Kinda need to get all this off my chest. I had one of those strange post-relapse moments of clarity yesterday… I think I might be a "nice guy". Those of you who browse reddit are probably familiar with the term. For those who don't nice guy basically refers to a certain class of guy (or girl in the case of nice girls) who, in the broadest sense, have a tendency to expect basic social niceties to be rewarded with romantic love or sex. A friend of mine, who I'll willingly admit… I'm quite attracted to, seems to have totally frozen me out recently, and I don't really know why. After snooping around a little, I suspect she may have broken up with her boyfriend and might be seeing an ex -- again, I don't know anything for sure. The thing I want to emphasise, though, is how angry I am with her. I'm not sure it's normal. I feel hugely resentful of the fact that she doesn't want to spend any time with me. Yet she's gone back to her hometown for the holidays and seems to have inordinate amounts of time for everyone she knows there… including an ex-partner. Is there any way to get out of this stupid mentality? I know it's wrong, which is a start, but nevertheless I feel uncomfortable with having these feelings towards someone that -- at least in the past -- has meant a lot to me. Anyone else feel like this sometimes?