Does anybody else have this problem?

Hi Trey,

Thanks for the post. A few thoughts -

I don't know if there's anything wrong with you or not.

Sex doesn't have to be an orgasm. It may sound stupid but women and men enjoy intercourse at all levels. There are women out there who love being with their SO, but don't always get off. But if it reoccurs often then it might be a different story. Real sex, I mean the really good stuff comes when there is an emotional connection. She's digging you and your digging her. IMHO - it's then when you let go and are more interested in her than yourself. Sex is interesting in the fact - the more you give, the better it is for the giver.

The only way you'll know if not orgasming is porn induced is to give up the porn. For me, it's like - do I want to fap watching a screen or would I rather share this experience with someone I really like and enjoy it together.

Porn is just like the movies - The sex is obviously real, but the actors are being paid to act. At the end of the scene, they walk away from each other like nothing happened.

In fact even worse, some porn actresses report terrible things happening on set... Anal tears, pain, gagging, bleeding and so on. So those videos when someone is out of control writhing around, screaming from an over endowed man may not be pleasure.

Best wishes, post often and as I always say "grow into the person you want to be."

PS- I'm an emeritus moderator - and I added a mild trigger warning for others who might have a difficult time with your post. No offense intended my friend.

Cheers,
HG

 

Dude. You must be young.

That said, when I was 23-24, some years back, I couldn't come either when getting it.

I was already hooked on porn, but young enough to get wood.

things did not progress well from then.

My $0.02.

 

You gotta quit before it takes over. Seriously. This is one of the first thing that happens. It's downhill from here.

 

Absolutely nothing is wrong with you physically. Probably, at least not in relation to this. Porn is a hyper-stimulant. Hyper-stimulants pretty much always have negative effects (unless used carefully), by over stimulating natural systems, creating unbalanced cycles and resource usage (like what happens when vitamin c is depleted in a body..). Be it over stimulating a body with hidden sugars (ie refined corn syrups) which over stimulate the pancreas, leading to eventual exhaustion of it and some diabetic symptoms, with an exaggerated hunger cycle also caused by it by its alteration of body sugar and fat storage cycles. Promoting obesity.

Some other variants are excitotoxins. Hyperstimulant of specific nerves/neural pathways, that are chemical in nature.

Porn is the same thing but to the dopamine and reward systems. It can steer you and alter physical responses and even choices in subtle ways to steer you toward that dopamine fix. In some ways its a little bit like what that fungus that can take over ants brains is like. It starts to take over, and then it literally starts to steer and manipulate, through behavioural alteration, the ant for its own reproduction cycle when its finally done consuming and destroying it.

Porn is somewhat in someways comparable to demonic possession, possession by base forces and drives found in nature, our natures as beings, extrapolated from another perspective. Implying it was 'let in' when you first started using porn and fell for its sweet invitations.

All of that implies ultimately that there is hope, and it can be fixed.
The fine print on that though is another question. How long will it take, how complete etc etc etc only time will tell.
But it starts with no-PMO, from what I see.


Edit - just realised that saying nothing is wrong and then describing how it makes things wrong with you seems contrary. Rather I think of it in terms of we use these things to build ourselves and influence our lives, our better understanding of these things, on a 'truer' level (because there is a difference between 'should know better' and 'doing better'), leads to us constructing our selves and our lives in ways we find more fulfilling/healthier/less illusions/falsehoods.

Paracelsus- What is health to the body, morality is to the emotion, wisdom to the soul and reality is to the spirit.

 

I don't understand this or agree with it.

So, you used to be a moderator but you still have the power to insert, delete or change our posts? How can that be right? Either you are a moderator or you are not. You cannot go around using special powers when you feel like it. You should have them removed. Do other ex-moderators do this?

 

Heh. I've had a few instances of getting a BJ from hot girls and couldn't orgasm. It happens if I already orgasmed that day, or if they don't do it a certain way. There is a big psychological part too: If it's not abundantly clear she's enjoying it, then it's kind of a turn off. So there is a lot of variables that affect it.

 

I have had similar issues - Why? Because I am addicted to porn and nothing short of ridding it from my life will ever work to solve these problems. Continued use of porn will only make things worse for me.

 

I have had similar problems with my PIED and this shit haunts me till today.
However, now I know the root cause and how to cure it. I found out why I often went soft during a blowjobs and during penetration.
It's all caused by stress, porn and masturbation.

Porn: for rewiring your brain into sick fetishes so you are unable to get and stay horny of just seeing and touching a vagina.

Masturbation: because you have been jacking for so many years and now your brain can only let you orgasm if your dick is held in a certain matter and grip.
men tend to use a firm grip whilst jacking of and no vagina or mouth can emulate this, so you go soft.

Cure: The cure is obviously doing a hard no pmo for at least 90 days straight.
nobody can tell you how long it will take for you to cleanse yourself, but you know there is no other way to heal yourself from this sickness.
No matter how long it takes, just keep away from porn and masturbation.

 

I had this one too.
I couldn't come when i had sex with a real girl or when i got head from one. I quickly realized that it had to do with my porn consumption and that i fucked myself up by watching porn.
I can only recommend you to stop and take some action because it can only get worse.
Have a clear vision of a better life and then decide what to do.

 

I have heard a lot cases like this but I haven't experienced this myself.