Do you ever feel like chopping your d off?

Years ago, back when I was quitting and struggling, and, really, even before I was quitting, just using P way too much, I had the thought that if there was a button I could push to never lust again, to never want to view P, again, I would have pushed it. No such button.

One thing you should figure out quick, the quicker the better, is that this problem is 100% above the belt, and 0% below it. One of the false trails many follow is that the problem has to do with sex or their sexual organs. It can look like it does, but, no. The problem is the combination of something very old and something relatively new: High Speed Internet Porn (new), and the primitive sexual reward/motivational section of the brain (old). What we become addicted to is not P, not M, not O, it is the neurological reward we get, a dopamine high, from thinking about sex. It is just that HSIP allows us to think about sex in a prolonged and profound way that does not naturally occur--thus allowing for a profound and prolonged "high". Drugs operate on the same level for some people, and for some, gambling. It is the high you are addicted to. It would be great if we could just shut that off, or we would like to think, but in reality neurological rewards are the thing that motivate us to do everything worth doing, or, like here, something that is worthless.

Peace.

 

No.

 

I think you mean chopping your balls off. That is where the testosterone is produced (mainly).

But I wouldn't suggest it because you would exsanguinate.

 

yeah but for unrelated reasons

 

I thought you were a cis female.

 

I've never thought about chopping it off, please don't. However I have thought about how much easier life would be without feeling like I needed to ejaculate so often. Why are we made this way? Seems like a cruel joke. We feel the need to bang every broad we see, the broads typically don't want it or don't want it as often, and we're left holding our d in our hands. Why couldn't our libido be less or equal to females? Less would be better! Just think if they pursued us more than we pursued them. Us males could get so much more shit done and concentrate on what is important.

 

Well is there even a way to reduce libido, possibly lower dopamine? Like, some food or drug to lower the desire to fuck to zero per cent? I would be glad to use that. It is not worth it if we get distracted by our dicks, when trying to work or when we need to do some important task!

 

noo not really no...

 

Haven't thought about chopping it off, but I have wondered what it would be like to castrasted like a medieval eunoch, having no need for women other than friendship. Would this be worse or better, I don't know. I think on this because it often seems likes sex causes more problems than its worth for people, myself included.

As to whether I would've achieved more, maybe yes? I don't know that I would've been as ambitious as I was in my 20s without having had my libido, but at the same time, I'm well aware of how much time I wasted in my teenage and adult years just thinking about and pursuing sex. It was and continues to be an addiction (though in recovery now, thank God).

 

No, I haven't thought about that. I also wouldn't want to kill my lust. Lust is awesome.
I can tell you one thing tho: Don't make this porn addiction a bigger deal than it is. Yes it's a problem in your life but don't zoom in on it too much and don't start relating all your problems back to your porn addiction. Because that's not reality. If you're not achieving any goals you set it's most likely because of one of these reasons: 1) you don't plan enough how to achieve your goals and/or your plans aren't detailed enough 2) you set your goals too high. humble yourself, aim lower. it's all about gaining momentum 3) you're trying to accomplish something you're not actually passionate about.
Motivation is literally the amount of dopamine in your system. People relate dopamine to being happy or even ecstatic, but you actually need dopamine for any kind of action, even just moving your arms. So yes, if you mess with your reward system through porn, dopamine is less readily available, but not because your system can't produce it. It's just that you don't give your mind a cool alternative to watching porn.
Why should you feel motivated to study if you don't enjoy studying? Why don't you enjoy studying? Because you failed a few times and didn't see the results you wanted. Do this:
Set a small goal that you know you'll achieve for sure. Write it down. Then do it and finish it. You'll mind will go "that was silly, anyone could've done that" but that's not the point. The point is you just made yourself a little more motivated. The motivation you feel to achieve any goal has to do with how likely you think it is that you'll achieve it and that in turn is based on previous experiences. Again, it's all about gaining momentum.

They made a study with cigarette smokers and found out that smokers actually don't really like the smoking experience itself. What really triggers them is the feeling of relief they get each time they light a cigarette. No, not relief from daily stress. Relief from their own withdrawal. Every smoker knows smoking is bad. Every smoker tries to keep smoking to a minimum. What feels so good is to let go of that tension. Like a rubberband that's being pulled and pulled and finally released.
We're no different when we relapse. We don't even chase porn anymore, we chase that feeling of giving in to lust. There's nothing that feels better than that, besides real sex.

 

I like your advice, however I don't agree with you about lust. Desire is one thing (though it has its limits), but chasing lust poses real problems for people. It causes them to objectify relationships and sexual acts (hook-ups, prostitution, porn). There is no healthy outcome with pursuing lust. Selfish means to selfish ends.

I confess, I have no definitive way of dealing with lust at this time other than to be cognizant of when its happening and then recognizing it for what it is, and finding another, healthier way to deal with my feelings.

 

You mean you're not actually supposed to chop it off? o.o

 

In the past, I've never thought about practicing self-mutilation, but I used to think that I'd be much better without my sexual instincts.
I've since changed my views. My aim has shifted: I want to cultivate an healthy sexuality, compatible with my life and personality. Repressing sexuality for good is impossible, and, in my experience, by denying it I've only made it present itself in more subtle, vile ways.
I don't want to be horny anymore, I just want to be whole.

 

You have a p*n*s ?

 

yes, unfortunately

 

Yes I wish the horny would go away