does anyone else not feel like a man but a man child ?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Islanders190, Mar 23, 2017.

  1. Islanders190

    Islanders190 Fapstronaut

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    it was cause of paige sex tape I was so mad I let lust get the best of me I wont be googling wwe anymore. but thanks man I hear you and thanks for everyone relpying on this post ! I bet alot of people fapped when they found out about paige


    QUOTE="Nigel19841984, post: 789225, member: 111589"]Did Paige's sex tape ruin your NoFap? Me too, I felt pathetic and ashamed after and did feel like a man child. But i'm 4 days into re-booting and feel a bit more like a man. Plus there's nothing wrong with trying to find your way in the world so try not to be too hard on yourself. You're 26 not 80, you've still got a lot of living to do. :)[/QUOTE]
     
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  2. Islanders190

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    just a few days last relapse and Binge was Friday. I had 21 days last Monday
     
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    I hear you man I guess that's a part of becoming a man just learning along the way. thanks for the reply !

     
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    thanks for the solid advice ! your wise for your age. back when I was in high school especially senior year all I wanted to do was have fun. my friends would talk about the future like college plans etc and I didn't want to hear about it. they even said how I don't talk about planning for college and where I'm going to attend etc they said I don't care. you know how society says you need to have x,y,z to be a man ? I guess that type of stuff that the media puts out is still programmed in my subconscious mind which is why I sometimes think and feel the way I feel

     
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  5. Islanders190

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    hey man I really appreciate your response. you took time out of your day and it means alot. as for college I graduated last year with a BA in psychology but I don't know what to do with it.
    I do alot of inner work reading,journaling, listening to podcasts, audio books to better myself. I only stop and revert back to my old habits when I relapse on nofap or alcohol. then my life becomes a disaster.
    as I mentioned to someone on this post I think alot of why I don't feel like a man is because the media says you need to have x,y,z and be x,y,z and look like x,y,z to be a man. I can get into a habit of comparing myself to others. like this person gets girls easy when I don't get any. my old high school friends or people my age have cars, have their own place, have 9 to 5 jobs and I don't.. I tend to compare myself to them and I have to stop it


     
  6. Islanders190

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    I hear you brother I think I will start off small and work my way up. I could not agree with you more on alot of the stuff you said. especially the part where you said I don't progress in my life because I don't need to. I never thought of it like that. my dad had a health issue that was life and death back in December and I felt that I needed to take responsibility of my life because god forbid something happens to him. I was very motivated and determined but as his surgery was successful and he came back home and life at home returned to normal I slipped back into my old self

     
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  7. MarkedProgress

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    Regarding the BA in Psychology, you could continue in this field, getting Master degree in counseling/psychotherapy or other branches of psychology. You could go into selling, learn/get a Master degree in Marketing. If you choose to go into selling, you'll learn how to sell yourself.

    Knowing how to sell yourself it's an invaluable skill that will help you your entire life.

    Another thing you can do is start volunteering to different NGOs/foundations related to psychology: child care, autism/down syndrome, working with elderly, etc. This will help you open your eyes if you choose to go on the path of counseling and psychotherapy. You will build relationship with those people, and when you have started the Masters degree/or after you have finished it you will be able to get a job by having connections there already. --> This is important in any field you're choosing, build good relationships anywhere you go, by doing volunteer work, you will have an easier time getting a job.
     
  8. lostandfound

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    Im in a similar situation. Since you dont have much going on for yourself now is the time to do the necessary groundwork to becoming the person you want to be. People are in a hurry to turn into adults that they often get trapped in a job they dont like with a family they werent really ready for and a ton of expenses to pay. You are fortunate to be given time to reflect on what you want to do and who you want to be. The time to pursue interests that a typical adult life wouldnt allow. If you feel that you are stagnating in life then maybe you are past this stage and should start setting up goals and figure out the steps you need to take to reach those goals. Everybody goes their own pace and its just going to bring you grief comparing your life to others. Explore what the world has to offer, dont let pride get in the way (stay humble), and make the most of what you've got.
     
  9. Don Gately

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    "When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things."

    1 Corinthians 13:11
     
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  11. I never related looking at p-subs and masturbation to this verse. how true. I got to be an adult.
     
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  12. SupBruh

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    These are the issues at hand, man. Forget about NoFap - set some real goals and begin working on them. Most of the time we browse for porn not because we are horny as shit but because we are bored of sitting in a room all day. You might as well have spent that time surfing the Internet, browsing social media, playing video games, watching YouTube... Whatever helps you kill your time.

    Don't worry about your streak. Worry about real progress... Once you get going and fill up your day with work and quality leisure time you'll forget about PMOing. :emoji_thumbsup:

    You should definitely move out. If you're going to university... That may mean a dorm. That may mean choosing a university that's located far enough that you can't just commute from home.

    When I first lived alone as an eighteen year old, I definitely changed. Began cooking for myself, doing my own laundry, cleaning up the place... Began taking studies seriously, began going out, working on making connections. Didn't know about NoFap back then but my PMO cut back severely.

    Then I moved back and after a while I became my old self. Then I got a girlfriend, but she turned out to be an extension of my mother so living with her didn't make me any more independent... So much for that.
     
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  13. Mankrik

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    Thats good advice in theory but it just dosen't make sense to pay thousands of dollars for a lower standard of living. I will strive to be independent, I already buy my own groceries make my own food and do my own laundry. I am also got a job im starting this summer and have around seven grand in savings already. My plan is to live with my folks until I can afford to buy my own house in a couple years. Move out and hopefully have a girlfriend. It will be best for me to live on my own asap but it just makes more sense to live at home in the short term.
     
  14. Just turned 22 a couple of months ago and I feel the exact same way. I have friends with CAREERS and I'm working a minimum wage job barely surviving in these streets. Procrastination is something I'm too familiar with. I'm also tending to blame other others for the mistakes that I've caused in my life. But I will get back on my feet and focus on what's important in my life. I know I was put on this earth for a lot more then what I'm doing with my life right now.
     
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    This ends today. ;)
     
  16. MyNameIsX

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    There are plenty of people who have good jobs, live with long term partners, have children, own a home etc. However, they don't know a single thing about actually looking after themselves. They can't cook a meal, they can't wash their own clothes, can't dress themselves, they let their partner make all their decisions for them. Don't compare yourself to other peoples surface deep appearances.
     
  17. aingdk11

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    Used to thing like that until i choice to move to another island when i 25yo and living my own have a foreign ex girlfriends.new friend.new experience in life last time i thought i cant make it that far but dont underestimate human power you u should try it to bro!
     

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