Do you consider yourself an addict?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Marshall 5, Jan 30, 2020.

Do you consider yourself an addict?

  1. Yes, definitely

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  2. No, definitely not

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  3. I am unsure.

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  4. Other (please explain)

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  1. No. I am not in and of myself an "addict". I am a person who has an addiction. Labeling yourself something really can be harmful. I recognize my problem and strive to deal with it the best I can.
     
  2. magic05

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    Yes, I'd consider myself an addict. The funny thing is, once you admit that to yourself it feels kind of liberating, because you know what you are dealing with.

    Right from the start when I first watched porn at 13/14 the fascination and dopamine rush were incredible. I immediately wanted to repeat this strong feeling over and over again, leading into addiction quickly. Maybe it started as a bad habit, but it spiralled into a full blown addiction. There is no clear seperation.

    I realized that I also developed addictive patterns with other drugs. Alcohol, nicotine, social media, online news. Except for nicotine my goal is to quit all of them. They all might be legal and widespread and seemingly harmless, but they can potentially ruin your life. I'd never ever do illegal drugs (not even weed) or gambling though, cause I know that'd be the end of me.

    I don't know if there is any scientific evidence and I might be wrong, but I suspect that many people who are addicted to PMO have a tendency for addictive patterns in general. At least that's the case for me.
     
  3. majorfiddle23

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    Hi,

    interesting post. I used to do what you do now? Instead of using the word “addict” I use to think to a high extent that I have bad habits that are just weakening my quality of lifestyle. However, admitting after a while that I am an addict has helped me take NoFap more Seriously.
     
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  4. Marshall 5

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    Thanks for the responses. It's interesting how labeling oneself an addict has felt empowering to some and disempowering to others.
     
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  5. ultrafabber

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    I used to masturbate 3 times per day regularly, usually totaling up to two hours or more in a day. I'd spend even more time sexually fantasizing. I'd also masturbate even more, up to 6-7 times in a day, but this wasn't as common. One time i had spent 7 hours edging (21 pm to 4 am). I would also masturbate in my sleep. I lost a 5 year relationship because i would not stop masturbating and i preferred jerking off to sex with my gf. I failed exams and deadlines because of pmo instead of working or studying. I developed peyronie disease (a scarring on the penis) because i was masturbating so much. The scar is in the exact place where i'd grip with my fingers, etc
     
  6. vulture175

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    Man that is scary as I'm reading ur post. Reminded me of my own past of unstoppable addiction. It wasn't just unhealthy, it was destructive.
     
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  7. engelman

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    Sorry to hear that, but now ... you're here ...trying to change ... that's the important thing!!!

    I also wasted lots of hours and preferred jerking off to sex with my wife ... but that was a long time ago (more than 4 years). Now ... I'm the same person ... but I've changed a LOT too. So ... it is possible.

    I hope you're doing great.
     
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  8. Marvelgurl23

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    This is really sad because I relate to this too much. As a young girl, all I would do was masturbate once every few nights to go to sleep. But then in high school, I was just waiting to get back home just to PMO. It was bad and in hindsight I'm disappointed I didn't involve myself in anything enough to keep my mind away from PMO.

    Being a teenager was tough, but being depressed and having a bad outward image of yourself was tougher at that age. And with people of my generation or younger porn was very accessible. I don't know how the younger kids deal with it today.
     
  9. Marshall 5

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    This has been interesting so far, and I appreciate hearing the range of opinions about this term.
     
  10. Der Drachenkönig

    Der Drachenkönig Fapstronaut

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    I like to think of myself as an recovering person with an addiction. I don't like labels but i recognize what i am. Even though i achieved not being dependent on P anymore and now being very rare that i look at it i also know an addiction isn't something that's ever truly erradicated for good, especially with something as complex as human sexuality.
     
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  11. Marshall 5

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    Resurrecting this thread in case some of the newer members would like to contribute. :)
     
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  12. k123

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    5 years ago I would have considered myself an addict since I would stay at home the entire day and watch porn for hours. Now I am averaging 2 relapses a month which is pretty decent for a guy who used to pmo almost on a daily. But I am still work in progress
     
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  13. I used to consume but I don't consider myself a compulsive addict, I used to just forget about life.
     
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  14. SecretHabit

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    Hey, something that helps me understand addiction is the 3 basis of addiction, maybe it will be helpful to your question:

    1. You have tried to quit before but couldn't
    2. You know the consequences (active or potential) but keep doing it
    3. You have arranged your life to fit it in

    I was definitely addicted to porn and masturbation. Saw porn at 10, watched it and masturbated at least once per day from ages 13-24, and quit on my 25th birthday back in 2017.

    Hope this helps bring some insight into what being "addicted" entails.
     
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  15. SecretHabit

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    This is a great point for a healthy mindset towards healing.
     
  16. AlanWatts

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    I am. One and a half years ago i relapsed again after 700 somewhat days of no porn. It's been slowly creeping up to me again and i just relapsed again. It's so much harder to beat this dragon again the second time, i guess it's because you've lost all accountability towards yourself by relapsing after such a long time. Funny thing, after 700 somewhat days it felt so strange and bad to be doing this. However here we are fully addicted again. For fuck's sake.
     
  17. walcasaf

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    I am fappin twice a day, isn't this addiction?
     
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  18. Yes, even though it has been some time, always. I treat it similar to alcohol, I refrain, not one drop. I refrain with P most importantly, not one tempting picture or sub to be precise.
     
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  19. SecretHabit

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    Man that's tough. I had a moment of weakness where I gave into searching for images with porn after 2 years of sobriety. However, I had done some of the deep heart work real healing requires and was able to use this re-lapse as fuel to go deeper into some of the areas that were still hurting. Since then Iv grown deeper in my freedom, but it's been heavy stuff - Heart work is hard!

    I share this just to ask, what is this revealing about yourself? Its not revealing a lack of willpower or sobriety, its revealing something deep that needs attention. An example - Anxiety is an alarm system for us to attune to. If we attune to it, we learn from it, but if we become a slave to it, we drift from healthy living

    Hope that question can help guide you towards some deeper healing and get you back on track Alan!
     
  20. SecretHabit

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    What would you say are the reasons why the consequences don't matter to you?

    Examples:
    -"I hate my job and feel I deserve some pleasure when I get home to cope with my terrible boss"
    -"My girlfriend dumped me after we were having consistent sex and now I'm alone and it's her fault. I am going to do whatever I want because nothing matters anymore"

    What comes to mind when you think about that question and example? Its typically revealing deeper hurts and longings that need to be named and handled

    Hope that helps
     
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