Does giving oral sex count as a relapse?

I think it would be helpful to complete the 90 day reboot first

 

I have to say, I think I'm one of the least knowledgable people on this board on the whole rebooting process. But I think this would be a good thing to do. You want to overcome your addiction to enjoy real sex again. And this whole rebooting thing is quite tough on your SO. I think it would be a good gesture.

 

Part of reboot is rewiring. Means you don't just starve out the PMO-neurons, you should make new connections at the same time. Connecting sex with a real partner is a great thing. Do the things you want to do for the rest of your life, stop the ones you don't, is a good rule of thumb.

 

I’m of the mind that the rebooted shouldn’t be using his/her sexy part for pleasure. For guys that means your magic wand does not go in a mouth, a vag or a dirty posey. For women no stroking or stuff in the love lotus. Intimate touching and all that is good. I think it’s good to try to avoid O as much as possible.

If your lover is not Rebooting though, give them the Big O. It’s healthy fun and builds intimacy.

 

Eh, depends on the style of NoFap.

If hardmode, then it is a relapse. If not then you are fine.

 

Wow, it so simple and wise. Thats exactly what i try to do, but I never stated it as clear as you did. Its totally zen as fuck

 

I second what Foxhole said. A clear succinct and straightforward approach to what can be a confusing and angst-ridden process! Thank you for your wise words, ZenAF!