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does reboot influence you to go after women who you otherwise wouldn't pursue if you weren't horny?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Runtilmylegsdropoff, Nov 10, 2017.

  1. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    Does Nofap cause influence you to pursue women (or men) that you otherwise probably would not pursue if you weren't so horny? How can we make better decisions so that our sexuality doesn't get the better of us?
     
  2. Aiyoshi

    Aiyoshi Fapstronaut

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    No.
    Seek God first and all the things needed will be added to you.
     
  3. SolitaryScribe

    SolitaryScribe Fapstronaut

    nofap isn't alcohol dude.
     
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  4. Mankrik

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    It absolutely prompts me to pursue women. I asked my crush out and although she said no, I was happy I did it and never would have gotten there without nofap. The longing not just for sexual release but just companionship has grown very strong while on nofap. I don't pursue girls with the intentions for just sex or go for "low hanging fruit" just because I'm horny though. I try and talk to girls I am interested in long term in a friendly manner. Nofap has made me a lot braver when talking to girls, but has also taught me patience and discipline. Still waiting to find the right person to start something more meaningful and long term; prior to nofap I didn't have the courage to talk to any girls at all.
     
  5. an0nym0u5

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    I'm guessing it should, but I have not experienced any change (day 67) in pursuing (which sounds disgusting/demeaning/sickening to me) women. I still only respond to women when spoken to, never striking up a conversation even at work.

    It has increased my sexual objectification of women, even for women I would normally not be interested in being with.

    Full disclosure: I still struggle to find any benefit to Nofap :(
     
  6. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    I dont understand. Do you mean youre pursuing women you dont find attractive?
     
  7. Yanis

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    I am bisexual and it's interesting to find out that the longer the MO-abstinence is the more I have the desire to be with a woman.
     
  8. Third_Eye

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    I think it helps you to be more naturally attracted to women in real life.

    I don’t think a girl will avoid you if you’re not a horny sex freak
     
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  9. an0nym0u5

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    I'm not pursuing women that I find attractive any more than I did before.
    I am generally objectifying women more than I did before, even one's I'm not attracted to.
     
  10. I have noticed that trying to NoFap (not necessarily succeeding but reducing PMO) just removed that hazy low-libido state i was in when i wasn't on my computer. I think it just helps you pursue the ones you would normally go after, while PMO addiction on the other hand helps ignoring the need to find an SO , making up excuses to discourage yourself from flirting with someone or postponing the act of approaching someone you like.

    So in a few words no, you don't pursue women you don't like, you are just more honest with yourself and feel that "need" more intensely so you are more likely to flirt with someone you are attracted to. ("need" doesn't refer only to sex)
     
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  11. Gotham Outlaw

    Gotham Outlaw Fapstronaut

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    I don't pursue women I'm not attracted to. I find real women attractive again.
     
  12. lamstronger

    lamstronger Fapstronaut

    I guess being on nofap makes you less thirsty and you stop making desperate people mistakes and actually appreciate women as people
     
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  13. Actually, I think it makes you more "thirsty" for the all the things you can do with your SO, sexual or not (not just the sex and O part), and it frees you from that compulsion to just O every day or multiple times a day no matter the circumstances or the means to do so (in a few words, you stop being desperate)
     
  14. kingpietro

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    It gives you a " radar" bassicly you're body tels you that is a good mate. Wich means even hot girls (babes) who you used to jack off might not be interested at all. Quiting porn and masturbation will reveal you're true "taste of woman".

    when you are using porn every girl is hot because you are as horny as hell.

    I've had girls who are bassicly models big boobs nice ass but i didn't like them because it wasn't my type wierd isn't it or maybe it isn't? maybe it was suposed to work like that.
     
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  15. I disagree, when you are using porn you are not horny, exactly because of porn. That's because your brain is wired in a way that only porn gets you horny and normal girls don't.
    Porn makes you numb, not horny. That's why things like DE and ED appear.
    Porn also makes you addicted to O, but that's not the same as being horny, you're just addicted to the dopamine released in your brain when you O and crave it constantly.
     
  16. Gotham Outlaw

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    This describes me back when I was a PA almost perfectly.
     
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  17. phwrancesco

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    it did for me, and was funny!
     
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  18. Runtilmylegsdropoff

    Runtilmylegsdropoff Fapstronaut

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    Elaborate?
     
  19. phwrancesco

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    at a moment i was annoying every girl till i finally got one!
     
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  20. Runtilmylegsdropoff

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    After how many tries before you caught the one?
     

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