Don't rest the quality of your life on being porn free.

I 've seen a lot of people falling in this self -destructive mentality when being porn free is everything in their life.I see people like hitting 200 days their life is in order and they start doing big things but something happens they slip they start watching and that's it they sweep away their confidence and self esteem That slip turns into a binge and you'r back watching porn ... Don't get me wrong feeling happy about hitting 30 , 60 ,90 days or more is good and you should be proud .But there are people like me that it's just doesn't go well.So we fall in this very bad circle where quality of our lives depends on being porn free.It's okay for you to have goal to be porn free but there are more important goals out there and there is a lot of them. Don't rest the quality of your life on being porn free.Why ? Because this is addiction and addiction is categorized as losing control .Slip happens and you don't know when will you get back at porn.It's a very shaky foundation for you'r life. You can't put you'r main goal in life on something that you don't have control .You'r gambling you'r self-steam and confidence and you'r missing out a lot of things in life that way.Specially people who struggle leaving this addiction for long time ,this mentality caused more harm then this addiction .For people who struggle as me who are hitting their heads for long time and didn't get far . Take a break from being porn free but at least try to make decission not to watch porn if you can.Focus more important goals like having healthy routines and disciplines ,working out ,studying or focusing on a job, finding your passion or working on it ,finding you'r purpose in life. Starting relationships ,eating healthy. Focusing on you'r problems in life and trying to confront them. It's very important to stop watching porn but you need to realise that are more things to focus in life .Funny thing is that changing you'r focus on this things it's going to makes porn free a lot easier.


I know this is a long post but this problem is very common and this is my main problem so i wanted to get out of my chest . Maybe this streak mentality is even the reason why some are still addicts.

 

The point is that don't put leaving this addiction as a main goal in life. Because this is addiction and it's categorized as lossing control.Slip are going to happen so does relapses . I see people put this as a main goal in life they start doing healthy habits and all but when they slip they all go self loathing and sweep away all their habits and they destroy themselves with binge afterward . Why don't we just contiue with are lifes forgive our selfs and look at bigger picture. Leaving porn is not gonna fix you'r life ,fixing you'r life is going to leave porn. Addiction is symptom of problem that someone has in life..