Dont want to live

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by ProboyMate, Jul 7, 2019.

  1. TheSlyFly

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    Like I said a long time ago, did you ever do headspace? Best way impo to be introduced to meditation, that and the WIM HOF METHOD; two best ways impo, for learning great breathing exercises. Not to sure on transendence or these subgroups, as I just do what I do, if that makes sense xd don't really follow a specific program, but headspace and WHM is what got me introduced to it, then started doing visualization with lucid dreaming, as I have aphantasia.
     
  2. @ProboyMate I highly suggest you start wim hofff breathing technique and cold showers
    (it will take about a month to get used to but dont give up), it will calm you down from inside, you will feel less anxious. You have been conditioned to feel this way through all of your life experiences, and what you really need in life is a lot of positive conditioning and positive self talk! Other things that can help positive conditioning are healthy eating habits, exercise/workouts, strong desire to achieve something in life (does not matter what), unshakable faith in your own potential to achieve anything you desire! You attract whatever you think, so if you start to think positive things in life, you will take positive actions, you will attract positive minded people, and the positive feedback loops will completely change your whole life 180 degrees! Wish you best of luck in your journey :)
     
  3. TheSlyFly

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    Get the headspace app, I'm serious, it's easy and simplifies it as much as possible for you(starts at 1-5 minutes a piece, which is no time at all) WHM is only 10-15 minutes + 5m cold shower; you misinterpreted what I said about the visualization part, I have aphantasia(meaning I can't visualize at all) so when I go to sleep, I trigger lucid dreams, and I visualize there, which is a whole 8 hours you wouldn't be using regardless; so less than 30 minutes total a day! That's really nothing when you think about it!
     
  4. Kiz Whalifa

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    It's easy to recover. Just let it go. Yes, I might be coming off as a bit rude, but you aren't the first case in humanity of someone that was raised in a dysfunctional family. It's actually quite common, tbh. Let that unnecessary pain go. It's a blockage. Forgive yourself and whoever else that you can think of, and move on. As for love, focus on self-love.
     
  6. Kiz Whalifa

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    I'm literally a vet who had PTSD and GAD. Bruh, I was neglected too. I only saw my dad twice in my life, and he might not even be my real dad. Don't limit yourself. It's possible to recover, it only takes a month.
     
  7. Alex1993

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    I’m 26 man and I was going through the same thing at 25 and before that. This year I have changed my mind set I have set goals, started training, eating healthy, going over gratitude, positive affirmations and the list goes on and I don’t feel that anymore. I have purpose now. What worked for me is being grateful for things and sitting down by yourself and writing out a set plan on what you want to do. Maybe you wanted to do things when you were a kid and you never did now is your time to aim to make it reality. You can do anything you set your mind too. And man I promise you I’ve figured out I want to work with mental health and I’ve been training martial arts and I’m starting for once in my life to believe in myself and I’m dedicated to achieve my goals, of course with the help of nofap too.
     
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  8. Kiz Whalifa

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    Yep, this is it
     
  9. Kiz Whalifa

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    You gotta try harder. Directly address the issue.
     
  10. Kiz Whalifa

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    Well, learn to love again. It's still the past, you can't change it at all. What good is it to associate yourself with pain? Have you been doing mindfulness meditation? It really helps with anxiety.
     
  11. Kiz Whalifa

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    That sounds like a choice. Start with self-love.
     
  12. TheSlyFly

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    *sigh* I really wish I could recommend something that TRULY showed me self-love after self-loathing and hatred dwelled within me for a solid 8-9 years(due to a multitude of issues, barely scratched in my introduction post) which led me to trying to commit suicide on 4 different occasions, multiple ways; but I would get in trouble on here, and your parents/doctors would hate me for recommending it lol; I really hope you get through this though man.
     
  13. Kiz Whalifa

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    I would be crazier if I told you to stop feeling sorry for yourself. Who cares what your doctor says. Stop paying people to blow smoke up your ass. Look some shit up, research a bit. If you smoked weed, maybe it would help a bit. It's not the end of the world. This too shall pass, really.
     
  14. DeepParkWater

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    Youre entering your prime. Dont waste it anymore, thats the important part. Nothings owed to you but you can achieve and accomolish a lot in your lifetime if you strive grind and hustle for it.
    When i was 24 i had shitty grades probily a 2.5 and just partied all the time. After almost dying i turned shit around took the toughest courses for my major and Aced almost all of them. Did some grad program and exceled decently in that part and got a great gf during the process after not having one still i was 25. This is my story and i tell you this because i was chronically depressed at one point and decided to say fuck depression and owned up to my shit and hustled like a mad man. There are countless stories of incredibly successful people who had accomplished nothing at ages much older than you. The common trait is that they stopped letting their past haunt them and rather used it as motivation for a better future. You can do it too, you just have to be willing to put in the work
     
  15. DeepParkWater

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    There are immediate fixes in this world my friend. Which is why we run to porn and its so addicting. It took my over a year to get past depression anxiety ptsd to even move towards a healthier place. Honestly it was the culmination of determination over the course of 3 years to get and accomplish certain things i wanted at that time in my life. This is same for everyone, the most rewarding and difficult things in life are the hardest to obtain not in sheer difficulty but also in the amount of time it takes to get it.

    I dont know your particular condition but there's always something you can do and the goals you want to achieve are attainable if you work towards them. Thats my point. Ive dealt with anxiety and depression through high school college and still today. Gebetically some.people just have it worse than others. Sucka but thats how it is, but none of that matters since you cant change genetics you can only change what you can control
     
  16. DeepParkWater

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    3 years is not a quick fix thats the point. Nothing worthwhile in life is like P. Things dont magically appear out of nowhere for free and you get everything you could dream of. Hoping for that type of reward for something that valuable is nothing but foolishness. Thats my point
     

  17. In my experience, it has worked really well for me! How ever wim hof breathing and cold showers do take a lot of perseverance to practice daily and be consistent, its very powerful stuff. If you practice it and make it part of your daily routine, It will change your body from within, your immunity will increase, you will feel more alive, you become stronger and much more at peace and happier, anxiety will fade away! Please do reach out if you need to talk or need help with anything specific
     
  18. DeepParkWater

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    when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change
     
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  19. Kiz Whalifa

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    Change your way of thinking. I know whatever we say is gonna go in one ear, and out the other, but life is what we make of it. It's a choice, well, choices that we've made to get to where we are in life. You've been "suffering for 15 years", so what's next? Accept that what happened to you happened for you, and get out of your head. A lot of these stories are common, this is not different from most stories in the "Loneliness" section. This is the reverse of "Self-improvement". This is self-victimization, a one month pity party. When is something from this entire thread gonna sink in? Change is possible, binge in the "Success Stories" to see it in action. Life is all about change, stop running from it, and truly make steps towards accepting the hand that was dealt. It wasn't meant to be played like this, stop folding. Show some sleight of hand or something, play your given hand with confidence, anything. Complaining ain't gonna help in the long run. Read the entirety of this thread, all 6 pages of it, and start to question your conditioned beliefs and subconscious programming. I wish you all the best.
     
  20. Waifukiller

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    Get into cycling. Its a great escape. Hopping on a bike and pedaling your problems away sure helps with my anxiety.
     

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