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Do you struggle with pride? (Discussion)

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by AJ777, Mar 9, 2021.

  1. AJ777

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    A lot of people don't realize that pride is the root of all sin.
    When you look up porn, you are being prideful. When you look up porn, you are being selfish.
    In that moment, whether you realize it or not, you are essentially saying, I don't care about anyone or anything else, I just need to fulfill this desire, I need this desire right NOW. You aren't considering all the consequences, and certainly you aren't considering your loved ones or family. If you were thinking about them, you likely wouldn't be looking up porn.

    I struggle with pride. I think we all do. I'm currently 120 days sober from porn, and I think right now I might be struggling with a pride problem more than I ever have before.

    You might say, "I'm not prideful, I don't even think that highly of myself; in fact, I think I'm pretty low and weak and have terrible self-esteem..."
    Ok... but you can still struggle with pride, despite your self-image.
    Pride doesn't exclusively go hand-in-hand with arrogance and ego. Being stuck in self pity and thinking about yourself all the time, how screwed up you are, what a failure you are, how much your life sucks, how lonely you are, all of the mistakes you've made... etc, that's pride.
    You are essentially saying "Look at me, look at what I've done..." You are basically saying "It's all about me..."
    That's pride. If you are thinking about yourself constantly, whether it be in a negative OR positive manner, from one extreme to the next, that's pride.

    Not trying to be judgmental guys; I struggle with the same things I am mentioning it above. The reason I bring it up is because I feel it needs to be discussed more. I think we, as human beings, need to examine ourselves more closely and get to the root of this problem. So, this is something to think about in your own life. I am continuing to work on it in my own.
    Please feel free to add to the discussion.

    Just know that pride is a killer. The root of all sin.
    Pride is what led Satan to his downfall. He thought he was better than God, loved himself more, thought he could overthrow God and rule all of Heaven.

    Humility is recognizing that... Life isn't about me. There's something bigger going on. There's more happening all around us we don't realize because we are consumed with thoughts of ourselves.
    Is it time to step out of these shells, boxes, and self-made prisons we've created and take a look around at the world...?
     
  2. FezMan76

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    I like your take on it man. I myself didn't realize that self-pity and minimizing who I was just to not SEEM egotistical was just as prideful as someone who brags about their achievements. We must stop caring about ourselves and our own pleasures, and begin to focus on our greater purpose.
     
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  3. punch54

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    Yeah, I think you're definitely right. Pride was the downfall of Satan, and thus I think it can be our downfall as well. In my case, I oftentimes found myself relapsing whenever I became over-confident and proud of how greatly I've concurred my porn addiction. Nope. I relapse, and thus I humble my self and remember that I'm not as great as I make my self out to be.
     
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  4. modern milarepa

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    Pride is the road to relapse
     
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  5. Chug

    Chug Fapstronaut

    Oh, absolutely. Pride is the reason a lot of us get stuck in relapsing. “I don’t need help - I got this figured out”, and BOOM, they’ve relapsed, again. Once you put your pride aside, and admit that you’re NOT as smart as you think, that you’re NOT as strong as you think, then you can get humble and make progress. This is the basis of 12-step programs, to put the pride aside and admit that you are powerless against your addiction.
     
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  6. PanteriMauzer

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    I dont feel pride when i relapse im not proud of that, and when i do PMO and relapse what drives me to do that is hornyness, not pride, there is no pride on that

    Pride leads me to workout for example and thats positive
     
  7. PanteriMauzer

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    We need to be humble but not too much humble we need to be Strong ans self confident, a bit of pride isnt bad , God want us to be strong but phisically and mentally
     
  8. punch54

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    @Chug @PanteriMauzer
    "There are two kinds of pride, both good and bad. 'Good pride' represents our dignity and self-respect. 'Bad pride' is the deadly sin of superiority that reeks of conceit and arrogance." - John C. Maxwell
    This post is referring to the latter pride, when one becomes boastful and arrogant because of how great they think they are. Certainly, it's important to feel strong and self-confident. But too much of it can be enough to destroy yourself. Too much pride can be when you consider yourself entitled and pretty much unstoppable. If you've ever watched UFC, think Conor McGregor vs Khabib Nurmagomedov as an example.
     
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  9. PanteriMauzer

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    Thats true, i like very much Fedor Emelianenko , he is one of the bests in mma , and he was always humble and respectfull but at same time confident calm and deadly always ready to strike and to be confident you have to have the good pride
     
  10. blacklabel92

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    remember, ego is the enemy. resist it when it asks you "weres ur pride?"
     
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