Does sex mess up your nofap?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by coolmike87, Jun 23, 2014.

  1. coolmike87

    coolmike87 Fapstronaut

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    I seem to have this new pattern. It was easy for me not to nofap when I was hooking up with my girlfriend daily. She went to rehab and I had some success about 10 days in between. My new pattern now that I can only see her on weekends is that I stop on wednesday. am fine thursday. see her friday night with no sex and am ok. but then we have sex a few times saturday night and sunday morning. i still have not fapped by monday (today) but i am dying today!!! I do have more stress on mondays with work and had a stressful night last night, but still. does sex make it harder for me to nofap?
     
  2. MelancholyWeightlifter

    MelancholyWeightlifter Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    Chaser effect I'd guess. Test spikes after sexual activity. You're kinda in limbo with this. Once a week is probably the worst frequency, not quite enough and not total abstinence. Just enough to keep you stimulated but not enough to keep you sedated. I suppose the only real solutions are either keeping your relationship platonic until she's released from rehab, or just fighting through the urges. Up to you, though I'd recommend the former.
     
  3. ponderingwonder

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    Yeah I was having the same problem for a while. Your brain has enjoyed the dopamine kick and reasons a couple days later that it wants more of the same or a replacement. So these urges are hard to fight at this time. I was seeing a lady friend only once a fortnight for a few months and during that time i discovered nofap. Due to the circumstances and the fact we would never be able to see each other more than that i ended it for the sake of shaking off porn addiction. I'm not saying do the same by any means, everyones case is different. But yeah it takes 7days for a mans testosterone levels to reach full levels after an ejaculation. A week long cycle. So I guess it is heathier to be in a relationship where you have sex at least twice a week, but I'm not sure, havent read anything about that yet..
     
  4. ruso

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    Hey guys,

    I just ended a relationship with a lady friend as well just a few nights ago. I can slowly start to feel like my balls are going to explode if I don't have sex for a month or two or through the whole 90 days. (I guess that is called hardmode)

    But for now it is all in my head. No real physical change. Or pain.
     
    Last edited: Aug 22, 2014
  5. December

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    That's weird....sex with my bf actually helps me to go without PMO longer.... maybe it's a gender thing?
     
  6. ruso

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    December,

    I'm with you there, so I don't think it is a gender thing. Now that the sex is gone, I know this reboot will be tougher.
     
  7. December

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    I realized I should clarify. I meant to say that my bf and I don't have sex often.....maybe once every teo months or so. But I think it helps me avoid pmo. i just don't like sex I guess.
     

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