Hi guys, I heard about nofap earlier this year and quit PMO 25 days ago. I don't even know if I should be here, which is why I really need your help. I am 21 years old and did PMO quite regularly every night before going to sleep (sometimes even twice a night) for a couple of years. (Can't really tell when I started watching porn, must have been something around 15, started masturbating at around 12). I have only been a handful of times with girls and it never was really successful. Last time was in october 2015, tried to have a one night stand, got hard after very long foreplay, put the condom on and boom. Lost my erection and went home. SO embarrassing! Quit PMO for a week cause I read somewhere that it helps to have success in bed (not on nofap). Then went back to MO and then to the same old PMO routine. Then I met someone in february 2016. She's really interested in me, we were texting a lot until I realized hey I could have a shot and actually go out with her and hopefully have sex. But then I remembered: I've never had successful sex and last time was so as I said embarrassing. So I thought about it and came to the conclusion that I should quit PMO for some time and then ask her out. But then I thought about it more and considered that if everything goes well it will still go wrong! Even if we'd end up in bed and even if I'd get an erection I'd probably lose it anyways, leading to another embarrassment and feeling even worse. After 7 days not PMOing I came across nofap and thought this might be my solution! I read about all the benefits it can have (higher confidence, healing ED). So I gave it a try and now I'm on day 26. But the PROBLEM is that I don't know what the PROBLEM is. I've always been a very performance-oriented person no matter whether in school or in sports. A couple of days ago I read on yourbrainonporn that rebooting won't help if you're just suffering from sexual performance anxiety. Since week 3 I fell into a REALLY big depression and I'm REALLY having big trouble with anxiety. I'm thinking and thinking and thinking about this whole thing. It's like I can just feel how unconfident and sad I am. Maybe I'm just not suffering from PIED and nofap won't help me. I mean I've never had big trouble not PMOing for some days, I'm also able to MO without P (takes longer, just need to fantasize more, but porn always made it easier). So this is why I'm now thinking: Am I right here at nofap? Or are the roots deeper than porn and I'm suffering from psychological performance anxieties? (Which would mean that I could go back to MO or PMO, because as I said most sources say performance anxiety cannot be healed by a reboot and I would have to go and see a sexual therapist or something) Also, I'm constantly thinking about whether I should ask the girl out because I really would need some success in my life. But on the other hand I'm thinking that if it fails (which is more probable) I'm gonna be even more disappointed and desperate. Hope there is someone who's gone through a comparable situation and can help me with some advice!