Dominic 31 years old, addicted from 14 years old.

Welcome to Nofap Dominic. Wish you best of luck for your journey ahead.
You can try to find Dutch fapstronauts on the forum “international discussion”.

 

I can help you understand some parts of your porn addiction.

When you say you don't know if your straight or bi, this is actually a really common problem for those struggling with porn addiction. It's caused by a process known as desensitization, which is essentially how watching the same porn over and over again numbs the dopamine receptors in the brain, which makes you go into harder and harder genres. EVERY porn user goes through this, even in the smallest of ways. Think about it like this - there's a reason why nobody just every watches the same porn clip they're whole life; it just doesn't feel good anymore. Another way to see the desensitization process of porn is how nobody ever watches a porn video start to finish, but skips through, focusing on the body parts, scenarios, and positions they like. Excessive porn usage causes excessive porn boredom, leading one to cross the line of "safe porn" into more and more soul-damning material. Shock value and anxiety pump even more dopamine in the brain, which is why users actually go to that stuff in the first place. It has nothing to do with sexual tastes and latent desires, nothing with "repressed sexuality" or "fetishes that represent the real you" or other bullshit porn supporters say. It has everything to do with boredom, addition, thrill-seeking, and plain bad luck frankly. You went and saw some gay material cause of porn boredom, nothing more nothing less. As weird as it sounds, desensitization is a "natural" part of porn addiction. Any user who uses porn long enough, will cross that red line of "safe porn".

But don't lose hope! The desensitization process can be overcome. The key essentially is to just stop porn; DO NOT CUT DOWN! I know it sounds like a good idea, but cutting down will actually further push you down the dark side of porn, because it unintentionally reinforce the "pleasure" of porn. I am saying this not just from online readings, but my own experience. As time goes on, these messed up "tastes" will diminish. The porn neurons will unravel, healing the mind.

Now in regards to the jeans thing, I can safely say that many guys (myself included) love girls in tight jeans. But what porn does is, because of its addictive nature, and the sheer amount of it, it can INFLATE fetishes beyond what they originally were. It's linked again to the process of sensitization; just pictures and videos don't do it anymore, your brain wants more shocking stuff, which is why you prob went and bought the jeans and did the photoshop. By stopping porn your brain can heal from this.

You mentioned not having a plan. Here's mine:
-Allen Carr's Easy Way to Stop Smoking for porn (easy to find online). This gives you a"top down approach" for leaving porn as it breaks down the addiction
-Addiction Voice Recognition Therapy was originally done for alcohol addiction but basically works for anything.

Best to do the above in that order