Do you think women would think your weird for doing this?

Not having a smartphone is uncommon, but not unheard of.

Smartphones are just so more useful, but of course there had to be a way people survived without them. It just depends on your lifestyle and how you live. It's pretty essential if you want to keep up with the lives of other people and can make it hard to keep up with your friends and family especially if they use social media.

People's reactions to you might be like "he's a hermit" or "he lives under a rock" but if you NEED to cut back on internet, social media, etc. because it affects you negatively, by all means go for it. Personally I strive for a balance of both. I don't want to be super into social media and scrolling mindlessly through feeds all day since that just sucks the energy/happiness from my day but I do use it just enough to where it enhances my day and I am able to connect with others.

 

I do the same thing for the most part. I never check facebook I feel its a complete waste of time. If you notice it's always the same people posting on there. The women that constantly post updates on facebook are extremely boring people in real life.

 

I try my best not to. I don't use Instagram (I used to have one but found it pointless), but I do use Facebook. It's mostly to keep track of my friends, and if there is anyone that I find constantly posts the same things over and over I just unfollow them. I used to look at pictures of some attractive girls that were my friends from school but after a while I was like no...they deserve more respect. And plus I knew them. It's easy to lust after someone when you don't know them - but they deserve the same respect.

 

If any girl thinks it's weird she isn't right for you and you find it out quickly.

 

Yeah I agree it can be quite confusing. It comes down to "why am I looking for more of their pictures?" If you find someone that catches your eye and you scroll for a bit through their pictures, that's fine. I think a lot of people do that just because they're curious and want to see how that person looks in different settings.
Aroused or not though if you kind of start stalking them and looking through EVERY single picture it becomes a bit...creepy imo. Best to just stay away from anything that could even remotely resemble a trigger.

 

Yes this is weird tbh. You need to stop relying on external stuff to control your addiction.

 

The answer is who cares? You do what you think is healthy or valuable.

Rejection is healthy. Right now you're rejecting a lifestyle of PMO.

It's actually good if someone calls you weird for this. Because you can identify them as non-compatible with your values, and move on to finding new people.

It doesn't look like it online. But there's plenty of people out there who've never heard of NoFap and simply aren't porn/sex obsessed either.

 

Id say that its wierd because youre too far off the grid to be relatable in society. I personally try to find the middle ground in things just because it tends to be healthier so i dont use Instagram anymore but still use fb. Id say that for you id going monk mode is working and that is your priority than thats your decision but yes women will find it wierd if you dont succumb to societal norms it sucks but thats the name of the game. Remember for women they are more relationship focus in terms of life priority so an option that makes you an outcast in society is a death sentance for women. For guys were more objective creatures more goal/logic based. Id imagine it being pretty tough to date without a smartphone or social kedia but it might be doable

 

Ohh yeah I gotcha. In that case it’s fine. To answer your question it just depends on the person, for me personally if I wasn’t careful that would trigger me to become aroused. For others, they’re fine, and for others yet just looking at one single picture can cause them to spiral out of control.

 

Is this a long term decision for you? or a temporary measure until you take back control over your addiction?

It's perfectly reasonable to want to stay away from problematic media for a while, just like a recovering alcoholic isn't going to hang around in a bar all day, even if he's drinking cola.

 

It can come out as weird. I did this for some time.

But if you are into "game" (I don't like the term) you can use this special characteristics, no social networks or smartphone, to your advantage. If some girl asks, be very forward about your rules and your lifestyle choices. She may or may not understand, but most people will respect you. Some of them may even admire you. Many people use social networks and surfing in a way that they recognize as unhealthy. You are just doing something they have though of doing.

 

Who cares if anyone thinks its weird bro? We all deal with and experience our troubles manifesting themselves in different ways. Maybe porn has bruised your ego, keep your head up man.

 

I find myself wondering how come others are not affected by PMO as much as I am. I think other people seek their dopamine by other stuff, like loving people, being social, working on their goals, career, pets, exercise, meditation.......

I don't speak for others but I can agree that I have some hole in my life, a disappointment that I don't know how to fend off, hence I find solace in PMO, food, TV, video games and stuff.


The moment we find happiness in loving and helping others, taking care of ourselves (diet, engaging ourselves in meaningful pursuits, working out.....) we might feel less compelled to PMO as we might be satisfied by doing things other than PMO. That is my hope.

 

That's exactly what I've found!

I've been slowly changing things like that... Better eating, exercise, making a point to ignore my phone and talk to people.

Some days I feel my life is missing things. But I have a feeling that with patience I can get a few more things on track, and then the momentum will balance it out.

Maybe it's a combination of small wins as well as the memory of how much being entrenched in this habit sucks.

 

I agree. Facebook is trash.

 

I don't think it's weird. The internet and social media is so common place now, but not too long ago it was still a novelty. I mean the internet boom only started in the late 90s and early 2000s. Social media is fairly 'new' as well when you think about great innovations (I mean the lightbulb has been around for more than a hundred years). The only reason it looks weird to not be on social media and other platforms is because it's so common place (i.e. it's built into our lives).

I don't think the negative impacts of porn are nonsense either. Porn in many respects has been promulgated as 'something that guys do' (and girls too). This delusion has done a lot of guys a disservice - at least I feel it has. We were never taught to question this 'harmless passtime'. Unfortunately, research into the negative impacts of pornography hasn't caught up with the pace of freely available porn. Thank goodness that there is good research being produced on the cognitive, emotional and behavioural impacts of pornography.

I think being honest with the girls you meet about your lifestyle choices is a place you can start (i.e. I don't use social media for this and this reason). If it's working for you, then that's all that matters. At least you've questioned whether what you are doing is harmless or detrimental for you. I used to think porn was harmless until I had to really assess myself. I'm very glad I did because porn for some of us is not harmless.