Do you use social media?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Davyfreedom, Jan 24, 2020.

Do you use social media?

  1. Yes, every day.

  2. I check them only 2-3 times a week.

  3. No, I deleted them.

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  1. Davyfreedom

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    I'd like to do a poll to see how many of you guys use social media. I don't get out a lot and use it as a poor substitute to socialize. Please be honest, there is no judgement here. Feel free to explain your poll choice.
     
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  2. juniormelville

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    The first time I used Facebook it felt like I'd been on drugs. I finished looking around Facebook, came away from it and it was like coming out of some kind of heavy trance. My mind had been sucked into it. A bit later I discovered I could look up old friends and soon I had found nearly everyone I knew. Why did I stop?
    • Local group where I was living was full of bad feeling.
    • Seeing my family and friends posting politics, imperial war propaganda, sex propaganda and science / technology worship was getting depressing.
    • Too easy to waste time.
    • My emotions being manipulated by news stories (to me, all news is fake, whether it's official or not. It's a massive delusion, the political delusion).
    • Feeling desire for approval when people like or respond to my posts.
    • It takes me further away from my body and senses.
    I see young people getting wired into it so it becomes part of their subjective reality. It's like a collective wish-fulfilment fantasy in uncontrolled feedback. I've seen a four-year-old who can speak English but not his own language. Teenagers trudging around staring at their phones, fixated on who 'likes' them. Even my parents talk about what happens on Facebook as if it's real. What does it do to their psychological makeup? Their experience of self? Nobody knows yet.
     
  3. Priceless

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    Yes I use it, but only for positive things, the only people I follow on instagram are positive people and help me focus on my goals. It's better to get out of the house than to use social media.
     
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  4. Der Drachenkönig

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    Yes. I have been on Facebook since 2008, but i mostly use it to chat with friends even to this day. These last two years however i don't get on much, if only to see if someone has texted me to talk. I also have instagram but i only follow accounts with stuff about psychology, science and all things similar so there's no danger in there.
     
  5. skaterdrew

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    The content on social media sites can be just as arousing to me as what is categorized as porn sites. Which means if it is just as arousing to me as what is categorized as porn sites then it is just as damaging as porn sites, and if I constantly search for images and videos of attractive women on social media for an erotic buzz then the exact same thing is happening in the brain as when I search for what is categorized as a porn site, and it is also the exact same behaviour.

    So what this means is the social media site is porn to me to. My brain can't tell the difference between one being a social media site and one being a porn site, it's just all porn to my brain, and I imagine this is the case for most guys.

    Trying to go on social media sites and deliberately not search for these images and videos and deliberately not masturbate to them is far too difficult for me, and I am bound to fail sooner or later trying to do that. Probably sooner rather than later. So I avoid social media completely.

    But please don't think your not relapsing on porn if you relapse on a social media site and not a porn site, as the exact same thing is happening in the brain and it is the exact same behaviour.

    It's all porn to the brain.

    Like when does the porn switch turn on in the brain? When the woman starts getting naked? When the women starts getting fucked? Or has the porn switch already been turned on when you first start getting sexually aroused at that social media image, at that porn video? There is no porn switch. Basically what I am saying is the brain can't tell that one thing is porn and the other thing isn't porn, all it can tell is this is arousing me. So your getting aroused by artificial sexual stimulation, and you keep searching for more of it. So this is sexually conditioning and it can be desensitizing. You don't want to be getting sexually conditioned to artificial sexual stimulation, you want to be getting sexually conditioned to a real woman in real life. You should be getting turned on when you start kissing and cuddling a woman in real life, when you know you're about to have sex in real life. That should be a sexual cue and you should start feeling sexually aroused. But what has happened is a lot of guys have sexually conditioned them self to artificial sexual stimulation on high speed internet, so they're becoming sexually aroused when they search that porn site, when they search that social media site, rather than actually becoming sexually aroused when they're with a real woman. Then another part is because of the level of sexual novelty that man is masturbating to and the extreme hardcore and weird porn they're masturbating to they also become desensitized.
     
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  6. Kligor

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    I deleted instagram profile about 2 years ago,i still have facebook but i don't use that.
     
  7. Interesting reflection. That's why today I only use WhatsAPP.
    Facebook, news, only violence and scandals. I got tired!

    I want to life the real life!!!
    (I want to live real life)
     
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  8. Uncomfortably Numb

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    I cancelled my Facebook account as it also felt like an addiction... approval seeking, voyeurism etc.

    I remain on Twitter to follow sport and news
     
  9. Liba689

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    Yeah, come to think of it! You are right!
    The brain can't distinguish between a social media site or a porn site. If you're using social media to look at models e.g. IG models, you will most likely end up being on the verge of a relaspe. Real talk
     
  10. Johnny Bozo

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    Daily but I wanna cut way back.

    No longer on my birth name tho
     
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  11. Johnny Bozo

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    But social media isn't just for fapping.

    However I am seeing more and more butt displaying cosplay girls.

    Always trying to get you to pay them on Patreon or the latest give me money platform.
     
  12. Johnny Bozo

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    Nice
     
  13. magic05

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    For me it's not the arousal, but the sexual jealousy. On social media I'm all of the time confronted with pictures of happy relationships, girls that I have a crush on and so on. I get so jealous and then many times turned to porn as an outlet.

    I try to minimize social media, but I need it for work and staying in touch with friends.
     
  14. juniormelville

    juniormelville Fapstronaut

    Yes, a lot of people flaunt their relationships on social media. I always found that distasteful. Especially at times when I was lonely. It doesn't seem healthy for their relationships either. Why should they have to advertise it?
     
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  15. blademaster87

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    Social media is fucking disgusting.
     
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  16. juniormelville

    juniormelville Fapstronaut

    The only account I had was with Facebook. I hadn't looked at it for over a year but now I have finally deleted it.
     
  17. The best decision!!! We need to live real life!
     
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