Does giving oral sex count as a relapse?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Quiet-dancer, Mar 1, 2018.

Would this count as a relapse for me?

  1. Yes

    0 vote(s)
  2. No

    17 vote(s)
  1. Quiet-dancer

    Quiet-dancer New Fapstronaut

    So I'm 30 days deep into no PMO (despite my badge saying just PM), and my SO is getting fairly restless. I wanted to ask you all if giving oral sex counts as a relapse. My intention of rebooting is to break the habit of porn and actual make the effort for real sex again, but I'm not sure if this looks like a cop-out.
    Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!
  2. steveo2312

    steveo2312 Fapstronaut

    I think it would be helpful to complete the 90 day reboot first
  3. antn

    antn Fapstronaut

    I have to say, I think I'm one of the least knowledgable people on this board on the whole rebooting process. But I think this would be a good thing to do. You want to overcome your addiction to enjoy real sex again. And this whole rebooting thing is quite tough on your SO. I think it would be a good gesture.
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  4. ZenAF

    ZenAF Fapstronaut

    Part of reboot is rewiring. Means you don't just starve out the PMO-neurons, you should make new connections at the same time. Connecting sex with a real partner is a great thing. Do the things you want to do for the rest of your life, stop the ones you don't, is a good rule of thumb.
  5. DemonSemen

    DemonSemen Fapstronaut

    I’m of the mind that the rebooted shouldn’t be using his/her sexy part for pleasure. For guys that means your magic wand does not go in a mouth, a vag or a dirty posey. For women no stroking or stuff in the love lotus. Intimate touching and all that is good. I think it’s good to try to avoid O as much as possible.

    If your lover is not Rebooting though, give them the Big O. It’s healthy fun and builds intimacy.
  6. Eh, depends on the style of NoFap.

    If hardmode, then it is a relapse. If not then you are fine.
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  7. Foxhole

    Foxhole Fapstronaut

    Wow, it so simple and wise. Thats exactly what i try to do, but I never stated it as clear as you did. Its totally zen as fuck :D
  8. ontheroadat40

    ontheroadat40 Fapstronaut

    I second what Foxhole said. A clear succinct and straightforward approach to what can be a confusing and angst-ridden process! Thank you for your wise words, ZenAF!

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