Lots of people have overcome this anxiety and frustration. Your sexual values are very different from mine, but if you want to go back to your lifestyle you need to withdraw a bit from the lifestyle. Take a break. Sex is just one part of your life, focus on the other parts that make you a complete person, and later you can reintegrate sex into your routine.
"But how long, Meshuga? How long must I wait? I really love sex, I just can't wait to get back to the time where I can have loads and loads of it all over again."
That's part of the problem. I hate to get all zen on you, but you have trouble with sex because you think too much about sex. It's too high a priority. There are guys who reintegrate sex in 90 days, or 60 days, or even just a week, but the key isn't how long. It's about getting your priorities back into place. Sure, NoFap's notorious "rewire," or what more serious addicts call recovery, has a biological component with a timeline hardwired into it. However, it's mostly in your psychology, how you relate to your body and sex and the world around you in general. When you obsess about sex it becomes who you are, not a thing you do, and ironically, perversely, you can't be good at sex when sex is all you are.
Athletes can get the same way. They spend most of their waking hours obsessed with their sport, conditioning, training, watching tape, dieting, doing everything they can to be dominant in the one, hyper-specific thing they do. And yet, when they focus too hard on their sport, they get "the yips." They screw up basic maneuvers, they make fundamental mistakes, they can't ever seem to nail the complex sequences that make them successful because they mess up that one essential step. It's because they've lost the joy of their sport. Similarly, you've immersed yourself too deep into sex, prioritized it too much, given it more power over your life than it deserves.
This is the most shocking advice you're going to see all day. On this anti-porn forum, I'm going to recommend you stop watching porn. Forever. Never watch porn again. It's poison; it might not kill you but it makes your mind worse every single time you use it. For sex, we could debate the ethics of it and what sex is even for. Even if you believe sex is mostly for pleasure, though, a porn-informed paradigm IMO, taking a total break from that would help you in your overall goal.
But again, how long?
Set a time for yourself. Something that seems reasonable. I don't know if you're impulsive, and consider a week to be a long time, of if you're into hardcore asceticism and would consider 90 days, or even a year, to work on and discover yourself. Whatever it is, set a period of time and see if you can meet that time, and if you can, see how you feel after that. Experiment. Keep a journal, see how you feel about it day to day. Be amazed at how you grow, not strictly as a sexual being, but as a person with sex integrated into your being.
