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Does the desire for porn eventually completely disappear?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by boyrose, Oct 19, 2021.

  1. boyrose

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    Something I was thinking about. There are certain brain and body desires/functions that we are just born into. And because of evolution, and other things, even if we wanted to, we can not make them go away. For example: hunger, thirst, being sleepy, being horny; even the most hardcore person of abstinence will still have things like wet dreams every so often. So orgasms and sexual desire are things we can not make go away.

    There are certain addictions that we can make go away. For example, if enough time passes, we can get sugar and caffeine and even drugs like heroin out of our system so we don’t desire them anymore. But sexual desire we can not get out of our system because the brilliance of evolution put that within us for the survival of the human species.

    But like sugar and caffeine, the desire to turn on the computer and look at our favorite porn is something (if enough time passes) we can make go away right? Because unlike masterbation/sex/orgasms, porn is simply a man made thing; so therefore with enough time of not looking at porn we can get it out of our system, right?
     
  2. HitB

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    Good God, I f**king hope so. Just relapsed and feel like shit. Made it like 13 days or so. Can't seem to get past that g***amn number. Makes me SO ANGRY at myself, I just want to off the weak piece of sh*t that I am. Came here for solace and am slowly beginning to realize...I can't escape from myself. *sigh*. Guh, I'm probably not the right person to ask right now. But my answer is: I HOPE SO.
     
  3. In my experience the longer you can go without porn the less of the desire there is to watch it. During my current streak (48 days) there have been times early on where i thought about watching porn, but after the first month I found myself not even thinking about it anymore.
     
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  4. frustration is part of the process. I’ve had times where I’ve literally broke down crying after a relapse because I was so mad at myself for being so chained. The key is to remove the self-hate and belittling of yourself to yourself. These thought patterns only harm you in the long run and often are at the core of the initial use of porn anyway. That’s and just basic horniness.

    @boyrose it’s absolutely possible. The issue isn’t sexuality or sexual nature right, it’s the hyper stimulation and perversion that porn unleashes onto the mind. That and the horrific immoral human trafficking that fuels the industry, and exploitation of vulnerable and often sexually abused individuals.
    I get what your saying, can it be done? Is it possible. Absolutely it is. It requires extreme perseverance and effort that 90% of people are not willing to give. But think of that you gain if you do become one of those who fight the weakening of the mind and soul from porn. Think of how much stronger and magnetic of a person you become all around when you master the sexual desire and make it work for you on your terms and not the other way around. These things, these habits, have a way of spilling over into all areas of our life and forming that all important trait of having a “good character”. So eventually you see that NoFAP isn’t just about removing a poisonous addiction from your life, but about changing the direction of your life entirely. What you value, who you become, the way you influence those around you. It all ties together. The urges do weaken over time but the key is persistence.
     
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  5. boyrose

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    Have you ever even gone 30 days without porn? Maybe forget about master nation for now. Meaning jerk off if you want to. But just work to go 30 days (for starters) without porn and social media speedy stuff.
     
  6. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    It's really unknown rn because this is such a new issue and there just hasn't been any long term effects recorded yet. We are the guinea pigs lol.

    I can say from personal experience though that you can go from a state where porn compulsions are near impossible to resist and rebooting feels manic to a state where you don't even think about porn for weeks on end in just 10 months. My recovery isn't complete, but my relapses have been decreasing in both intensity and frequency so much that they're not much of an issue anymore.

    Porn recovery "influencers" say 3 years without porn and rewiring is the time in which it takes to completely unhook yourself, and whether they're correct is yet to be seen.
     
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  7. HitB

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    Well...I went almost all of 2015 porn free and biffed it at the end of the year (like literally December, I think). I lost a girl because I wouldn't have sex with her even though I wanted to (I have a weird relationship with religion nowadays), and I basically thought "Who gives a ***?" But I was masturbating a lot that year (something she pointed out...and I really had no rebuttal for...I clearly have my own sexual sins, and I've never judged anyone for theirs because I'm painfully aware of this). I think I found NoFap shortly thereafter. My absolutely best run was 55 days without porn or masturbation (99 days without porn). But that was in 2018, I believe. Last year was a pretty good year and I think I went 68 days without porn at one point. This year has just sucked. And life happens. Over and over again, life happens. And it's the getting up every time you fall down that is just so...extremely tiresome, I guess. And it eventually just seems hopeless. I've been seriously trying for 6 years now. Tongue-in-cheek trying for probably 20. I'm just tired of stepping up to the plate. But I will, indeed, keep trying. I'm in a better state of mind now and I'm not ruminating on the idiocy of my actions. Emotional posts are dumb. And I knew it as I was writing it, but I just didn't care. I'm kind of just sick of life at the moment.

    Holy Hades.
     
  8. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    Ik it's a struggle, but all of life is a struggle. This is just another weight on our shoulders we need to deal with. I may never get completely rid of this affliction, but so far, I've made sure my relapses have been decreasing in intensity and frequency. That's good enough for me, and every partner I've been with has more than agreed. As long as you're improving, I think that's something to be really proud of.
     
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  9. boyrose

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    Agreed. I think alot of people in this nofap community set un realistic goals (like a new runner saying hes going to break the 4 minute mile). And then when they realize their goal is perhaps a little to much of an undertaking they kind of just quit altogether. Meaning: some people in this community our trying to go about no pmo like they are a 35 year Buddhist monk veteran. And that's a problem because then they are guaranteed to feel like a failure.

    The way I see it. I'm 38, I'm to old for this shit. Porn and sleazy youtube videos. It's time to grow up.
     
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  10. modernstore99

    modernstore99 Fapstronaut

    Yeah constant and measurable improvement is the least anyone should do but is also the guarantor of success. Improving and challenging yourself everyday is how life works in general haha. People think NoFap is the prize, but it's actually the process of achieving your goals
     
  11. Branchman

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    In my experience desire for porn and M has decreased a lot, sometimes I feel excited and hot but it isn't the same as before. It has decreased in intencity and frecuency. It is more manageable and feels more sort of healthy. I used to confuse attraction, interaction, love, attention, validation, intimacy with urge for sexual release.
     
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  12. GodWithin

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    I had two big streaks.
    First of all - don't focus too much on days :) Just live life without porn and that's it.
    But yes, from both big streaks I can say that it goes away. But it's not really that linear. Sometimes it was like no desire for a month (first month), then urges for like a week or less and then it once again goes away, but in general it does get less intese. Especially after 2 weeks - 30 days.
     
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  13. modernstore99

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    Agreed. Days without porn and length of streaks are not that important, living life without porn is.
     
  14. Beekind

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    You can overcome the need for sex too. Monks do it all the time.

    There is nothing that the human will cannot conquer except death.
     
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  15. jw2021

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    You can certainly overcome it. I had a bad PM habit for 20+ years. I started a journey here and made up my mind I was quitting. Today I seen nudity online and I had a completely different approach to it. I was objective about what I seen and moved on. Unless we live in a bubble it is likely we are going to be exposed from time to time.
     
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  16. Jamwan14

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    Ok, here’s my take on this. So, it’s not possible that we will stop sexual desires but, as long as we keep it healthy and under control, it’s okay. Don’t overthink or complicate it. Keep things simple and don’t try to control the uncontrollable factors in your life because that will only make you feel depressed and worthless. Instead, focus on the things that you can control, like PM. These things are controllable and therefore quittable. It’s that easy man. Keep thinking positively.
     
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  17. HitB

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    Well said. I've had my ebbs and flows. Just been in a bit of an ebb for a while. But I have got back on NF after a long hiatus. Glad to be back on the bandwagon.

    You and me both, brother. You and me both.

    Reminds me of "Invictus" by William Earnest Henley. Well put.
     
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  18. Cyberpunk3000

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    It definitely does! After few months. Also a tip. Chnage the laptop and smartphone that you used to watch in. We usually associate habits with enviornment and things. So that will help as well.
     
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