Dude 23 yrs looking for AP - Need a serious change

Discussion in 'Accountability Partners' started by Jiffyy204, Nov 11, 2019.

  1. Jiffyy204

    Jiffyy204 Fapstronaut

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    So.. Ive been addicted to PMO for years but now I have to change. I feel like im in a bad spot right now. Ive been depressed for a couple years and that combined with being addicted to PMO aswell as injury/muscular problems ive gotten it has kinda broken me down.

    I dont think I have ever really commited to rebooting.. only lied and convinced myself that I was serious, knowing somewhere deep inside that im just fooling myself, Ive been too weak minded to stay on track, and I have given in to the slightest urge. Ive tried to quit so many times. I know now how shitty it has been to be addicted and how much of a negative impact it has had on my life, it's been like kryptonite to me. I dont know if abstaining from PMO or just porn is the right thing for me/best way to go about this for me. But I do know that I want to distance myself from all that is PMO.

    I need to make serious changes, in all areas or keep suffering the consequences and have my life and health steer into a dark place. I think getting a couple AP's is a good step in getting serious about this.

    My idea with APship other than keeping each other accountable is motivating each other, sharing thoughts and discussing strategies, someone to speak your mind to when your mind starts to weaken and you feel alone. I find myself reflecting and analyzing a whole lot, I enjoy discussing many of topics. Im up for communication several times a week.

    If you are of a similar age and if this resonates with you, and you feel you are in a similar situation and in need of big changes + a reboot, and/or want to improve your health, post a comment or DM me. Best of luck everyone.
     
  2. marathiman

    marathiman Fapstronaut

    Hey man. I’m looking for an AP too if you’re interested. I need help and encouragement to keep away from PMO too. And Lord knows I can use someone to be open with when I start feeling weak in my mind.
     
  3. Jiffyy204

    Jiffyy204 Fapstronaut

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    Hi marathiman, lets do it
     
  4. Coffee_lover

    Coffee_lover Fapstronaut

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  5. Jiffyy204

    Jiffyy204 Fapstronaut

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    Good
     
  6. Coffee_lover

    Coffee_lover Fapstronaut

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    Im 21 days pmo free and i enjoy it, im not wasting time fapping and look at people differently
     
  7. chimax7

    chimax7 New Fapstronaut

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    I'm 24 years old and also looking for an AP. Been trying to go pmo free for the longest of time and I feel like an AP will help a lot. If you guys still need another person for AP, please let me know!
     
  8. Coffee_lover

    Coffee_lover Fapstronaut

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    Im willing to be an AP for someone
     
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  9. ZORROW

    ZORROW Fapstronaut

    The 10 stages of rebooting.

    Stage 1
    : This is when we realize that masturbation is affecting our healthy negatively and we have a thought about quitting. However, after reading about the harmlessness theories of masturbation we are not so determined anymore, we think that masturbation in moderation should do us no harm. This is the very initial stage of rebooting which is characterized by ignorance and naivety. The result: failure!

    Stage 2: We gain a small understanding of the harmful effects of masturbation, but not a thorough understanding. The result: failure!



    Stage 3: We begin to study other peoples’ experience of rebooting and we try to break our rebooting record. Although we have managed to set a new record on the number of rebooting days we are still unable to break out of the vicious cycle. The result: failure!


    Stage 4: This is the confusion stage, after numerous failures, we start to doubt ourselves. At this stage, we are not putting in enough of a fight, no fight no victory! The result: failure.


    Stage 5: Our body gives out signals once again and it’s clear that our health has deteriorated. Once again we make up our minds to quit and rely helplessly on the brute force method without learning about the correct methods. The result: failure.


    Stage 6: We begin to see the harmlessness theory for what it is, that it only works to trick the “children”. This is when we experience a breakthrough in our way of thinking but we still fail to understand why we are unable to quit masturbation. The result: failure.


    Stage 7: This is the stage of understanding, gained from reading vast amounts of rebooting articles, we begin to acknowledge spiritual teachings (such as Buddhism) which helps to increase our determination tremendously, we break the 100-day streak. The result: still failure.


    Stage 8: The thorough cleansing stage, we are starting to cleanse ourselves both consciously and unconsciously. Once this idea has entered our subconscious we easily break the 200-day barrier. There may come one day when we are browsing the internet and have our guard down or we have been slack in our rebooting studies, we therefore stumble near the finishing line. The result: still failure.


    Stage 9: We are almost there now and have become even more careful, our understanding takes on another level. We are no longer affected by dirty thoughts, what we see do not enter our intentions, what other people sees and like we react with caution. We are steady in our heart even amidst rough winds of thoughts. We have discarded the habit of masturbation altogether.

    Stage 10: “Nothing to begin with, how can nothing stir the dust”. We have come to the highest stage where all things returns to simplicity, just as the “sweeping monk” from Jin Yong’s martial art novels. Great skill is hidden in plain site, this is only achieved by the Master. Tips: Everyone should be able to find their current stage in rebooting, just like in video games we have our levels, once we have reached that level success will come. If our level of understanding is not there we will have a hard time to quit masturbation, for a master there is no difficulty, while mastery is difficult to achieve for a layman. Hopefully, everyone will continue to study rebooting articles, the day when we find our “aha” moment is the day when we can walk away from masturbation for good. For the few bright people with keen minds, they are able to skip over stages just as a bright student is able to skip grades and the poor student will need to remain in the same grade.
     
  10. chimax7

    chimax7 New Fapstronaut

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    I'll dm you!
     
  11. Coffee_lover

    Coffee_lover Fapstronaut

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    Ok
     

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