consumed but I know how I behave during a binge and the cravings are still there.
     
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  13. Kligor

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    I try that method for just 2 days and i stopped,i don't know does it work i must do that much longer to see.
     
  14. engelman

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    That's my view ... the mix of having a wrong self-image/low self-esteem as a teenager and repetitive behaviour in my teens, twenties and thirties. That's all.

    I have read lots of books about the topic and lots of posts from other members ... but still think the same.
     
  15. engelman

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    And that's based on ....?
     
  16. ParadiseSwallow

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    I'm a addict. Firstly it was just a bad habbit - I used PMO for fun you know? When I had very good day I liked to pleasure myself at the end of the day and I didn't saw any problem with that cause I controled all of that back then I guess. Then I went to high school which is a nightmare for me to this day - The beginning of high school was where it all started cause I found that pleasure also gave me relief in those hard times(For some time). Now it's hard for me to life with or without it. I often feel like something spill in my brain and that feel pushes me to PMO. My brain likes to attack me with negative thoughts/suicide thoughts and some other fucked up stuff - If I'll PMO then all of it goes away for a while - If not it also goes away.. but it's hard and also goes away for only a while. I need it to get rid off bad emotions in easy way and it's hard for me not to do PMO so yeah - I'm a addict.

    Hopefuly - I'm almost 4 weeks clean now. Sometimes my brain leads me to watching nudity photos on internet but I don't count this as a relapse. I setted up my own rules - Edging is not allowed but if I'll do that for a while and I'll be able to leave it without PMO/touching/watching those images for too much time then it's not a relapse - It's a step forward cause I overcome my lust and decided not to go this way.
     
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  17. ultrafabber

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    No longer aroused by porn and no longer tempted to jerk off. On the contrary, those seem just weird and wrong now.
     
  18. fedmom

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    Yes, please try doing it for about 1 -2 weeks and see what happens. And please let me know if it works or not.
     
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  19. Porn is VR in the Matrix VR. Its called Joy Stick for a reason.
     
  20. engelman

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    Sorry, I was asking you why you considered yours one of the 5% worst cases here.

    In my case, P never was the real issue, only one of my coping mechanisms. I never thought about P when surrounded by people, but I used to watch P every time I was alone or felt lonely.
     
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