No, he doesn't and I haven't already made up my mind. I'm just trying to gauge whether the whole voyeur fetish thing is still porn addiction related or should be dealt with differently. It is a very difficult situation and we have been through hell for the past 7 years since I discovered his porn addiction. Is there enough respect left is hard to say. I know most partners struggle to have any respect left for there partners who are PA's especially when it's all entangled in lies... I'm not someone who believes PA's can't change and overcome there addictions. Just like anyone with an addiction it takes acceptance you have a problem and determination to beat it. I understand that there's nothing I can do to change him only he can do that and he has to want to and to put the recovery work in himself. I believe he does want to...we have been married for 21 years and have 3 children...Other than his whole porn addiction problem, he does treat me well and is a very gentle, affectionate and loving person and I do respect him for that. Thanks Mark and yes, I am thinking of and taking care of myself too....best wishes on your journey.