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Don’t understand my penis...wtf!!!

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by ironmaing, Oct 29, 2019.

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  1. Oct 29, 2019 #1
    ironmaing

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    I can’t understand my penis. I’m a 34M in my prime. I lead a healthy life: exercise regularly, drink decaf coffee, limit sugar intake, no more video games, no P since 5 months, no alcohol, no drugs, no smoking. My ED comes and goes as it pleases. Some days I can get an erection easily with a girl touching it (with help of ED pills), others it lies there maybe at 70% erected or takes ages to get hard (even with ED pills). How the ffff can I get that 30% or more reliable erections?

    Tried masturbating today and also got to only 70%....wtf. So confused. I’m 34, my daily morning wood is so hard I feel I’m going to explode, but can’t get to that when with a girl or solo....

    I have been cutting stimuli for months now. I’m now about 5 months without P...I expected to have been healed by now. I can get erections some of the times with ED pills which is already progress, but want more reliable erections.

    anyone have any ideas what I can do? Maybe I’m just a long fffff rebooter
     
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  2. Oct 29, 2019 #2
    ItsInTheBag

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    You are fine, buddy. Stop stressing. For some, the complete reboot can take more than two years. Besides, your 5 months are not monk mode, in fact not what I would call a proper reboot either.

    https://yourbrainrebalanced.com/for...can-you-help-why-am-i-back-to-flatline.10271/
    https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/blo...blueprints-blog/how-long-will-my-reboot-take/

    Yourbrainonporn is a must read. Not to grill you, but now that I gave you peace of mind AND shown you that I'm a good guy :): you guys, posting every now and then the same basic questions that have been answered thousands of times (and are easily googleable, e.g. "long porn reboot") blow my mind. (I'm doing my best to keep my own frustration in check while typing this, but it's hard :D!) A little research goes a long way to keep your sanity intact.

    Another thing: "cut off P" tells me exactly 0. Did you cut all other P-subs? As in bikini pictures, instagram models, mindless FB scrolling etc.? You have guys doing monk mode for two years and still not 100%, and every now and then we get a special snowflake that has sex and masturbates (not even half-assing it, not a real reboot) freaking out.

    You're 34, with all due respect: act like it, my friend.

    Don't be surprised no one else answered you; I din't even want to, initially, but then I felt sorry for you. Your post sounds almost like trolling.
     
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  3. Oct 29, 2019 #3
    ItsInTheBag

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    From your profile: "34M. Started PMO age 10. Never had sex without ED pills. Hard mode nofap since 19-June. Enjoying the journey of rediscovery! :)"

    Serious question - was the above post I just answered trolling after all, or you simply don't know the terms?

    Hard mode or monk mode is what I am doing: looking at absolutely nothing depicting a female, not even imagining anything sexual, not masturbating, the only release being a wet-dream (which I've been waiting for, for at least two and half months now, with blue balls almost daily and afraid I'd jizz any moment in my pants sometimes out of the blue) - in other words, what we don't control.

    I don't know whether I should laugh it off or be pissed-off :). That's not even "tutorial mode".

    I've seen guys with hundreds of days on their counters, having never reset, even though they had tens of relapses.

    Come on, people...
     
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  4. Oct 29, 2019 #4
    ItsInTheBag

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  5. Oct 29, 2019 #5
    dzigi

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    Just tell me one thing. Did you quit masturbation or only porn? Without being on monk mode for like 2-3 months you can't expect big resault honestly!
     
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  6. Oct 30, 2019 #6
    ironmaing

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    Appreciate all your responses, and yes, it’s funny/ironic that I’ve been having lots of sex with PIED, but always with ED pills and sometimes takes ages to get it up. Because everyone’s journey is different, it’s hard to be prepared of what is next in that journey specially when things don’t go well, which is causing me to panic as I don’t understand what’s happening.

    I have been extremely disciplined at cutting out P as I see it as a the origin of all my problems. I will never watch P again, thought of it makes me sick.

    I’ve been trying to date my ex-gf again, but my PIED was so frustrating for her she asked me to rewire with other women, so I started dating and met a few girls. I explained everything about my PIED and managed to get an erection (always with ED pills) with a few of them and had great sex. Others I had to force the erection by using a cock ring until the PIV actually turned me on till I became hard enough to remove it.

    I understand it takes time and it seems like I am a long ffff rebooter. I just want to do the right things to speed it up and make my recovery more effective. I have selected 2 girls to rewire with, specially 1 who has been so patient. I will do no PMO now for as long as I can go without an O. This patient girl is ok with me not Oing. So I’ll try sex without O to speed up the rewiring.

    I wouldn’t care about the time if I didn’t have my ex-gf on the side waiting for me to get better so we can give our relationship another shot. I would love to have sex with her, but worried that my PIED will manifest itself. So if I can understand what are the conditions for me to get better erections (e.g. not Oing for a few days, or eating certain foods, etc) then I can try to rewire with her as part of a healthy sexual relationship.

    P.S. I have done hard mode, and will continue to do so. I have removed so much stimulus from my life: no caffeine, no P or. P subs, no alcohol, no video games, very limited M (once every 2 months), lots of yoga and exercise, healthy eating, no sugary sweets, more socializing, no smoking or drugs, avoiding looking at girls in general.

    I’m all ears if anyone has any other tips, but I’ll continue to read long rebooters stories - thank you again for sharing the link!
     
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  7. Oct 30, 2019 #7
    dzigi

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    Bro I want you to be healed but it pisses me off. You must be on monk mode to reboot. I have PIED so I know what I am talking about. No girls, no porn, no masturbation few times in 2 months and stop taking god damn ed pills. Wtfff
    You are just slowering your recovery because of Ed pills!!! This way of reboot is not going to work and i am going to tell you why! I am clean from porn like almost a year but i am not cured. Do you know why? Because I fucking masturbated often. Cutting porn is not enough. Monk mode at least 60 days. I didn't mean to be hursh but you needed one slap to wake up. Wish you like and hope to hear success story from you soon
     
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  8. Oct 30, 2019 #8
    ironmaing

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    how much rewiring have you done with real women? Not sure monk mode is the way. I’ve been reading people’s stories and it doesn’t appear to be worth it.

    I’m trying to keep close to my ex-gf, so monk mode is out is impossible
     
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  9. Oct 30, 2019 #9
    ItsInTheBag

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    It's not worth it, when their definition of monk mode is as precise as yours. For the last time, what you are doing is not in any way, shape or form, monk mode. Monks don't have sex at all - not "rare masturbation", nor "plenty of sex".

    You don't do rewiring with women. At least, not where you are at now. Monk mode is the way. You are prolonging your reboot.

    I would very much question the love of a GF that is okay with you having side-chicks. Other objections aside (not my business), why isn't she there for you to you help you with this "rewiring" if you think that's the way to do it?

    The ED pills address a totally different problem than your brain.

    Anyway...success. I think you've been given correct and factual information, based on 8 years of my experience alone and a 3.5 years stint of clean living.
     
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  10. Jul 13, 2020 #10
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    3.5 years of monk mode!?!?
     
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